10/27/2025
Ta**ra was never meant to be a tool to uphold the patriarchy. In fact, Ta***ic teachings have historically been deemed evil for the fact that they honor the Goddess as equal to God.
Patriarchy, as I am using it, is defined as a social system in which the primary positions of authority are held by men, in the areas of political leadership, moral authority and control of property.
If you open the actual Ta***ic texts or drop into actual embodiment practice, you will never find teachings telling men to “lead” and women to “surrender.”
What you will find is the dance of Śiva and Śakti (consciousness and energy). These are principles that live within every being, not gender roles meant to control relationships.
“Ś𝙞𝙫𝙖 𝙞𝙨 𝙪𝙣𝙖𝙗𝙡𝙚 𝙩𝙤 𝙨𝙩𝙞𝙧 𝙬𝙞𝙩𝙝𝙤𝙪𝙩 Ś𝙖𝙠𝙩𝙞, 𝙖𝙨 𝙖 𝙘𝙤𝙧𝙥𝙨𝙚 𝙬𝙞𝙩𝙝𝙤𝙪𝙩 𝙗𝙧𝙚𝙖𝙩𝙝.” (Saundaryalaharī, v.1)
Yet polarity coaches distort this into: “𝘛𝘩𝘦 𝘮𝘢𝘴𝘤𝘶𝘭𝘪𝘯𝘦 𝘭𝘦𝘢𝘥𝘴 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘧𝘦𝘮𝘪𝘯𝘪𝘯𝘦 𝘴𝘶𝘳𝘳𝘦𝘯𝘥𝘦𝘳𝘴.”
“𝙒𝙞𝙩𝙝𝙤𝙪𝙩 Ś𝙖𝙠𝙩𝙞, Ś𝙞𝙫𝙖 𝙝𝙖𝙨 𝙣𝙤 𝙥𝙤𝙬𝙚𝙧. 𝙄𝙩 𝙞𝙨 𝙨𝙝𝙚 𝙬𝙝𝙤 𝙘𝙧𝙚𝙖𝙩𝙚𝙨, 𝙨𝙪𝙨𝙩𝙖𝙞𝙣𝙨, 𝙖𝙣𝙙 𝙙𝙞𝙨𝙨𝙤𝙡𝙫𝙚𝙨 𝙩𝙝𝙚 𝙬𝙤𝙧𝙡𝙙.” (Kularnava Ta**ra, Ch. 2)
Distorted into: “𝘛𝘩𝘦 𝘧𝘦𝘮𝘪𝘯𝘪𝘯𝘦 𝘪𝘴 𝘳𝘦𝘤𝘦𝘱𝘵𝘪𝘷𝘦, 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘮𝘢𝘴𝘤𝘶𝘭𝘪𝘯𝘦 𝘩𝘰𝘭𝘥𝘴 𝘢𝘭𝘭 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘥𝘪𝘳𝘦𝘤𝘵𝘪𝘰𝘯.”
“Ś𝙞𝙫𝙖 𝙞𝙨 𝙩𝙝𝙚 𝙖𝙗𝙤𝙙𝙚, Ś𝙖𝙠𝙩𝙞 𝙞𝙨 𝙩𝙝𝙚 𝙢𝙤𝙫𝙚𝙢𝙚𝙣𝙩. 𝙒𝙞𝙩𝙝𝙤𝙪𝙩 𝙝𝙚𝙧, 𝙝𝙚 𝙞𝙨 𝙗𝙪𝙩 𝙖 𝙘𝙤𝙧𝙥𝙨𝙚 (ś𝙖𝙫𝙖)” (Śiva Saṁhitā, 1.35)
Distorted into: “𝘛𝘩𝘦 𝘮𝘢𝘴𝘤𝘶𝘭𝘪𝘯𝘦 𝘪𝘴 𝘱𝘳𝘦𝘴𝘦𝘯𝘤𝘦 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘤𝘰𝘯𝘴𝘤𝘪𝘰𝘶𝘴𝘯𝘦𝘴𝘴, 𝘵𝘩𝘦𝘳𝘦𝘧𝘰𝘳𝘦 𝘩𝘦 𝘮𝘶𝘴𝘵 𝘤𝘰𝘯𝘵𝘢𝘪𝘯 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘦𝘯𝘦𝘳𝘨𝘦𝘵𝘪𝘤 𝘧𝘦𝘮𝘪𝘯𝘪𝘯𝘦.”
“𝙄𝙩 𝙞𝙨 𝙗𝙮 𝙪𝙣𝙞𝙤𝙣 𝙤𝙛 Ś𝙞𝙫𝙖 𝙖𝙣𝙙 Ś𝙖𝙠𝙩𝙞 𝙩𝙝𝙖𝙩 𝙩𝙝𝙚 𝙬𝙝𝙤𝙡𝙚 𝙪𝙣𝙞𝙫𝙚𝙧𝙨𝙚 𝙖𝙧𝙞𝙨𝙚𝙨, 𝙖𝙣𝙙 𝙗𝙮 𝙩𝙝𝙚𝙞𝙧 𝙨𝙚𝙥𝙖𝙧𝙖𝙩𝙞𝙤𝙣 𝙞𝙩 𝙙𝙞𝙨𝙖𝙥𝙥𝙚𝙖𝙧𝙨.” (Ta**rasadbhāva, 1.87)
Distorted into: “𝘗𝘰𝘭𝘢𝘳𝘪𝘵𝘺 𝘪𝘯 𝘢𝘯 𝘳𝘦𝘭𝘢𝘵𝘪𝘰𝘯𝘴𝘩𝘪𝘱 𝘰𝘯𝘭𝘺 𝘦𝘹𝘪𝘴𝘵𝘴 𝘸𝘩𝘦𝘯 𝘮𝘦𝘯 𝘴𝘵𝘦𝘱 𝘪𝘯𝘵𝘰 𝘵𝘩𝘦𝘪𝘳 𝘮𝘢𝘴𝘤𝘶𝘭𝘪𝘯𝘦 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘸𝘰𝘮𝘦𝘯 𝘪𝘯𝘵𝘰 𝘵𝘩𝘦𝘪𝘳 𝘧𝘦𝘮𝘪𝘯𝘪𝘯𝘦.”
“𝙏𝙝𝙚 𝙂𝙤𝙙𝙙𝙚𝙨𝙨 𝙞𝙨 𝙫𝙚𝙧𝙞𝙡𝙮 𝙩𝙝𝙚 𝙬𝙝𝙤𝙡𝙚 𝙪𝙣𝙞𝙫𝙚𝙧𝙨𝙚. 𝙊𝙛 𝙝𝙚𝙧 𝙛𝙤𝙧𝙢, 𝙩𝙝𝙚𝙧𝙚 𝙞𝙨 𝙣𝙤 𝙚𝙣𝙙.” (Devī Māhātmya, Ch. 1)
Distorted into: “𝘛𝘩𝘦 𝘧𝘦𝘮𝘪𝘯𝘪𝘯𝘦’𝘴 𝘥𝘦𝘦𝘱𝘦𝘴𝘵 𝘱𝘭𝘦𝘢𝘴𝘶𝘳𝘦 𝘪𝘴 𝘴𝘶𝘳𝘳𝘦𝘯𝘥𝘦𝘳𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘵𝘰 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘮𝘢𝘴𝘤𝘶𝘭𝘪𝘯𝘦.”
“𝙎𝙝𝙚 𝙞𝙨 𝙩𝙝𝙚 𝙛𝙞𝙧𝙨𝙩 𝙘𝙖𝙪𝙨𝙚, 𝙚𝙩𝙚𝙧𝙣𝙖𝙡, 𝙖𝙣𝙙 𝙩𝙝𝙚 𝙬𝙤𝙢𝙗 𝙤𝙛 𝙖𝙡𝙡 𝙬𝙤𝙧𝙡𝙙𝙨.” (Tripurārahasya, Ch. 10)
Distorted into: “𝘛𝘩𝘦 𝘧𝘦𝘮𝘪𝘯𝘪𝘯𝘦 𝘳𝘦𝘲𝘶𝘪𝘳𝘦𝘴 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘮𝘢𝘴𝘤𝘶𝘭𝘪𝘯𝘦 𝘵𝘰 𝘨𝘪𝘷𝘦 𝘩𝘦𝘳 𝘮𝘦𝘢𝘯𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘥𝘪𝘳𝘦𝘤𝘵𝘪𝘰𝘯.”
In the source texts, Śakti is the initiatrix.
She moves first.
She leads the dance of creation.
Śiva without her is inert,
pure potential with no expression.
𝐓𝐚𝐧𝐭𝐫𝐢𝐜 𝐓𝐞𝐚𝐜𝐡𝐢𝐧𝐠𝐬 𝐚𝐫𝐞 𝐜𝐥𝐞𝐚𝐫: 𝐟𝐞𝐦𝐢𝐧𝐢𝐧𝐞 𝐩𝐫𝐢𝐧𝐜𝐢𝐩𝐥𝐞 𝐢𝐬 𝐧𝐨𝐭 𝐬𝐞𝐜𝐨𝐧𝐝𝐚𝐫𝐲 - 𝐢𝐭 𝐢𝐬 𝐩𝐫𝐢𝐦𝐚𝐫𝐲.
This is a world apart from how much of modern “polarity coaching” frames things.
What we often see today is a fusion of Jungian archetypes (animus/anima), patriarchal social coding, and heteronormative relationship coaching, dressed up in Ta***ic language.
Out of that mix comes the distortion and control under the mask of spirituality.
Who are the ones defending this distortion with the most vigor?
The men and women who profit the most from perpetuating patriarchal conditioning.
But this is not Ta**ra.
In fact, it is everything that Śakti will burn down, again and again.
This is a distortion that will never stand in the flames of truth.
True Ta**ra teaches union, not hierarchy.
The polarity of Śiva and Śakti is not about human gender dynamics and never was.
It is about the union of stillness and movement, consciousness and energy, silence and sound (cosmic principles that dissolve into oneness when realized within).
Ta**ra, as the texts actually say,
begins with Śakti leading.
Always.
-Sarah Gorman