Lorneshia Cooper, BCBA, LBA

05/15/2026

Children express externally what adults have learned to mask internally.

05/15/2026

One thing I noticed while being in classrooms is that some teachers are so focused on disciplining children… that they forget to TEACH discipline.

Like the child cannot “have discipline” if discipline itself is never taught, modeled, scaffolded, practiced, co-regulated, etc.

We correct, punish, threaten consequences, send kids out, fuss, raise our voices, etc. because we’re “trying to teach them not to do something.”

But sometimes I be wanting to ask…

Did we teach them what TO do though?

Because those are two different things.

A lot of these babies are 3 and 4 years old. We’re talking about little humans who are STILL learning:
1. how to communicate frustration
2. how to share
3. how to wait
4. how to handle disappointment
5. how to regulate emotions
6. how to advocate for themselves
7. how to problem solve socially

…and honestly chile, half the adults still working on that too.

Another thing I noticed is how often children get spoken to in ways we would NEVER accept from another adult.

The rude tones.
The sarcasm.
The public shaming.
The “stop all that crying.”
The “ain’t nobody worried about that.”
The constant snapping.

Then when the child responds back disrespectfully, aggressively, emotionally, or shuts down completely… now THEY’RE the problem.

But babies learn respect from being respected too.

And listen… before somebody starts lol, I KNOW working with children is hard. I’m a parent too. Kids can absolutely work your last nerve 😭 Sometimes adults are overstimulated, underpaid, unsupported, exhausted, and repeating what was done to us.

So this isn’t me judging teachers.

It’s me saying:
maybe some behaviors are getting bigger because the approach is getting bigger.

Sometimes the answer isn’t “more discipline.”
Sometimes it’s:
more teaching,
more modeling,
more co-regulation,
more realistic expectations,
and a different tone.

Kids are not tiny adults....they're tiny humans.
And correction without connection usually turns into power struggles for everybody involved.

-An actually licensed Board Certified Behavior Analyst

Lorneshia Cooper, BCBA, LBA

04/29/2026

I remember right before graduating college thinking…

“I do NOT want to work in childcare.”

I loved kids… loved families… but being in a classroom all day felt like I’d just be a disciplinarian. And I did NOT want to do that with other people’s children.

But that ended up being my very first real job.

And it was one of the best things that could’ve happened to me.

That’s where I first learned about ABA… and now here I am, a BCBA… right back wanting to work in childcare again lol.

But this time it’s different.

I don’t want to be the “disciplinarian.”
And truthfully… teachers shouldn’t have to be.

That’s where the disconnect happens.

One of the biggest things I’ve learned (and I’m still working on it, because whew… growth 😂) is to shift away from “discipline” and lean into curiosity.

Because a lot of times…

Kids aren’t being “bad.”
They’re being curious.

Curious about:
• if you really meant what you said (after saying it 3 times 😅)
• why they can’t go outside
• what happens if they do something a certain way

And honestly… adults need to get curious too.

Instead of jumping straight to correction, sometimes it’s:
“Wait… what are they thinking right now?”

Because most times it’s not the child that needs correcting…

…it’s the conclusion they came to with the little experience they have.

And don’t get me wrong—some moments are ANNOYING 😂
I get it, I’ve BEEN there.

But that shift? It changes everything.

That’s actually why I created this training.

I’m now offering a DECAL-approved training for childcare centers:

“Address It, Don’t Stress It”

✔️ 4.5 clock hours
✔️ On-site at your center
✔️ Interactive (not boring, I promise 😌)
✔️ Comes with printed workbooks

If you know a childcare director, admin, or center that could benefit from this…

👉🏾 share this
👉🏾 tag them
👉🏾 or send this their way

Let’s support our teachers better… so they can support our kids better 💛

04/06/2026

Okay… so here’s what I was working on.

I didn’t just disappear… I was sat down! lol But seriously, I realized real quick....

Being a solo BCBA is one thing…but actually running your practice day-to-day?

.....completely different experience

Trying to keep up with:

authorizations
deadlines
documentation
finances
AND still make solid clinical decisions in real time…

I needed a system....so I built one.

And now I’m sharing it.

✨ Solo BCBA Complete Practice System ($87)
https://payhip.com/b/nlskS

This is everything in one place:

1. Organization
2. Operations
3. Clinical thinking
4. Goal management

Basically… something that helps you run your practice AND think clearly while doing it

If you don’t need everything, you can also grab pieces separately:

Clinical Thinking Library ($67)
https://payhip.com/b/cYqT1

Operations Command Center ($47)
https://payhip.com/b/0SmDF

Not gonna lie… this started as me just trying to get my own life together 😭

But once I built it, I realized I probably wasn’t the only one trying to keep everything in my head and hoping for the best.

This just makes things clearer and honestly… less stressful!

If you’re a solo BCBA, you’re doing two things at the same time:You’re managing a practice…and making clinical decisions in real time.Most resources help with one or the other.This gives you both...plus a system to stay consistent across sessions.Wha...

02/25/2026

Reposting from my BCBABestie page 🎥
Real conversations about behavior, parenting, autism, neuroaffirming ABA, and collaboration… with a little humor mixed in.
Lorneshia Cooper, BCBA, LBA
Applied Behavioral Approach Consulting

02/24/2026

✨ New confession dropped.

Another real, unfiltered car-thought-turned-blog moment from your favorite Solo BCBA navigating business, ethics, imposter syndrome, growth… all of it.

Some of these are reflections.
Some are lessons.
Some are “whew… I had to sit with that.”

But they’re all honest.

If you’ve ever questioned yourself, your field, your leadership, or your next move… this one might hit.

Read it here:
👉🏾 https://payhip.com/ABAC/blog/imposterbcba