03/21/2022
I wrote the following in response to a dear friend’s overwhelming feeling of grief one weekend. She was puzzled as to why she was so sad despite the weekend not an anniversary of any significant event or memory of her mother:)
You don’t need to have an event correlating the date to feel emotional about your mother my dear. In fact, the mere fact that there was no date of significance attached to your grief is, in fact, the significance. It’s the everyday we need to cherish…the ordinary and the regular stuff. Perhaps there were days with your mother that nary a word was spoken but the power of her presence is so profound, the comfort we feel when those we love most are near…the safety, the warmth and the love…when that energy goes away, we notice it the most, either consciously or subconsciously, during the more quiet and less memorable days. But the energy is there and always will be. It has a strong enough pull that you will feel it from wherever she is and whatever form her energy has been assigned to. Perhaps one day that energy is light and Cheery like a songbird or a silly puppy…that said, you will feel those days too, inexplicably. Perhaps this weekend her spirit was helping the sick and suffering of her beloved Chile. You feel that. Perhaps one day she’s whale watching or doing something she was never able to in her later years…you feel her joy:) My feelings about what happens when we die are feelings of confusion at best. What science tells me is that energy never dies, and you had the infinite blessings of having had a mother whose spirit will always be alive and amongst us. I call it spiritual inertia. Energy perpetually bounces around with equal and opposite reaction. Your mother made waves with energy that was fiery but never unbridled, which she proved till her last breath. What’s wild is she was a force to be reckoned with when she needed to defend. When we have those wild summer storms I have no doubt your mother, out of anyone I know, will be that bolt of lightening that strikes twice…like a chanqleta on the ass of evil doers!! You can create the narrative…and it will give you do much comfort…trust me😜