Skylark Somatic Therapy

10/08/2025

When you crave closeness but fear it too, you’re not confused — your body is remembering. 🌿

These are somatic memories — traces of past pain stored in the nervous system. The mind may not recall every moment of loss or rejection, but the body still recognizes the sensations of danger.

So when you long for connection and suddenly feel yourself pulling away, it isn’t weakness or avoidance. It’s your body making contact with memory — protecting you from what once hurt.

✨ Healing begins by noticing these reactions without shame and gently showing the body that safety can exist in connection.

10/03/2025

Calm isn’t created by doing more. It’s the state your body naturally returns to when it feels safe.
🌿 Somatic practices can gently guide your nervous system back into that window of safety.
✨ Download my free guide, Coming Home to Your Body, for simple ways to begin.

10/02/2025

Perfectionism tells us to try harder, do more, and earn our place in the world. But self-worth doesn’t come from striving.
🌿 It’s found in allowing yourself to exist as you are, without proving anything.

✨ You are already enough.

09/30/2025

When your nervous system reacts quickly to stress, it can feel like you’re “too sensitive.” But your body isn’t overreacting — it’s remembering.

Trauma teaches the body to remain vigilant, even long after the danger has passed.

✨ You’re not broken. You’re carrying the imprint of what you’ve been through — and healing is possible.

Download my free guide, Coming Home to Your Body, for gentle tools to support nervous system healing. http://subscribepage.io/zBEiur

09/26/2025

Your window of tolerance is the range where your nervous system can manage stress without becoming overwhelmed. But trauma can shrink this window, leaving you swinging between hyperarousal (fight/flight) and hypoarousal (freeze/shutdown).

🌿 The good news: your window can expand with practice.
Try these five gentle ways to return: notice your cues, ground through the senses, connect with safety, move gently, and take a micro-step.

Remember — this isn’t about quick fixes. It’s about slowly teaching your body that safety is possible.

✨ Download my free guide "Coming Home to Your Body" for more somatic practices.

09/23/2025

Many trauma survivors live outside their “window of tolerance.”
👉 When hyperaroused, the body feels anxious, restless, or overwhelmed.
👉 When hypoaroused, the body may feel numb, frozen, or disconnected.
Healing involves learning to gently widen this window—so safety, connection, and presence become more possible.

09/18/2025

Toxic stress shows up in more than our bodies — it impacts our relationships.

When your nervous system is stuck in a state of hyperarousal (fight/flight) or hypoarousal (shutdown), even minor stressors can feel overwhelming. Trauma narrows your window of tolerance, leaving less room to cope before emotions or the body take over.

Here’s what often happens:

Survivors ignore their body’s cues.

They try harder, suppress feelings, and criticize themselves.

Partners, not understanding, may accuse or blame — fueling shame.

This cycle isn’t a sign of weakness. It’s survival. And it’s not permanent.

🌿 With education and somatic tools, it’s possible to widen your window of tolerance, restore connection, and respond with more compassion — to yourself and to others.

✨ Download my free guide, Coming Home to Your Body, for practices to support your nervous system. http://subscribepage.io/zBEiur

09/12/2025

Stress isn’t always bad — it helps us rise to challenges. But when stress is constant and overwhelming, it can become toxic, reshaping both body and mind.

👉 Over time, toxic stress fuels inflammation, weakens the immune system, and makes it harder to cope with daily life. For those with trauma histories, this cycle often begins in childhood, when the absence of stable, supportive relationships leaves lasting imprints on the nervous system.

This isn’t weakness — it’s survival. With awareness and gentle practices, healing is indeed possible.

🌿 Watch this short video to learn more, and download my free guide, "Coming Home to Your Body," for somatic tools to begin calming your nervous system. http://subscribepage.io/zBEiur

09/03/2025

Whether we meet here in my office or connect online, this space was created for you.

For the women who’ve spent a lifetime holding it together…
For the ones who keep going, even when they feel anxious, numb, or disconnected…
For those who wonder if their struggles are “bad enough” to count.

This isn’t a space that asks you to repair what was never your fault.
It’s one that invites you to come home to yourself—gently, and without judgment.

At Skylark Somatic Therapy, I work with high-achieving women navigating the quiet aftermath of relational trauma: perfectionism, emotional dysregulation, chronic anxiety and overwhelm, or a deep sense of inadequacy.

🌿 If you’re ready to feel more at home in your own body, I’d love to share the journey with you.

📍 Located in Branchburg, NJ | Online across New Jersey
✨ Learn more or download your free somatic guide: https://www.skylarksomatictherapy.com/

08/29/2025

Relational trauma isn’t always loud.
Sometimes, it’s quiet.
A silence that echoes.

It’s not just about the moments that hurt.
It’s about the moments that never came.
The confusion–the emptiness.

The mother who was physically present but emotionally unreachable.
The caregiver who provided the basics but never made you feel known.
The absence of comfort when you were scared.
The praise that never followed your effort.
The tenderness that never arrived.

This kind of trauma doesn’t leave bruises—it leaves questions:
“Was I too much?”
“Didn’t I matter?”
“Why can’t I just be grateful?

These are the invisible wounds of relational trauma.
And they shape how we relate to ourselves, our partners, our children, our bodies.

But healing is possible.

When we learn to attune to the parts of ourselves that were never met with care,
When we create the safety we need but didn’t receive,
When we stop minimizing what we needed—because those needs still matter.

🌿 You don’t have to go back to the beginning to begin again.
You just have to start where you are—with compassion.

08/24/2025

08/24/2025

Many of the women I work with have spent years appearing composed, competent, and reliable—while quietly feeling disconnected, anxious, or unsure of who they really are.

They often say things like:
“I should be over this by now.”
“I just want to put it behind me.”
“Nothing feels wrong, but nothing feels quite right either.”

These patterns may not look like trauma from the outside.
But they often point to something deeper—
early emotional wounds, unmet needs, and the protective parts of us that learned to survive without closeness.

🌿 In my work, healing isn’t about becoming someone new.
It’s about reconnecting with the parts of you that had to hide—
and helping you feel safe enough to let closeness feel possible again.

✨ If this resonates, you can download my free somatic healing guide here: http://subscribepage.io/zBEiur