11/30/2023
The Victim Trap is quite a gnarly one, and the root of codependency and addictive behavior...
When we grow up in dysfunction, we are likely to develop a "Glass Child Archetype": the pattern of invisibility when our needs and feelings are overshadowed by chaos or the acute needs of our family members...
We may become overachievers putting up a great facade of being the ones who "hold it together," or even worse, rescuers...
When we are the rescuer, it means that victim consciousness also lives in us. We also have the persecutor mindset as well...
When we believe we have the power to rescue, we will attract in victims and persecutors. We depend on victims to remain helpless so we feel needed and competent. This is just a way for us to play out our ugly addictions onto others...
We disempower others making them feel even more helpless and powerless. The victim will in turn persecute us, and we will now be the victim. Next up, our ego runs wild believing we have just been threatened and then the psychological defense of persecution swoops in as we go on the attack feeling justified all the way through...
The persecutors will sniff us out from a mile away drooling at the chance to overpower our unruly ego and beat it into submission...
This viscious cycle remains never-ending until we break out of the paradigm, learning how to put our needs first without apologies and setting healthy boundaries so we can keep our soul from jumping out of our heart and getting lost in the matrix...
Boundaries are not about keeping people and their energies out. They're about keeping what we need in to be our best selves and show up to life fully and authentically, living in alignment with our values...
Getting to the core of our flavor of codependency is a primary principle for thriving. There is just no other way around it...