Melinda Porter

08/13/2025

K!nk and Psychology

B**M (which stands for bondage/discipline, dominance/submission, and sadism/masochism) is one of the most popular s*xual fantasies. It’s also a relatively common s*xual behavior, with nationally representative US surveys finding that as many as 1 in 3 American adults have tried some form of B**M b...

07/30/2025

It’s important to teach tolerance and regulations. Some situations are extremely difficult and clients need to have layers of skills.

5 of the top experts in the world will share how they treat clients who struggle with trauma. This brand new program brings together the sharpest strategies for working with a traumatized brain.

07/05/2025

Dr. Justin Lehmiller - S*x and Psychology You go mister!

Look who’s on the cover of S*xual Health Magazine this month…

It was an honor to be asked and I’m thrilled with how it turned out! You can read and enjoy the full issue over at s*xualhealthmagazine.com

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06/29/2025

Good morning! Have a great Sunday 💕

04/21/2025

Pleasure is a right—not a reward.
And yet, many clients are disconnected from it due to pain, shame, trauma, or performance pressure.
Mutual pleasure is not just or**sm. It’s shared curiosity. Laughter. Slowness. Listening.
Invite clients to reconnect with what *feels good*—without needing to perform.

**Reflection:** What does pleasure look like for *you*, today?

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04/20/2025

S*xual compatibility is about more than what we *do*—it’s about what we *believe*.
Do we value connection? Exploration? Exclusivity? Freedom?
When values go unspoken, partners can feel misaligned. But when we help clients name and share their s*xual values, deeper intimacy becomes possible.

**Try this:** What values shape your s*xual life? Are you living in alignment with them?

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04/19/2025

Honesty can feel risky. But it’s also where connection lives.
We support clients in uncovering their truths—about desire, identity, boundaries, and needs—and give them space to say it out loud, maybe for the first time.
This isn’t just honesty with others—it starts with self-honesty.

**Explore:** What’s a truth you haven’t voiced yet?
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04/18/2025

S*xual protection isn’t about fear—it’s about empowerment.
When we center STI prevention and contraception in care—not shame—we support clients in making informed, confident choices.
We can ask:
• What does protection mean to you?
• How do you talk about it with partners?

Normalize it. Educate. Empower.

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04/17/2025

S*xual health must include protection from coercion, pressure, or manipulation.
Power shows up in many forms—emotional, financial, relational. Sometimes, it’s subtle.
As clinicians, we create the safety clients need to unpack their stories and reclaim agency. We can help them name what didn’t feel okay—and imagine something different.

**Journal Prompt:** Where has power shown up in your relationships—especially when it wasn’t named?

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04/16/2025

Consent is more than “yes” or “no”—it’s about connection, communication, and bodily awareness.
For some clients, learning what consent *feels like* is part of healing. For others, it’s about reclaiming their right to choose.
We can support them by helping them listen to their bodies, voice their boundaries, and navigate consent in s*x, touch, and beyond.

**Reflection:** When does your body say yes? When does it say “not now”? *xTherapyTools *xPositiveTherapist

04/15/2025

Love life! Live life!

04/15/2025

Welcome to our weeklong series exploring the *Six Principles of S*xual Health*.
These principles aren’t just guidelines for clients—they’re anchors for safe, ethical, and pleasure-based intimacy.
They give us language, boundaries, and permission to ask better questions—of ourselves and each other.
Stick around each day this week as we dive into one principle and what it might mean in clinical practice *and* in your personal journey. *xualHealth *xPositiveTherapy *xuality