Lakefront Psychology

08/17/2025

Make the quiet choices each day to live authentically. No one needs to validate your truth.

08/17/2025

08/17/2025

Pause to notice how your feel inside when you’re with different people. Choose to prioritize time spent with the people who allow you to feel your best.

08/02/2025

Sometimes the most important thing we can do is decide what to STOP doing. Protect your need for breaks, rest, and recovery.

08/02/2025

🕊️ Keeping the Peace vs. Embodied Peace

What We Were Taught vs. What We’re Here to Remember

For a long time, I thought I was good at keeping the peace.

I knew how to smooth over tension.
How to say the right thing.
How to lower my voice, raise my empathy, swallow the truth.

It looked like emotional maturity.
It even looked like healing.

But underneath?

It was survival.
It was fear dressed as diplomacy.
It was the echo of a nervous system that learned early on: Keep it light, or things get heavy.

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✨ Keeping the Peace

Keeping the peace is external.

It’s about managing the room, the relationship, the reaction.

It’s about shrinking your truth just enough to stay acceptable.

It’s about walking on eggshells with grace and calling it compassion.

But here’s the cost:

You leave yourself.
You override your body’s signals.
You begin to associate your worth with how well you can regulate everyone else.

And maybe, like me, you started calling that peace.

But it’s not.

It’s performance.
It’s control.
It’s a kind of emotional labour that leaves your spirit tired and unseen.

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🧬 Embodied Peace

Embodied peace doesn’t always look calm.

It doesn’t always sound kind.

It doesn’t always feel soft.

Because embodied peace isn’t about pleasing the room—it’s about honoring the truth in your body.

It’s the moment you say no, even when your voice shakes.

The moment you don’t explain, don’t justify, don’t chase understanding.

The moment you let someone else be uncomfortable, and you don’t rescue them from it.

Embodied peace is:

🌿 Stillness after the boundary
🔥 Fire without self-abandonment
🌊 Grief without apology
🩵 Presence without performance

It’s not about avoiding rupture.

It’s about being rooted in your integrity through the rupture.

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💡The Shift

The shift from keeping the peace to embodying peace is one of the greatest initiations of a woman’s life.

It means:

✅ Rewiring your nervous system to recognize inner truth as safe

✅ Letting go of emotional caretaking as your identity

✅ Reclaiming power in the moments that once made you shrink

And most of all, it means living in alignment—even if it means others don’t see you the way you want to be seen.

Because peace isn’t always pretty.

Sometimes it’s misunderstood.
Sometimes it’s messy.

Sometimes it looks like silence, distance, or walking away.

But if it’s rooted in inner truth, it’s peace.

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🕯️ Let This Be Your Reminder

💞You weren’t born to keep the peace.☮️

You were born to be peace—in the raw, radiant, rooted way that only you can.

Let the rest fall away.

With Love, Angela xo

07/15/2025

Like yourself first and foremost. Own the incredible creature you are!

07/14/2025

07/14/2025

Try being more selective of what you share and who you share with. Ask yourself why you feel like sharing. What are you seeking? If you find yourself seeking validation and counting up your “likes,” you might try experiencing the freedom of enjoying your moments just for YOU. Don’t worry about getting a post-worthy photo. Be present.

07/12/2025

Prioritize and create moments of joy.

07/12/2025

We figure this is definitely worth repeating!
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07/09/2025

This can really be the hardest thing we do when we love someone.

07/09/2025

The little things make a big difference.

You don’t need grand gestures to show love. Small, everyday moments like holding hands, offering a kind word, or simply being present can mean more than you think.

Big moments still matter. But "small things often" is your reminder to show love in everyday ways.

💌 So here’s your nudge. What small thing can you do for your partner today?

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