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Whole Hearted Wellness, LLC

My passion to learn, explore, and help others motivates me to help you grow.

Based on my experience and education, I believe people are influenced by their biological, psychological, social surroundings and experiences.

01/22/2026

Many clients enter therapy expecting it to mean “no contact.” While safety is crucial and some relationships genuinely require distance, many of us, especially those from collectivist cultures, don’t find that the first option is the most suitable.

We’re talking about individuals who carry their families in their hearts, even when they’re hurting.

If you identify as q***r, BIPOC, neurodivergent, or come from a background where family and community ties are deeply ingrained, you deserve a therapist who can accommodate the complexities of your situation.

Such a therapist should:

- Not confuse boundaries with abandonment.
- Recognize that wanting to heal with your family is a sign of courage, not weakness.

Therapy should support your values, not erase them.

✨ You’re allowed to want repair. You’re allowed to change without disowning. You’re allowed to protect your peace without being cut off from your roots.

01/15/2026

Sometimes the “wild” things people say to a s*x therapist aren’t about shock value at all.

They come from curiosity mixed with discomfort.
From cultures where s*x was never talked about only implied, joked about, or shamed.
From not knowing how to ask questions without feeling awkward or exposed.

So when people say things that sound strange, intrusive, or even offensive, I try to hear what’s underneath:
Is this curiosity? Shame? Nervous laughter? A lifetime of silence finally cracking open?

Sexuality is one of the few places where people are deeply curious… and deeply afraid of being seen.

And when conversations about s*x feel unfamiliar, the nervous system reaches for humor, deflection, or “wild” questions just to survive the moment.

This isn’t therapy — just a reminder that curiosity isn’t the problem.
Silence and shame are.

01/13/2026

you’re incredible at caring for others but forget to eat forget to drink water, forget to sleep, or even forget your body is part of the equation

You’ll notice everyone else’s needs before your own.
You’ll push through hunger.
You’ll call exhaustion “just tired.”
You’ll survive on caffeine and good intentions.

And it makes sense.

When you grew up needing to be responsible,
attuned, helpful, or “low-maintenance,”
your body learned: I come last.

This isn’t laziness.
It’s a nervous system stuck in caregiving mode.

Care doesn’t have to be earned.
Rest isn’t a reward.
Food, water, and sleep are not luxuries.

If this is you, try starting small:
• drink a glass of water before your next task
• eat something with protein
• lie down even if you don’t sleep
• let your body be included in the plan

You don’t need to disappear to be loved.
You’re allowed to take up space in your own care.

This isn’t therapy. It’s for educational and entertainment purposes only.

01/12/2026

There’s a specific feeling that hits when a client shares how they were harmed… and how quickly they learned to minimize it.

It’s the weight of knowing how long it takes to undo that kind of damage.
How often people are taught to doubt their pain instead of the harm that caused it.
How much courage it takes to name what happened out loud.

My role isn’t to react out loud.
It’s to hold steady, protect the work, and help clients reclaim safety, dignity, and choice—especially when others couldn’t or wouldn’t.

If you’re healing from something that was downplayed, dismissed, or normalized—you’re not dramatic. You’re responding to something real.

This isn’t therapy—it’s reflection and education.

01/10/2026

These books offer language for identity, desire, family, and healing.. especially for those of us navigating q***rness within Desi cultures. They hold complexity without asking us to shrink, explain, or choose between who we are and where we come from.

If you’re q***r, Desi, and unlearning what you inherited while building something more honest, these reads are a gentle place to start.

This isn’t therapy—it’s reflection and education.

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01/09/2026

One of the quiet privileges of this work is witnessing the pride that shows up in the smallest moments.
- A client naming a boundary for the first time.
-Choosing rest instead of pushing through.
-Feeling desire without shame.
-Having a hard conversation and staying present.
-Noticing a pattern—and responding differently.

These aren’t flashy victories, but they’re profound. They reflect courage, self-trust, and a nervous system learning that change is possible.
I hold so much pride in these moments not because they’re perfect, but because they’re honest. Healing happens here, in the incremental shifts that slowly reshape relationships, intimacy, and how someone relates to themselves.

If you’re in this work, even quietly, your effort matters more than you know.

This isn’t therapy—it’s reflection and appreciation.

01/08/2026

Research shows chronic trauma heightens the amygdala (threat detection), disrupts the prefrontal cortex (impulse control, emotional regulation), and alters the hippocampus (context and memory) (van der Kolk). When someone has hyperactive or combined-type ADHD, these systems are already working harder—leading to increased impulsivity, restlessness, emotional intensity, and difficulty slowing down.

From a polyvagal lens (Porges), trauma plus ADHD can make it harder to access the ventral vagal state—the state needed for safety, connection, and intimacy. The nervous system may bounce quickly between fight/flight (hyperarousal, urgency, irritability) and shutdown (numbing, withdrawal), often without much time in regulated connection.

In relationships and intimacy, this can look like:
• Wanting closeness but feeling overwhelmed once it’s there
• Desire that feels intense, then suddenly gone
• Difficulty staying present during s*x
• Impulsivity followed by shame or regret
• Needing novelty while also craving safety

These are not character flaws. They are neurobiological adaptations.

Trauma teaches the body to prioritize protection. ADHD amplifies speed, intensity, and reactivity. Together, they can make intimacy feel confusing—wanted and threatening at the same time.

Healing isn’t about slowing yourself down unnaturally or forcing intimacy. It’s about building nervous-system safety, pacing, consent, novelty with regulation, and relationships that understand how your brain actually works.

With support, the brain remains flexible—and intimacy can become safer, more embodied, and more sustainable.

This isn’t therapy—it’s reflection and education.

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16655 W Bluemound Road, Suite 301
Brookfield, WI

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http://www.wholeheartedwellness-wi.com/

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