11/07/2021
Men, Iâve heard from many of you that you would like your woman to be more spontaneous, playful, and able to relax into the flow of life and your partnership.
What you are seeking is for your partner to be more embodied in her feminine essence.
Thatâs all well and good, and wanting your woman to be able to surrender into her feminine core is a beautiful thing.
However, are you as a masculine man able to provide the safety within the relationship container for her to be able to do so?
When it comes to an awakened woman who is actively doing her own healing work, the number one problem with not being able to relax into spontaneity, playfulness, and flow is lack of a solid, consistent masculine energy.
In our present collective reality, Iâm seeing an over abundance of men who have been crippled into a stunted version of the masculine energy and enabled into a hyper-feminized way of moving through the world and relationships at large.
A lot of men are desiring their woman to embody her feminine pole without creating a safe and sturdy container for her to do so.
These men are flighty, inconsistent, lacking direction in their own lives and their relationships, wishy washy, and lack structure, stability, commitment, and the ability to take radical responsibility.
They want their woman to soften into her luscious femininity, and yet do not see that their way of moving through the world causes their woman to harden her masculine armor.
Why?
Because you do not feel safe to her.
Because you lack structure and stability.
Because you do not provide consistency in your words and actions.
Because she does not trust that you are able to hold her in the fullness of ALL that she is.
This begs the question many feminine hearts are asking, âIf you cannot be the leader of your own life, how can I trust you to lead me in the relationship?â
If we think of the relationship as a ship on the ocean, and the masculine partner keeps steering the ship into rocky shores and stormy weather, or worse yet, does not steer the ship at all, what do we think will happen?
You can bet your bottom dollar that your feminine counterpart WILL take control of the ship.
She will take control not because she actually wants to, but because there is a void in the masculine pole and someone must fill this role.
She is fully capable of stepping into her masculine energy.
And yet, she would rather not because it is draining and exhausting to her feminine heart.
Is it any surprise that her sexual attraction to you shrivels and she begins to turn cold and dissatisfied towards you?
Your woman would much rather be able to relax and soften, to be spontaneous and playful, to flow and be abundantly expressive in her love for you and the world.
And she is only able to do this if she can trust that the ship is being safely directed to a destination that feels good to you both.
Surrendering into her feminine essence is not only your womanâs gift to you, it is also an act of courageous devotion.
It is a deep commitment to her trust in you to provide the structure, stability, direction, consistency, and safety for her to truly relax into her vibrant, feminine heart.
This trust is not something that can be blindly given.
It is a foundation that is built by both of you, with consistency, over time.
Men, it is not your fault that you did not have appropriate masculine role models in your life, and it is not your fault that your female caregivers feared abusive masculine energy so much that they taught you to be passive and to not trust in your own masculine power.
But if what you are desiring is a woman who can embody the feminine life force that is so nourishing to you, it damn well is your responsibility now to take ownership of your life, your relationship, and how you are showing up.
A woman worth her salt will not just devote her feminine heart to any man, regardless of his ability to hold her in all of her many forms and expressions, or lack thereof.
She will not feel comfortable to be with. And she will not be easy.
She will not allow you to remain complacent in your familiar ways of being.
This is a testament to the strength of her commitment to love, herself, and to you.
Her discernment in giving herself fully to a safe, awakened, masculine man is a service to you, because it shows you to parts of yourself that are not in alignment with your highest and truest potential.
Are you ready to rise to the challenge of becoming a man worthy of the full surrender of the feminine?
