Marvelus

05/22/2026

The thing that makes me the angriest about all of this is that most women genuinely believe the numbness is personal.

Like they failed somehow.
Like their body betrayed them.
Like they’re broken.
Like they “just don’t have desire anymore.”

Meanwhile they spent YEARS being trained out of themselves.

Trained to suppress their hunger.
Their truth.
Their instincts.
Their aliveness.

Trained to be likable.
Easy.
Pleasant.
Selfless.
Needed.

And then we act shocked when women hit midlife and feel disconnected from themselves?

OF COURSE THEY DO.

You cannot spend decades abandoning yourself and still feel fully alive inside your body.

That doesn’t make you broken.
It makes you conditioned.

And honestly, once you really SEE it, you can’t unsee it.

and I went DEEP into this conversation on this week’s episode of The Sensual Sisterhood Podcast.

If this reel made your whole body go “oh f**k…” go listen to the episode next.

The link is in my bio 👆
xo,
Marta

05/18/2026

A lot of women think they “lost themselves” because of aging, hormones, stress, motherhood, marriage, responsibility, or perimenopause.

And yes, those things matter.

But what almost nobody talks about is the years of self-abandonment that came before the numbness.

The years of overriding your body.
Swallowing emotions.
Ignoring your hunger.
Performing instead of feeling.
Living in your head instead of your body.

Eventually your system adapts.

Not just by shutting down pain…
but by shutting down pleasure too.

That flatness so many women feel in midlife?

It is not proof that you’re broken.
And it is not the end of your aliveness.

Your body can reconnect.
Your desire can return.
Your pleasure can deepen.
Your capacity to feel can come back online.

But you do not think your way there.

You feel your way there.

That’s why I created The Return.

Not as more information.
As an experience.

A way back into your body, your truth, your pleasure, and the parts of yourself you thought were gone forever.

Start there (link in bio - or comment “RETURN” and I’ll DM it to you)

05/14/2026

05/14/2026

Most women can tell you exactly what their partner likes.

What turns him on.
What mood he’s in.
What pace works for him.

But when it comes to your own pleasure?

You go blank.

You say things like “connection” or “romance” because nobody ever taught you how to actually read your own body.

Nobody taught you to notice:
what kind of touch opens you.
What makes you tense.
What pace your body responds to.
What turns you off immediately.
What makes you feel safe enough to soften.
What makes you feel fully fu***ng alive.

Instead, you were taught how to be desirable.
How to be accommodating.
How to perform.
How to move at someone else’s pace.

So now you’re trying to access deep pleasure while disconnected from yourself.

And it doesn’t work.

Your body is not a machine.
You cannot pressure it, override it, ignore it, and expect it to open.

That disconnection doesn’t just affect sex.
It affects your confidence.
Your radiance.
Your aliveness.
Your ability to feel.

That’s why I created The Return.

To bring you back into your body.
Back into sensation.
Back into relationship with yourself.

Because pleasure does not begin with a partner.

It begins the moment you stop abandoning your own experience.

The Return is $33.
Start there.
Link in bio.

05/13/2026

I think a lot of women assume they’ve “lost themselves” when what’s actually happened is much quieter than that.

You’ve overridden yourself so many times that your body stopped expecting to be listened to.

And eventually?
That affects everything.

Your desire.
Your energy.
Your openness.
Your pleasure.
Your relationship with LIFE.

The body is intelligent.

If your system never gets to:
• slow down
• soften
• rest
• say no
• feel
• receive
• want
…eventually it stops opening.

Not because you’re broken.
Because your body adapted.

This is why The Return exists.

Not as another thing to achieve.
As a way back into yourself.

Find the link to access it in my bio — or comment “RETURN” 👇 and I’ll DM it to you.

💋, Marta

05/12/2026

I really thought being “low-maintenance” made me evolved.
Less needy.
Less emotional.
Less complicated.
Less work.

I thought it made me a GOOD partner.
A desirable woman.
A mature woman.

Meanwhile?
I was slowly disconnecting from my own wants.

Because when you become too easy to accommodate, eventually you stop checking in with yourself altogether.

What do I want?
What feels good to me?
What pace does my body want?
What actually turns me on?

And here’s the part I REALLY wish more women understood:

Female desire is incredibly responsive to your conditions.

And if your body has spent years learning:
• your needs don’t matter
• your feelings are inconvenient
• your pleasure comes last
• being easy is safer than being expressed

…why WOULD desire flourish there?

That’s what this week’s podcast episode is really about.

Not “how to boost libido.”

Why desire disappears in the first place.

Why so many women feel numb, flat, or disconnected.

And why trying harder usually makes things worse.

🎧 “Your Desire Isn’t Gone. Your Brakes Are On.”
Linked in bio.

05/07/2026

You keep trying to “get there.”

Trying to feel more.�Trying to turn yourself on.�Trying to make the moment happen.

And the harder you try…
the further away it feels.

Not because something is wrong with you.
Because your body was never designed to respond to pressure.

But that’s what most women were taught.

That pleasure is something you:�achieve�perform�build toward

So you stay in your head.�Monitoring.�Assessing.�Trying to create the “right” response.

While your body quietly stops opening.

And after a while…
it starts to feel like:�maybe your desire disappeared�maybe your body is broken�maybe you’re just not that woman anymore

But your turn-on didn’t disappear.

It got buried underneath pressure, performance, and the constant need to get somewhere.

The shift happens when you stop trying to force the experience…
and actually learn how to stay inside it.

Don’t move past this.

Start The Return.
Link in bio.

05/06/2026

Most women are trying to access desire through pressure.

Pressure to respond.
Pressure to feel something.
Pressure to speed up.
Pressure to “get there.”

And the more pressure you apply,
the further away your body gets.

Because your body is not a machine.

It’s not designed to respond on command,
ignore context,
skip anticipation,
or bypass emotional and physical sensation just because you want it to hurry up.

But that’s exactly what most of us were taught to expect from ourselves.

So instead of noticing the subtle beginning of desire…
we override it.
Rush it.
Question it.
Monitor it.
Push for something bigger before the feeling even has a chance to build.

Then we call ourselves disconnected.

The truth is:
most women have never been taught the conditions their desire actually needs in order to unfold.

And that changes everything.

That’s why The Return exists.

Not to teach you how to “perform” pleasure better.
But to reconnect you with the parts of yourself
that pressure has been drowning out.

Comment RETURN
or click the link in my bio to access it
💋 Marta

05/06/2026

You’ve probably had moments where you thought:
“Why can’t I just relax?”
“Why can’t I fully enjoy this?”
“Why am I still so in my head?”

And the answer usually isn’t:
because something is wrong with you.

It’s that you were taught to monitor yourself
instead of experience yourself.

To be likable.
Easy.
Pleasant.
Desirable.

To pay attention
to how you were being perceived…
instead of paying attention
to what was actually happening
inside your body.

So now,
even when something feels good,
part of you is still observing yourself from the outside.

Wondering:
Am I doing this right?
Do I look okay?
Shouldn’t I feel more by now?

That constant self-monitoring disconnects you
from intimacy,
joy,
rest,
desire,
aliveness,
and pleasure itself.

Not because you’re incapable of feeling.
But because you were never taught
how to stop watching yourself long enough
to actually experience what’s happening.

That’s why I created The Return.
Not as another thing to achieve.
But as an experience
that helps you reconnect
to sensation,
presence,
and the parts of yourself
you’ve spent years hovering above.

Comment RETURN 👇
or click the link in my bio.

05/05/2026

You weren’t taught how your pleasure works.

You were taught how to be:
liked
chosen
easy
low-maintenance

But no one taught you:
how desire actually builds in your body
what turns it on
what shuts it down
what you’re doing—without realizing it—that interrupts it

So now you’re trying to solve a problem
you were never given the instructions for.

And you keep reaching for explanations like:
hormones
aging
“this is just how it is now”

No.

You don’t have a desire problem.

You have an education gap.

You don’t know what to look for.
You don’t know what to follow.
You don’t know what matters and what doesn’t.

So of course it feels inconsistent.
So of course it feels like it disappeared.

You’ve been guessing.
Inside a body that runs on signals you were never taught to read.

That ends now.

Comment RETURN and I’ll send you the exact place to start.
Or go to the link in my bio and get inside it now.

Then go listen to the podcast if you want to understand what’s been happening.

But don’t sit here nodding and doing nothing.

This is the part where you actually learn your body.

💋 Marta (+ Barbara)