Sam Jolman, MA LPC, Counseling

04/06/2020

What To Do With All These Numbers and Faces | Sam Jolman

Howdy everyone! I haven’t been to this FB page in awhile. But then again times are strange. I’ve written a few things of late. I thought I’d share them here.

Here we all sit hunkered down in our house bunkers. We seem to have two things in abundance these days. There are numbers. Lots of numbers. There are big growing numbers like coronavirus infection rates and unemployment filings and days left in our collective quarantine. There are numbers that keep....

08/01/2019

Sam Jolman, MA LPC, Counseling updated their business hours.

Sam Jolman, MA LPC, Counseling updated their business hours.

03/30/2017

07 | Sam Jolman: S*x and the Heart of the Romantic

Hey Friends, I hope this finds you well in your heart journey. I recently had the opportunity to sit down with the And Sons Magazine guys to do a podcast on my article for them from the Winter Issue. It was an absolute blast. I hope you all enjoy. Its not everything that needs to be said, for sure, but its something I'm trying to see better and say better for men.

Sam Jolman is a councilor who in the last issue of And Sons Magazine explained that men need romance, not just s*x. That was worth following up on, and in this conversation, Sam and Blaine dove in to hear about Jolman’s story with romance, the development of his masculine soul, and the need to under...

01/27/2017

Men Need Romance, Not Just S*x

I'm trying to start a conversation here with this piece. Men, don't roll your eyes until you read. I think there is something in here for you.

“Can you lie next to her, and give her your heart, your heart, as well as your body?” Mumford & Sons“If the heart is not naked along with the body, the whole action becomes a lie.” Mike Mason“Vulnerability is our most accurate measure of courage.” Brené Brown

11/21/2016

How To Be Grateful and Still Want More | Sam Jolman

In this season of gratitude, here's a little help for your heart.

“Give thanks in all circumstances.” Paul (1 Thess. 5) “You’re blessed when you are ravenously hungry.” Jesus (Luke 6) Gratitude is getting a fresh make over these days. What could be mistaken for a Sunday School lesson theme from a pious old lady has become all the talk among the hip. Doctors, thera...

08/26/2016

The Story Workshop - The Allender Center

The Story Workshop is one of the best places to understand your story and grow as a person And its coming to Denver! https://t.co/IZBuHNuJLC

The Story Workshop offers encouragement and wisdom as you seek to understand, write, tell, and live your story in deeper and more transformative ways.

06/28/2016

You Need More Than God | Sam Jolman

Hey friends, here's an important truth to me. And I happen to think God's okay with this.

Picture it with me. A man walks along a mountain path amidst towering aspens and pines. The tree cover here dances shadows around his feet. His pace is easy because he’s really not trying to get anywhere. He closes his eyes and takes in a deep tug of mountain air. This is what he’s here …

12/21/2015

Your Other Christmas List | Sam Jolman

Let the ol' heart stand up stretch a bit this season.

“It would seem that our Lord finds our desires not too strong, but too weak. We are half-hearted creatures, fooling about with drink and s*x and ambition when infinite joy is offered us, like an ignorant child who wants to go on making mud pies in a slum because he cannot imagine what is meant …

12/05/2015

How To Get Your Innocence Back | Sam Jolman

I do believe we can.

Trail running has become my guilty pleasure lately. As a dad of two little boys, adventure comes in short bursts. Whatever I can get to the quickest, the better. So throwing on a pair of running shoes and busting out my front door has been my wilderness. Someone had the brilliant idea of carving out…

11/19/2015

Where Justice Begins | Sam Jolman

Therapy as Justice? Huh?

I was invited to write this post for the wonderful group of people at the Downtown Reading Society (my post is here). This courageous community is wrestling with the concept of justice and all its rivulets. I have deep respect for the journey they are taking. And an even greater amount of respect fo…

03/21/2015

Leave Starving Children in Africa Alone - Sam Jolman

Yep, it's time.

“We become free by transforming ourselves from unaware victims of the past into responsible individuals of the present, who are aware of our past and are thus able to live with it.” Alice Miller Its time to leave starving children in Africa alone. I’m serious. No, of course I don’t mean stop support…

02/14/2015

Never Use This As A Motivation For Change - Sam Jolman

Just in time for "blow your resolution" season!

Most people use this as a motivation for change. And it never works. Find out what change really requires.

12/22/2014

Why The Holidays Are Hard - Sam Jolman

Why The Holidays Are Hard - Sam Jolman

Lets face it. No one can escape the festal fervor of this season. Whether you want to or not, you are anticipating Christmas. Blame it on everyone. Like Starbucks, with those beady little red cups everywhere. Which I imagine to have little elven voices, calling out, “Merry Holidays!” You can’t miss…

12/15/2014

How To Make Your Holidays More Meaningful - Sam Jolman

Do the holidays leave you disappointed? Try this...

“When you’ve nothing else construct ceremonies out of the air and breath upon them.” Cormac McCarthy It doesn’t take much to make your holidays more meaningful. But it sure is easy to believe it does. Our family was adopted last Thanksgiving by some friends and coworkers from a former life. As you k…

10/17/2014

Enemies Where You Least Expect

Has this ever happened to you?

“The tongue has the power of life and death.” Proverbs 18:21 I have a young face. I really do. Go look at my picture. I once got carded at a liquor store and even with an I.D., the woman wasn’t con...

07/09/2014

For When You Are Stuck

"The way out... is through."

“There is no way out of the inner life. So one had better get into it.” Parker Palmer “The spiritual life does not remove us from the world but leads us deeper into it” Henri Nouwen “Let me learn b...

06/03/2014

Real Guilt Doesn't Feel Like Guilt

Real Guilt Doesn't Feel Like Guilt

“Don’t you realize that it is God’s kindness that is trying to lead you to him and change the way you think and act?” Romans 2:4 “Those who look to him are radiant. There faces are never covered in...

03/24/2014

Parenting As One Thing

Parenting starts with this.

Brandt had been crying for over an hour. I mean this guy was straight singing the blues wailing. And there was simply no getting away from him. We were stuck in the car driving to Breckenridge for ...

02/22/2014

Why You Must Trust Your Emotions

Why You Must Trust Your Emotions

“Emotions are the language of the soul. They are the cry that gives the heart a voice.” Dan Allender, Tremper Longman “I’ve never met an irrational emotion. Once you know the whole story, they al...

01/21/2014

Give A Man His Swagger

Why men need celebration... and a few thoughts on Sherman.

“Don’t muzzle your ox as he treads the grain press.” Deuteronomy 25:4 “I did it!” Brandt Yesterday morning during the middle of my first sip of coffee, our two year old son Brandt ran into the room...

12/22/2013

Christmas Is About The Stuff

Just helping you make your Christmas more materialistic :)

“The Word became flesh and blood, and moved into the neighborhood.” John 1:14 “God looked over everything he had made; it was so good, so very good!” Genesis 1:31 “Everything is already yours as a ...

11/25/2013

Guilt Is Easier Than Pain

Ever wondered why you struggle with guilt?

A divorced man came to me recently to get his life back. He was pretty beat up. Let me state the obvious for us all: Divorce is brutal. An end to a story that lovers never imagine would end. I’...

11/07/2013

Man Pressure

Life asks a lot from men. Here's what to do with it.

“Our view of spiritual manhood has more to do with continuing to function in spite of difficulties than with successfully overcoming them.” Larry Crabb, Don Hudson, Al Andrews My friend Mary Ellen...

07/16/2013

God's Least (or Most) Endearing Quality

Help me decide: do you like this about God or not?

“God isn’t late with his promise as some measure lateness.” Apostle Peter “If I were God, or God's West Coast Rep, I would have a much more organized and predictable system.” Anne Lamott "There is ...

06/24/2013

I Thought I Was Over This

How often do you whisper this to yourself?

“People tend to think of recollections as fading over time, but memories grow like manuscripts being revised. In remembering, we add and fill in—and the more often you remember something, the more ...

06/14/2013

Are You Listening To Your Body?

Did you know your body has its own memory?

“Human persons are embodied actors rather than thinking things... We are the sorts of animals whose orientation to the world is shaped from the body up more than from the head down.” James K A Smit...

05/19/2013

Why Young Men Commit Mass Killings

Gun control is a blunt tool of change. There is a way to get to the heart of the problem.

“But in contemporary society, we have trouble talking about the obvious: the transition from boy to man is a risky endeavor, and there can be a lot of collateral damage.” Erika Christakis, Time Ma...

03/04/2013

Have You Told That Story Yet?

Have You Told That Story Yet?

“There is no greater agony than bearing an untold story inside of you.” Maya Angelou “You don’t get to make up most of your story. But you get to make peace with it.” Ann Voskamp My son Brandt has...

02/04/2013

What’s Your Revolution?

What’s Your Revolution?

“Postmodern irony and cynicism has become an end in itself, a measure of hip sophistication and literary savvy. Few artists dare to try to talk about ways of working toward redeeming what& #82...

01/20/2013

When We Are Lance

When We Are Lance

“They’ve refused for so long to deal with God that they’ve lost touch with reality itself. They can’t think straight anymore.” Paul “Mental health is a commitment to reality at all costs.” M. Sco...

01/17/2013

Stop Kicking Your Own Ass

Put that foot down and read this instead

01/06/2013

What Do We Attack Now?

A few reflections on Newtown...

“Evil loves trauma and drama.” Dan Allender “Our battle is not against flesh and blood.” Paul You know the story. You have read it, heard it over and over countless times by now. The one we are ...

01/05/2013

“There are a lot of people around who can't wait to tell you what you've done wrong, but there aren't many fathers willing to take the time and effort to help you grow up.” Paul

12/17/2012

My Darkest Night of the Year

For all those who feel depressed in this season, I give you a mini memoir.

A lot of things can cross your mind the day before Christmas – those folks on your list you still have to buy for, the wonderful feeling it is to be off work, what you hope to overeat that ev...

12/09/2012

Why You Want To Be Liked So Much

Did you know Like and Love mean the same thing?

“Love is the giving and receiving of pleasure.” Dan Allender Our marriage counselor once gave my wife and me an assignment I thought was really dumb. She asked us to pause each day over the next ...

11/09/2012

When Healing Comes Slowly | Conversations Journal

A guest post of mine at Conversations Journal.

“Deep work is slow work. Its only in lifestyles as fast paced as ours that we’ve been able to convince ourselves otherwise.” Michael Gurian Lets face