Roots & Vines Counseling, PLLC

31/03/2025

🌿 Exciting News! 🌿 Carolina Counseling Solutions is now Roots & Vines Counseling! 🎉 I've rebranded and am ready to continue growing alongside you. 🌱 Visit my refreshed website at rvcounseling.com for more details! 💻✨

17/02/2023

New Charlotte Location!

Call or email to book your appointment!

803-639-8923
info@carolinacounselingsolutions.com

20/01/2022

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If you have a heavy day, please remember that we are here. Please, don't give up. Take a small step, and then another one. No matter how small those steps are, you are doing great.

Image description: In the centre of an illustration with a pink background is a salmon pink circle with white text inside which says: 'just because you're struggling doesn't mean you're failing'. Around the cycle are pink and yellow tulips with green leaves. The artist of this image is and (on IG)

30/09/2021

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People with high functioning anxiety might experience intense fear of failure, need for control and avoidance of strong feelings. However, on the outside, they might also present as very organised, prepared and in control. So be careful how you judge others - we never know what is really going on under the surface. Stay kind and check in with others. Sometimes even one good word can make all the difference.

Image description: In the centre of an illustration with a light blue background is a grey mountain half-covered by blue sea waters. On the top of the illustration is black text which says: 'High functioning anxiety'. On the grey mountain is black text which says: 'What people see: strong work ethic, always organised, on time, self-assured, good planner, always helpful.' Below the sea water is black text which says: 'What they don't: intense fear of failure, need for control, panic about the thought of being late, avoiding strong feelings, can't say no to others, prepared for things to go wrong.' The artist of this image is Self-Care Spotlight

08/05/2021

Growing up, I was taught that self sacrifice was love.

This meant putting everyone else first. Being available 24/7 for anything that came up. Allowing myself to be available for consistent emotional venting + doing the same to others.

Boundaries around our time + energy are called resource boundaries.

Many of us lack them because we were taught it’s selfish to have needs. To have limits. Or to simply not want to do something.

Working with people (+ witnessing myself) I’ve learned that not having resource boundaries feels very comforting + addicting to many of us. It keeps us on the wheel of “go, go, go” where we never actually have to face ourselves— we’re constantly distracted. Always attempting to fix another person or tend to their issues. It allows us to avoid doing our own work, meeting our own needs, + creating space to meet ourselves.

We also get to fulfill a role of the person who’s “always there.” This can feel very good to people like myself who were emotionally neglected in childhood. It’s a sense of belonging— of being wanted.

SOME TIPS FOR SETTING RESOURCE BOUNDARIES:

1. Being ‘on call’ for other people will lead to resentment. Clearly communicating your need for space “I am going to take a day to sit with this + then respond” or “I love you, I’m really emotionally overwhelmed right now + can’t have this conversation today” allows another person to know your limits.

2. In relationships without resource boundaries there is often high emotional reactivity (I notice this often within my own family) Be aware that you do not need to participate in another persons cycle of reactivity in order to show love or support.

3. As you kindly + firmly set boundaries around your time or availability, you’ll notice you engage in those relationships in a more patient + grounded space

23/04/2021

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Your feelings are valid. Please, slow down and listen to those signs, as they can be critical. Feeling overwhelmed can be incredibly important - if we listen to that feeling or state, we might just avoid a severe burnout. So trust your feelings, slow down and listen - what does this overwhelm mean to you right now, and what can you do to feel a bit better? Please note - this refers to neurotypical overwhelm.

Image description: In the centre of an illustration with a white background is a worried orange round doodle. Above the doodle is black text which says: 'overwhelm'. Under the doodle is black text which says: 'Overwhelm is NOT a bad feeling, but it is a warning sign from your body that you need to slow down, rest, and take a break. Learn to recognise when you are starting to feel overwhelmed and use this feeling as a signal to pause. When you feel overwhelmed, reflect on what choices you can make next to make things easier to manage - how can you approach things so that you feel calmer and more in control?' The artist of this image is Laura Jane Illustrations

24/01/2021

You don't have to be in a crisis to start therapy.
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Image via Self-Care Spotlight

29/12/2020

18/12/2020

A little reminder this Friday:

✨Your worth is not measured by your productivity.✨

You are allowed to take breaks. You are allowed to work at a pace that feels good to you. You are allowed to cut yourself some slack. You are allowed to do absolutely nothing, and guess what? You will still be worthy.

10/12/2020

"You can't go back and change the beginning, but you can start where you are and change the ending."
- C.S. Lewis

09/12/2020

🌺Healing is not linear🌺

Just because you have a bad day doesn’t mean you aren’t healing.

08/12/2020

You are worthy and amazing, even when you're not at your best. If you ever need someone to talk to, know that the Lifeline's counselors are available 24/7/365 to listen without judgement. Let us help you through. 💚

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