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The Sober Sessions - Joel Anthony, Boston, MA (2026)

01/01/2026

There are only hours left in 2025.

Just pause on that for a second. Really sit with it. An entire year — gone. Not in theory. In real time. Every moment you lived, every choice you made, every night you thought you wouldn’t make it through… all of it led you right here.

Think about what you survived this year. The things that tried to break you. The weight you carried that nobody applauded. The moments you wanted to quit, disappear, numb out, or go back to old habits — and somehow… you didn’t.

Some of you stayed clean when it would’ve been easier to fold and nobody would’ve blamed you. Some of you showed up for your family while fighting wars in your own head. Some of you learned the hard truth that real growth isn’t loud or glamorous — it’s quiet, lonely, uncomfortable — and you kept going anyway.

And if this year broke you in places, good. Because broken ground is the only place new roots can actually grow. If this year humbled you, good. Pride can’t follow you where purpose is taking you. And if this year refined you — stripped you, exposed you, challenged you — that wasn’t punishment. That was preparation.

You don’t need a perfect ending to this year. That idea is a trap. You just need an honest one. An ending where you tell the truth about who you are now versus who you were when this year started.

So as the clock runs out on 2025, take a breath. Give yourself credit — real credit. Then step forward without dragging the weight of what almost destroyed you. Some things don’t belong in the next chapter.

New year. New standards. Same heart.

Finish strong.

— j. anthony |

12/31/2025

It’s Wednesday.
December 31st.

Day 365 of 365.
One full year in the books.

Let that land for a second.

Everything you survived this year.
Everything that tried to take you out.
Every moment you didn’t think you’d make it through — and somehow did anyway.

As we step into 2026, I need you to really hear what I’m about to say. Not scroll past it. Not nod and forget it tomorrow. Sit with it.

Quitting isn't an option when you’re chosen.

And being chosen doesn’t mean life gets easier. Most of the time, it means the opposite. More pressure. More resistance. More tests. More moments where quitting feels logical and continuing feels insane.

Chosen people get stretched.
They get isolated.
They get misunderstood.

Because purpose isn’t handed to people who fold under discomfort. It’s forged in the ones who keep going when it would make sense to stop.

If this year broke you in ways you didn’t expect — good.
If it stripped you, humbled you, forced you to rebuild — good.

That wasn’t random.

You weren’t overlooked.
You weren’t forgotten.
You weren’t punished.

You were being prepared.

Quitting now would mean walking away right before the version of you that can actually handle what’s coming next. And that’s the trap — most people quit at the threshold. They mistake resistance for rejection.

But resistance is confirmation.

So as the clock turns and 2026 begins, don’t make promises you won’t keep. Don’t fake motivation. Don’t chase hype.

Just decide one thing:

You’re not quitting.

Not on yourself.
Not on the work.
Not on the calling that keeps tapping you on the shoulder when you’re tired.

You didn’t come this far by accident.

And you didn’t survive this year just to stop now.

You’re still here for a reason.

Love Y'all 💜 Stay Raw. Stay Real. Stay Relentless.

— j. anthony |

12/30/2025

This morning, I want you to sit with a question we usually rush past.

Not answer it fast.
Not dress it up.
Actually sit with it.

“What’s your New Year’s resolution?”

Most people reach for goals they think they should want. More money. Bigger wins. Louder lives. And there’s nothing wrong with ambition — but sometimes ambition is just noise wearing a suit.

Here’s the truth I had to face:

I don’t even know what my big goal is for 2026.

And that’s okay.

Because the one thing I know I want — the thing I’m not negotiating anymore — is peace.

Real peace.

Not the fake kind you post about. The quiet kind. The kind that lets your nervous system unclench. The kind where you don’t replay conversations at 2 a.m. The kind where your thoughts don’t attack you the second the room goes silent.

I don’t want chaos disguised as excitement.
I don’t want arguments mistaken for passion.
I don’t want overthinking passed off as productivity.

I want calm days.
I want nights where sleep comes easy.
I want a life that doesn’t feel like it’s constantly bracing for impact.

That’s not quitting on life.

That’s choosing sanity.

Peace doesn’t mean small dreams. It means clear priorities. It means you stop feeding what hurts you. It means you protect your mind the same way you’d protect your body.

And here’s the thing nobody tells you — peace is a goal you have to practice. You don’t stumble into it. You choose it. Daily. Sometimes hourly. By walking away sooner. By saying less. By letting things go that used to hook you.

So if you’re asking yourself what you want this year, don’t answer with what sounds impressive.

Answer with what feels necessary.

If it’s peace — honor that.

Because a peaceful life isn’t boring.

It’s healed.

— j. anthony |

12/26/2025

Let me flip something on its head, because most people don’t realize they’re addicted to this.

Talking about our problems can become our greatest addiction.

Think about it. How fast conversations slide into complaints. Stress. What’s wrong. Who hurt us. What’s broken. What we’re struggling with this week. We bond over suffering. We rehearse it. We keep it alive by constantly replaying it out loud.

And listen — talking about problems has a place. Processing matters. Honesty matters. Healing matters.

But there’s a line.

When all you talk about is what’s wrong, you start training your brain to live there. Your identity quietly attaches itself to the struggle. You stop noticing anything good because the problem becomes the headline of your life.

That’s when it turns into an addiction.

Not to pain — but to familiarity.

The brain loves patterns, even painful ones. Especially painful ones. They give you something to hold onto, something to explain yourself with, something to lead every conversation.

But here’s the challenge — break the habit.

Start talking about your joys.

Talk about the small wins. The moments of peace. The progress nobody clapped for. The things that made you laugh today. The ways you’re growing, even if it’s slow.

That doesn’t mean pretending everything’s perfect. It means choosing where your attention lives.

Because what you talk about, you strengthen.
What you repeat, you reinforce.
What you celebrate, you multiply.

When you shift the conversation, you shift your nervous system. You remind yourself that life isn’t just something to survive — it’s something to experience.

So yeah… process your pain.
But don’t worship it.

Tell me what’s going right.
Tell me what you’re grateful for.
Tell me what brought you joy.

That’s not denial.

That’s balance.

— j. anthony |

12/26/2025

Let me be blunt for a second, because this is holding a lot of people hostage.

“I’m scared to post because I’m worried about what other people think.”

That fear isn’t random. It’s conditioning.

You’re scared because you’re imagining judgment — but here’s the part nobody tells you: you’re already being judged. Always have been. Always will be.

The difference is who you’re letting sit in the judge’s seat.

Most of the loud judgment you’re afraid of doesn’t come from people building anything. It comes from people watching. Scrolling. Commenting. Critiquing from the sidelines because they’re not brave enough to put themselves out there.

Meanwhile, the quiet winners of the world — the people actually doing the work, taking risks, failing forward — they’re not judging you for trying.

They’re judging you for hiding.

They see the hesitation. The self-censorship. The excuses dressed up as humility. And they think, Man, if this person only knew how little the noise mattered.

Here’s the truth that frees you: judgment is unavoidable.

If you post, you’ll be judged.
If you don’t post, you’ll still be judged.
If you try, you’ll be judged.
If you stay small, you’ll be judged.

So the real question isn’t how do I avoid judgment?

It’s this:
Who do you want to be judged by?

People who never take a shot?
Or people who respect the courage it takes to step up?

People who criticize from comfort?
Or people who understand the cost of putting yourself out there?

Once you accept that judgment is the entry fee for doing anything meaningful, fear loses its grip.

Post anyway.
Speak anyway.
Show up anyway.

Because the only judgment that should scare you… is the one you’ll give yourself for never trying.

— j. anthony |

12/26/2025

God, I’m learning to trust You… even when I’m tired of waiting.

That’s a hard sentence to say out loud, because waiting sounds passive. It sounds weak. But anyone who’s been there knows waiting can be one of the hardest things you’ll ever do.

Waiting stretches you.
Waiting exposes your impatience.
Waiting forces you to confront the parts of yourself that want control, certainty, and answers right now.

Most of us don’t struggle with faith when things are moving. We struggle when nothing seems to be happening. When prayers feel unanswered. When days stack up and the silence gets loud.

But silence doesn’t mean absence.

Sometimes God isn’t saying no — He’s building something in you that couldn’t exist if things moved faster. Strength. Endurance. Discernment. A deeper trust that isn’t based on outcomes, but on relationship.

Waiting strips away the illusion that you’re in charge. And that’s uncomfortable. Because when you can’t force progress, you have to surrender. You have to keep showing up without guarantees. You have to trust without timelines.

That’s real faith.

Not the kind that believes when everything lines up — the kind that stays when you’re exhausted, discouraged, and still choosing obedience.

If you’re tired of waiting, that doesn’t mean you’re failing.
It means you’re human.

And the fact that you’re still trusting, still praying, still holding on — even when it’s hard — that matters.

You’re not being delayed.
You’re being prepared.

Keep trusting.
Even here.

— j. anthony |

12/26/2025

Don’t tell me prayer doesn’t work.

I’ve heard that argument. I get the skepticism. People want proof. They want something measurable, something they can point to and say, that’s why. Fine. I’m not here to debate philosophy.

I’m here because I’m still breathing.

And that’s not an accident.

There were moments in my life where I shouldn’t be here. Moments where logic said I was done. Where strength ran out. Where willpower wasn’t enough. Where everything I thought I could lean on collapsed.

Prayer is what kept me standing when nothing else did.

Not because it magically erased the pain. Not because everything suddenly got easy. But because when I had nothing left, I still had somewhere to go. Someone to talk to. Something to hold onto when my own mind was dangerous.

Prayer didn’t remove the storm.
It anchored me in it.

It gave me clarity when I was lost.
Restraint when I was reckless.
Hope when the future felt closed off.

And here’s the thing people miss — prayer isn’t about escaping reality. It’s about surviving it. It’s about humility. About admitting you don’t have all the answers and you don’t have to carry everything alone.

You can call it faith.
You can call it surrender.
You can call it strength.

I call it the reason I’m still here.

So no — don’t tell me prayer doesn’t work.

Because I’m living proof that it does.

— j. anthony |

12/25/2025

Let me say this plainly, because this one saves people years of confusion.

Never let someone who isn’t obeying God tell you how to live.

That doesn’t mean you think you’re better than anyone.
It means you’re paying attention.

Advice carries the weight of the life it comes from. Every word is shaped by someone’s values, discipline, priorities, and alignment. So when you take direction from people who aren’t living with purpose, humility, or obedience, you don’t just borrow their opinions — you inherit their blind spots.

And most people never stop to question that.

They let broken guidance shape their decisions.
They let unhealed people define their boundaries.
They let loud voices override quiet conviction.

That’s dangerous.

Because someone can sound confident and still be lost. Someone can be persuasive and still be disobedient. Someone can speak boldly and still be completely disconnected from truth.

God doesn’t guide through chaos.
He doesn’t lead through ego.
And He doesn’t speak through people who refuse to listen themselves.

When you start obeying God, something shifts. You become less reactive. Less desperate for approval. Less influenced by opinions that don’t align with where you’re being led.

You stop needing permission from people who never carried your calling.

Not everyone deserves a vote in your life.
Not everyone gets access to your decisions.
And not every opinion is wisdom.

If their life contradicts their advice, listen carefully — or don’t listen at all.

Stay anchored.
Stay discerning.
Stay obedient.

Because clarity comes when you stop letting unaligned voices steer a life they didn’t build.

— j. anthony |

12/25/2025

Here’s a truth that’s hard to swallow when you’re in the middle of it.

Sometimes a blessing comes from betrayal.
Sometimes help shows up wrapped in hurt.

And I know how that sounds. When you’ve been lied to, abandoned, or blindsided by someone you trusted, the last thing you want to hear is that it meant something. In the moment, it just feels like damage.

But time has a way of revealing what pain was actually doing.

Betrayal strips illusions. It exposes who people really are — and sometimes who you’ve been pretending they were. It forces clarity you wouldn’t have chosen on your own. And clarity, even when it hurts, is a form of mercy.

Hurt has a strange way of redirecting us. It pulls us out of places we stayed too long. It breaks attachments that were quietly draining us. It pushes us toward growth we kept postponing.

That doesn’t make the pain good.
It makes it useful.

God doesn’t waste anything.

Not the loss.
Not the disappointment.
Not the tears you cried in private.

He uses all of it.

The betrayal that woke you up.
The heartbreak that strengthened your boundaries.
The setback that rerouted your life toward something healthier, deeper, more aligned.

You don’t have to call it fair.
You don’t have to call it easy.

Just know this — what tried to break you might end up being the thing that built you.

God uses all things.

— j. anthony |

12/25/2025

I think something happens as you get older — and nobody really warns you about it.

Your Christmas list gets shorter.

Not because you don’t want things anymore… but because the things you actually want can’t be bought.

When you’re young, it’s easy. Toys. Gadgets. Clothes. Stuff you can unwrap. Stuff that gives you that quick hit of excitement. And there’s nothing wrong with that — it’s part of the magic.

But somewhere along the way, the shift happens.

You stop wanting more stuff… and start wanting more meaning.

You want peace.
You want time.
You want health — for yourself and the people you love.

You want conversations that matter. Laughter that feels real. A table where everyone actually wants to be there. You want memories you can feel, not things you can replace.

You want the people who are no longer here to somehow still be present. You want moments back that you didn’t appreciate when you were younger. You want forgiveness. Closure. Healing.

None of that comes in a box.

And that realization doesn’t make Christmas smaller — it makes it deeper.

You start noticing the quiet moments more than the noise. The way the room feels instead of what’s under the tree. The fact that someone showed up — not what they brought.

As you grow, you realize the real gifts were never things.

They were people.
They were moments.
They were mornings you got to wake up for.

So yeah… your list gets shorter.

Because the things you want now don’t have price tags.

And that’s not loss.

That’s perspective.

— j. anthony |

12/25/2025

Even on your best days… pray.

Not just when life is falling apart.
Not only when you’re desperate.
Not just when you’ve hit the bottom and need a lifeline.

Pray when things are going right.

Because the best days can quietly turn into the most dangerous ones if you forget where the strength came from. Success has a way of making people believe they did it all on their own. Comfort makes us careless. Momentum can turn into pride if you’re not paying attention.

Prayer keeps you grounded.

On good days, prayer isn’t asking — it’s acknowledging. It’s gratitude. It’s perspective. It’s remembering that the same God who carried you through the storm is the one letting you breathe easy right now.

Pray when you’re winning.
Pray when you’re smiling.
Pray when you feel strong.

Not because you’re afraid of losing it — but because you respect what it took to get there.

Prayer on good days keeps your heart humble. It keeps your priorities straight. It reminds you that peace isn’t something you earned alone — it’s something you were carried into.

So yeah… even on your best days, pray.

That’s how you stay steady when life starts moving fast again.

— j. anthony |

12/25/2025

Here’s a way to think about it that actually makes sense.

Prayer is when you talk to God.
Meditation is when you listen to God.

Most people are really good at the first part. We talk. We ask. We unload. We explain. We bring God our problems, our fears, our wish lists, our desperation. And there’s nothing wrong with that — that honesty matters.

But listening?
That’s harder.

Because listening requires stillness. It requires shutting up the noise. It requires sitting with yourself long enough for the distractions to fall away. And most of us aren’t used to that. Silence feels uncomfortable in a world that never stops talking.

Prayer is pouring your heart out.
Meditation is opening your hands.

One is expression.
The other is reception.

And when you only talk but never listen, you miss the guidance that doesn’t come in words — the nudge, the clarity, the conviction, the calm that settles in when you finally slow down.

Meditation isn’t emptying your mind. It’s creating space. Space for wisdom. Space for direction. Space for answers that don’t shout — they whisper.

When you combine the two, something shifts.

You stop approaching life reactive and rushed. You start moving anchored. You start noticing what feels right and what doesn’t. You begin to recognize the difference between fear, ego, and intuition.

Talk to God.
Then sit quietly long enough to listen.

Because sometimes the answer isn’t spoken.
It’s felt.

— j. anthony |

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