Communication Jon with Dr. Jon Dabach

Communication Jon with Dr. Jon Dabach Jon Dabach, PhD | Couples Counselor
Relationship Coach
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01/06/2026

Forget Big Gestures

Most couples think grand romantic moments keep a marriage alive.
They don’t.

It’s the small daily behaviors that shape the emotional climate of your home.

Here are five that make the biggest impact.
You check in every day. Not out of obligation. Because you genuinely want to stay connected.
You repair quickly when something feels off. You don’t let tension sit and harden.
You offer warm affection. The kind that says you’re safe with me and I’m here.
You speak appreciation often enough that your partner never wonders if you see them.
You create simple rituals. Coffee together. A quick moment before bed. Something that anchors you both.
You don’t need to be perfect. You need to be consistent.

The nervous system responds to repetition. Get these five right and the whole relationship shifts. Toward steadiness. Softness. Closeness.

Drop “RISK” below and I’ll send you my free relationship assessment so you know exactly where you stand.

[relationship advice, intimacy in marriage, emotional connection, marriage coach, rekindling desire, relationship healing, communication in relationships]


01/06/2026

Most men are not resistant to therapy because they are stubborn. They are resistant because therapy can feel like a courtroom where they expect to be blamed, criticized, or told they are the problem. So they protect themselves. They withdraw. They avoid the conversation entirely.

The more you push, the more he shuts down. The more you plead, the more pressured he feels. And when it turns into a fight, he will hold his ground no matter the cost.

If you want him to say yes to therapy, the approach has to change. He needs respect. He needs emotional safety. And he needs to feel like therapy is a team effort, not a punishment.

In this free video I show you the exact wording and conversation structure I teach wives to use when their husband is hesitant about therapy. No guilt. No pressure. No power struggle. Just a calm and effective way to invite him into the process while protecting the relationship.

If you want it, comment the word “therapy” and I’ll send you the free video.

01/06/2026

Most men are not afraid of therapy. They are afraid of failure, judgment, and feeling like the problem in the relationship. When you push harder, they shut down. When you beg, they pull away. And when you threaten, they dig in even deeper.

If you want him to agree to therapy, you have to approach it differently. With respect. With emotional safety. And with language that does not trigger his defenses.

In this free video I walk you through the exact conversation framework I teach my clients to use when their husband is reluctant to go to therapy. No pressure. No shaming. No begging. Just a clear path to getting him to say yes while strengthening the relationship in the process.

If you want it, comment the word “therapy” and I’ll send you the free video.

01/05/2026

They’re not here to fix you.

We get into relationships hoping someone will cuddle our broken parts. Hold the pieces together. Make us feel whole.
But that’s not how it works.

Your partner isn’t there to protect your wounds. They’re there to push you to grow.
That area where they challenge you the most? That’s probably the exact place you need to stretch.
It feels uncomfortable because it’s supposed to.

Love isn’t just soft. Sometimes it’s the push you didn’t know you needed.

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[relationship advice, emotional connection, marriage coach, communication in relationships, relationship healing, intimacy in marriage, rekindling desire]


01/04/2026

Roommates Or Partners?

If your spouse isn’t your best friend, something’s off.
Think about it.
Your best friend doesn’t lie to you. Doesn’t treat you like an obligation. You get excited when their name pops up on your phone. You want to connect. Not because you have to. Because you actually want to.

So why give your spouse anything less?
If you treat them like a roommate, that’s what the marriage becomes. If you treat them like your best friend, you build something that lasts.
And yeah. Sometimes it feels one sided. Sometimes they won’t respond the way you hoped. But that’s not your cue to pull back. That’s your cue to keep showing up.

If they’re not your best friend right now, don’t panic. Do something about it.
A marriage without friendship is just two people sharing a house. You deserve a relationship built on joy and connection. Not quiet distance.

Drop “RISK” below and I’ll send you my free relationship assessment so you know exactly where you stand.

[relationship advice, intimacy in marriage, emotional connection, marriage coach, rekindling desire, relationship healing, communication in relationships]


01/03/2026

What you speak, grows.

Want your partner to feel confident and brave? Start talking about those things.
Want them to feel generous and powerful? Speak into that.

But if you keep pointing out their flaws and failures? That’s what grows too.
Your words water something every single day. You get to choose what.

Speak into the parts you want to see flourish. Watch what happens when someone finally feels like you believe in them.
That’s how you build someone up instead of breaking them down.

Drop “RISK” below for my free relationship assessment quiz 👇

[relationship advice, emotional connection, marriage coach, communication in relationships, relationship healing, intimacy in marriage, rekindling desire]




01/01/2026

Accountability is the part of love nobody wants to talk about.

Not blame.
Not self-hatred.
Ownership.

If your relationship isn’t working, it’s not because you’re broken.
It’s because there are patterns you haven’t owned yet.

You don’t heal a relationship by being right.
You heal it by taking responsibility for your impact.

The moment you stop asking who’s at fault and start asking how you’re contributing, everything changes.

That’s not weakness.
That’s leadership.

12/31/2025

She Left Months Ago...

Most men miss this until it’s too late.

They tell themselves it’s a phase. That she’ll come around. But distance doesn’t fix itself. It just grows.

By the time she says she’s done? She’s been done for months. Sometimes years.

You need to catch these shifts early.

She stops reaching for affection. Conversations get short. She avoids alone time with you. She lights up around friends but goes quiet when she walks through your door.

Problems come up and she shuts down. Your jokes don’t land anymore. She becomes indifferent to your wins. Your struggles. She starts protecting her phone. Talks about the future without you in it.

Then one day she says you feel like roommates.

Women don’t leave suddenly. They leave slowly. After too many moments feeling alone next to someone they loved.

But if you catch it early and actually show up? You can bring the closeness back.

Drop “RISK” below and I’ll send you my free relationship assessment so you know exactly where you stand.

[relationship advice, intimacy in marriage, emotional connection, marriage coach, rekindling desire, relationship healing, communication in relationships]


12/30/2025

Lean in. Don’t lecture.

Your partner says they had a hard day. Don’t roll your eyes. Don’t ask “about what?”
Lean into the emotion.

Say “tell me more.” Say “what made it hard?”
Be genuinely curious. There’s nuance in their feelings you’re probably missing.

When you start mining for those little shifts and details, something changes. Every conversation becomes interesting.
You stop trying to fix. You start trying to understand.

That’s what makes someone feel truly heard.

Drop “RISK” below for my free relationship assessment quiz 👇
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[relationship advice, emotional connection, marriage coach, communication in relationships, relationship healing, intimacy in marriage]


12/30/2025

You’re scaring your wife

If things feel off at home, this might sting. But stay with me.
Here are three ways you’re making her feel emotionally unsafe without even realizing it.
First, inconsistency. When your mood or effort changes day to day, she never knows which version of you she’ll get. Her nervous system stays on high alert.

Second, fixing instead of listening. You think you’re helping, but when she shares something vulnerable and you jump straight to solutions, what she hears is “your feelings are inconvenient.” Over time, she stops opening up.

Third, pulling away when stressed. Ignoring her attempts to connect doesn’t create peace. It creates fear. Fear that she’s too much. That she’s alone. That your love disappears when life gets hard.

And that fear? It slowly erodes the bond between you.

Missing the mark isn’t a moral failure. We all do it. What matters is whether you come back and repair, or just hope it blows over.
So own it. Say “I know I’ve been distant” or “I’ve been quick to fix instead of really listening. I get that it’s made you feel unsafe. I want to understand you better. Can we talk tonight? How’s 7?”

Then actually follow through. Without drifting. Without distraction.

When you initiate connection and create safety on purpose, you calm her fears. You rebuild trust. And over time, you turn tension back into intimacy.

Take the RISK quiz to see where your relationship actually stands.

[relationship advice, intimacy in marriage, emotional connection, communication in relationships, relationship healing, marriage coach, rekindling desire]


12/28/2025

You marry their worst traits

When you choose a partner, you’re not just saying yes to their best qualities.
You’re saying yes to their baggage. Their flaws. The hard parts.

You’re looking at everything that frustrates you and deciding, “Yeah, I can work with that.”
If you can’t tolerate the difficult stuff, you picked wrong.
But here’s the thing. It’s not too late.

You can rework what you actually need. Lower those expectations to a realistic baseline. Not zero, but manageable.
This is how healthy relationships actually work. Not fantasy. Not perfection. Just two people choosing each other’s baggage on purpose.

Take the RISK quiz in my bio to see where your relationship actually stands.



[relationship advice, emotional connection, communication in relationships, relationship healing, compatibility, healthy relationships tips, choosing a partner wisely]


12/26/2025

Stop threatening divorce

She cannot be more right.

When you say “I want a divorce” or “I can’t handle this anymore,” that’s the child inside of you talking.

That’s the kid who sat at the homework table and said “I can’t do it” just to hear mom or dad say “yes you can, let’s do it together.”
But guess what. You’re in an adult relationship now.

It’s not their job to cuddle you when you threaten to leave. Because when you do that, you’re threatening them.
Here’s the rule. The only time to bring up divorce is when you’ve already spoken to an attorney, made the decision, and have the papers in hand.

The real way you know you’re there? You can say it with 100% calmness. No anger. No agitation. No nerves.
Just calm and clear. “We need to talk. This is over.”

But if you’re getting activated when you bring up divorce, it’s not the right time. You’re not ready. You’re just looking for a reaction.
And that’s not how adults end relationships. That’s how children seek validation.

Comment RISK for a free assessment quiz that shows you exactly where your relationship stands.



[relationship advice, communication in relationships, emotional connection, relationship healing, healthy relationships, marriage coach, mature communication in relationships]


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