JIS Solution Focused Therapy

07/12/2025

Quote of the Day

Our theme this week - Meltdowns and Tantrums

07/12/2025

✨ “When a child can’t calm down, they need connection and comfort, not criticism and control.” 💛

Ever wonder why your child’s big feelings seem to get even BIGGER when you tell them to “just stop” or “calm down”? 🧠💥

That’s because a dysregulated brain can’t hear logic — it needs safety first. 🫂
Children aren’t giving us a hard time. They’re having a hard time.

Imagine if every meltdown was met with a soft landing instead of shame.
Imagine if every “tantrum” was treated as a moment to show unconditional love, instead of a moment for punishment. 🌱

🫶 Your calm is their safe place.
🤝 Your empathy is their roadmap back to regulation.
❤️ Your presence is more powerful than any lecture.

When your child is losing it, try this instead:
✨ Sit close.
✨ Offer a gentle touch.
✨ Keep your voice low and warm.
✨ Say: “I’m here. I know this is hard. I’ll help you.”

The goal isn’t to control their emotions, but to connect through them, so they learn to calm themselves someday — because they felt what it was like to be calmed by you. 💗

📣 Parenting truth:
✅ Kids learn emotional regulation not by being told to calm down — but by being calmed down by us.

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Your support means a lot to us❤️

LittlePeople

03/26/2025

If you needed a little extra encouragement today, this very enthusiastic red panda has you covered. Consider this a permission slip to be kind to yourself, recognize how far you’ve come, and maybe celebrate yourself just a tiiiiiny bit!

03/25/2025

One of our favorite quick tips for improving relationships—whether with your children, partner, friends, or co-workers—is:

"Get curious, not furious."

This simple mindset shift encourages understanding over defensiveness and frustration. Instead of reacting with anger or assumptions, approach situations with curiosity and an open mind. This supports greater self-control and contributes to emotional intelligence.

Ask questions, seek perspective, and try to understand the why behind someone’s actions. This not only strengthens connections but also fosters healthier communication, empathy, and problem-solving in all relationships. 🥰

03/16/2025

Join PAPA for help, support and info at: papaorg.co.uk ❤️♻️

03/16/2025

Book club was a success! Thanks for the great conversations on “let them” and “let me” theory! Details for April Book Club coming soon! 🌸

03/15/2025

Thoughts? 💔♻️

03/13/2025

03/02/2025

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When they go high - in the form of a stress response - we go LOW. We tend to our own nervous system first. We calm ourselves. We get quiet. We kneel down to their level...we make ourselves the safe zone.

We need take care of ourselves so we can co-regulate rather than escalate.

A few ideas:

-Say a mantra, such as "my child is having a hard time, not giving me a hard time"
-Try a breathing technique (longer exhales). Then zoom out and try to observe the situation from afar so you can consider your most skillful response.
-Ground yourself by clenching and releasing your fists, pressing your feet into the floor.
-Give yourself a timeout - outside or in another room, if it's safe to walk away.
-Get curious. Ask yourself what might be the reason behind this behavior? And why is it upsetting me?

via Wild Peace for Parents

03/02/2025

Coalville Book Club - This is a positive mental health support book club. 35 North 50 East 7:00 March 13th - You can purchase the book on Amazon - Audible! Such a good book when driving! 🍀