Encouragement & Hope For Christian Wives of Alcoholics

03/03/2026

What would it look like to stand back and trust instead of trying to manipulate?

Stephen has a lot of one-liners that I just latch onto when he teaches. They make so much sense, especially in the context of the scripture in which they are presented.

This particular one has to do with the man at the pool of Bethesda. For 30 years, he laid by the side of the pool, trying his best to be the one to wiggle in first. But in the words of Dr. Phil one might ask, “How’s that working for you?” The obvious answer is that it was not working at all. And there he lay wasting years away, trusting in a system that wasn’t ever going to work for him.

And then along comes Jesus, Who simply requires him to trust Him. “Get up! Pick up your mat and walk.” It worked because the command came from the mouth of Jesus.

Have you been TRYING to fix your husband? Is there a verse or a move Jesus has been speaking to or requiring of you over and over that you’ve been ignoring? Maybe it’s time to trust instead of try.

Peace & Blessings, My Friend ❤️We can get through this together!

02/28/2026

DO YOU BELIEVE THIS?!

Worship is our weapon! It will help you believe this. No matter what last night may have brought, His mercies are new every morning. (Lamentations 3:22-23)

Praise alone can take you from believing that you can’t go on to knowing you can do all things through Christ! It works not only because He requires it, but because His Word says it will.

And if you don’t believe me, look up the word “praise” in the concordance in the back of your Bible and read every verse it pulls up. This is better than me providing the verses for you. Let Him speak to you directly. That’s how we grow, change, & believe🙌

I dare you to start your morning with praise, and see how it changes the atmosphere AND your mindset. 🙌

Peace & Blessings, My Friend ❤️ We can get through this together!

02/27/2026

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02/26/2026

02/25/2026

Simply Believe -Joyce Meyer “Starting Your Day Right”

I don’t know if you have noticed, but I have a common theme lately. Every so often, God begins to work on my heart that if His people would just believe, not just in Him for salvation, but actually believe the words that are posted in His love note to us, we would see so much more happen in our lives.

One of my favorite pastors is really a great teacher on this, Andrew Wommack. He and Joyce both focus on the fact that if we want to have something changed in our lives, we must see it in our imagination first. Instead, many times our imaginations take us in the opposite direction of what we want to happen. Why is it so much easier to believe the bad that can come from our situations than the good that God promises in His word?

I’ve shared that many of His promises are conditional. This one occurs aftet the incident where Jesus curses the fig tree. There is no condition if -then, other than if you have faith and believe you shall have what you ask.

So we need to cover this unbelief part. Unbelief comes from doubting. If one day you pray asking God to deliver your husband from alcoholism, & the next day you say things will never change, that is doubting & you will get what James says you’ll get in James 1:7…. Nothing!

I’m not saying I’m perfect at this, but I am saying this is scriptural, meaning we can stand on it. We have to take charge over our flippant mouths. We have to get our mouths in line with what God says if we ever want to see what we’re asking for manifest in our lives AND in our husband’s lives.

Where do you need to end the doublemindedness in your prayers?

Peace & Blessings, My Friend❤️We can get through this together!

02/24/2026

What if we were all a little more like Peter?

Peter was an experienced fisherman. On 2 occasions, after being on the water unsuccessfully, Jesus suggested he take direction from Him to haul in some fish. In both instances, the fisherman, doing things the way he was well aquatinted with led to nothing. But when He humbled himself to take Jesus’s advice, the nets became so full he needed help to haul in the load!

Is there an area in your life where you’ve been listening to the crowd or following your emotions or what you’ve always done expecting God to act? What does His Word say to do?

I can tell you one thing that seems to make no sense, that worked for me. Cranking up the praise music & throwing my hands in the air. It works because His Word says it will. (2Chron 20:20-21; psalm 150:6-7) It’s humbling ourselves to our “What about me” feelings saying, You are more important than my concerns.

When you learn to listen to the voice of Holy Spirit, you will do things that people will not understand. And you will see results people don’t see.

Peace and Blessings, My Friend❤️ We can get through this together!

02/23/2026

Fear Is Belief In The Worst

In many ways fear is the opposite of the hope that we’re supposed to have in our lives. How many times does the Bible say fear not? For those that fear, that seems oversimplified. It’s like telling us not to breathe.

I’ve heard it taught that fear is the opposite of belief, but I’m not sure it’s true. It is belief, but in an undesired outcome.....many times in something that may never even happen. It’s a belief in something our imagination has created, instead of belief in what the Creator says. That’s why we’re told to take every thought captive and make it obedient to Christ. (2Cor 10:5).

Maybe you need to create a God Box. Whatever is troubling you, write it down, and put it in your God Box. That means it’s off limits for you to think about any longer. When you notice your mind going to that place, you look at your God box and say, “God it’s Yours.” That demonstrates taking those thoughts captive and making them obedient to Christ.

Then replace it with a God thought. Those can be on note cards next to you God box, so that every time you think about that thing, you pick up one of your note cards and read it aloud to replace the thought. What are some of your favorite promises in scripture to set next to your God box? Let’s work together and get our ammo ready, Ladies!

Here’s a couple to start you off:

1 John 4:4 Greater is he that is in you, than he that is in the world.
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Phil 4:13 “I can do all things through Christ Who strengthens me.”

Romans 8:28 “And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love Him, who have been called according to His purpose.’

02/22/2026

Continuing To Believe

In Matthew 7:7-8 we read, “Ask and it will be given to you; seek and you will find; knock and the door will be opened to you. For everyone who asks receives; the one who seeks finds; and to the one who knocks, the door will be opened." In this section of scripture, we are taught to do this asking, seeking and knocking as an ongoing practice. Not just once and forgetting about it, or worse, speaking against what we prayed for. We need to ask, seek, knock but do it with belief.

This morning, Joyce Meyer said, were not waiting on God. If His Word says it, Hes already done it. We're just waiting for it to manifest. But what are we doing in the wait? She said we need to trust. And we do this by speaking His truth over our situation. We don't pray for the change then say things like, "He's never gonna change."

We need to stay in belief while we're waiting for our answered prayers to manifest. We need to speak the truth of God's Word, regardless of what our circumstances or feelings try to tell us.

Circumstances are beyond our control and feelings lie. There is one thing we can stand on and trust and that's the truth as found in God's Word. Don't let the enemy sn**ch your believe out of your hand. Your faith is what activates God. Demonstrate your faith by your words. Trust God and activate His presence in your life to open up joy, positivity, words of affirmation, people and circumstances that will build your faith even more until the day your promise is manifested.

Peace &Blessings, My Friend❤️ We can get through this together.

02/21/2026

Beware of the “But”

How often are you putting “buts” in your promises?

“Yes I believe faith can move mountains, BUT God gives us self-will & my husband doesn’t want to quit drinking.”

“I do believe God heals, BUT the doctor says it’s terminal.”

“Yes I believe we are together till death do us part, BUT if he doesn’t quit drinking I’m not sure how much longer I’m going to be able to stay in this marriage.”

“I do believe nothing is inpossible with God, BUT AA says once an alcoholic always an alcoholic.”

Can I give you a tip? Don’t “but” in on Gods promises!

Here’s what brother james has to say about your buts:
“But when you ask, you must believe and not doubt, because the one who doubts is like a wave of the sea, blown and tossed by the wind. That person should not expect to receive anything from the Lord.” James 1:6‭-‬7

Instead, we need to state the facts and let what comes after the but be the truth of God’s Word.

“Yes this is his 5th relapse, BUT all things are possible with God!”

“Yes my situation looks dim. Divorce has been in our family for generations, BUT my God always causes me to triumph.”

(And if you dont know a lot of scripture) “Yes my husband has been an alcoholic for 38 years BUT God is His deliverer!”

Find your people who will ‘cover your but’. People who will stand and believe with you, & keep you accountable to dropping your but & declaring the truth as God sees it. Nothing is impossible for God! (Luke 1:37) “Thou shalt also decree a thing & it shall be established unto thee.” (Job 22:28)

Oh how our lives might change if we put our but in the right place!

Lets not let our buts steal our hope! Put your trust in God not man! Psalm 118:8

Peace & Blessings, My Friend ❤️ We can get through this together!

02/20/2026

Here is the rest of Peter Marshall’s quote. “It is through suffering the tests & trials of life that we can draw near to God. When God tests you, it is a good time for you to test God by putting His promises to the proof & claiming from Him, just as much as your trials have rendered necessary. There are ways to getting out of a trial. One is to simply try to get out of the trial & be thankful when it is over. The other is to recognize a trial as a challenge from God to claim a larger blessing than we had ever had.”

Kind of reminds me of one of my favorite promise verses God gave me while Regis and I were in the thick of our battle with alcoholism.

‭‭Isaiah‬ ‭61‬:‭7‬ ‭NKJV‬‬
“Instead of your shame you shall have double honor, And instead of confusion they shall rejoice in their portion. Therefore in their land they shall possess double; Everlasting joy shall be theirs.”

You may notice I put “our” battle. Alcoholism is a family disease. It affects every member. We can choose to let our hurt, anger, & resentment cause us to let the one fight alone, but that surely make him a sitting duck for the enemy . “Though one may be overpowered by another, two can withstand him. And a threefold cord is not quickly broken.”
‭‭Ecclesiastes‬ ‭4‬:‭12‬ ‭NKJV‬‬

I’m so thankful I chose to join God‘s team. And this was God‘s plan all along. We are living in our double for our former trouble! Believing this for you too, My Friend!

Peace & Blessings, My Friend ❤️ We can get through this together!

02/18/2026

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02/17/2026

There's A Difference

I believe in there being a real enemy named satan. But do I believe him? NEVER! He is the father of lies. When he's putting thoughts into my mind, you better believe they are lies.

I also believe in God. And I spent a good portion of my life, thinking believing in Him was enough. I saw His Word as a "guidebook" at best.....as one way of doing things. If someone would have asked me if I believed His Word, I most likely would have answered yes. (Never mind that I had never even read it all, let alone studied it.)

But even when I did start studying it, I was challenged when Beth Moore made a statement to open her book, "Believing God". I no longer have the book, but it started by saying something to the effect of, "Many of us say that we believe in God for our salvation, but have done very little believing since."(Its not a direct quote, but it's close) The reason I remember it is because it resonated with me, in where I was in my walk with Jesus, at the time.

I had enough upbringing in church to catch scriptural references, but that upbringing fooled me into being prideful, thinking i knew it all. What a fool I was! There is a scripture in 2 Timothy 3:5 that criticizes those "having a form of godliness but denying its power." It goes on to say, "Have nothing to do with such people ." You have to know what the Word of God says to know what you believe.

If we say we believe in God, but don't believe what is printed in His Word, are we really His followers? We may follow a religion or religious set of beliefs, but we will lack the power that is needed to really be a disciple and experience His power in and through us that makes all the difference in our lives. I was challenged to believe God. That there was more than I already knew. And I had to seek Him wholeheartedly to find there truly is a difference that makes all the difference.

Friends, I will always lead you to seek His truth for your life. His truth as found in His Word & by His Holy Spirit that can only be found by walking in relationship with Him. When you believe Him, you will follow Him & no one will be able to sway you or influence you off track. Believe Him❤️