PAIL (Pregnancy And Infancy Loss Awareness)

12/12/2023

My adult daughter just sent me this......her only sister died when she was 6. This really left me speechless and grateful for her and I know many of you need this too.........

10/14/2023

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06/01/2023

Tonight we pray for the momma who has had a miscarriage or a stillbirth. She may have lost a very young child. Lord, the pain of this loss is an indescribable ache in her heart. She thinks of this little one often. Sometimes, she stops at her kitchen sink and still blinks away tears. She still hurts in her heart. Lord, help this momma tonight to know that You hold her little one. Help her to be comforted even now. Whether this happened this week or years ago, tonight, we all pause together to remember. Bless each one tonight. In Jesus's name, Amen.

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05/13/2023

Grieving a Child on Mother’s Day

Dear Friend,

I miss my child every day. This grief of mine will never leave me, and honestly, why should it? I love my child more than I ever could have imagined, and yes, I do mean present tense “love”. It is excruciating knowing that my child will never return to my arms.

However, a mother’s love for her child doesn’t require physical presence; this can be proven by the fact that most mothers love their children well before they are even born. I will love my child forever, and therefore, I will grieve my child forever.

This is just how it goes.

I know it’s difficult for some people to understand my ongoing grief, I guess because they want me to “get better” or return to “normal.” However, I actually am normal. I’m just different now. I believe those who say they want to support me on difficult days like Mother’s Day, but part of this is accepting me as a grieving mother who will always love her deceased child.

This is just how it goes.

Like many things in a grieving mother’s life, Mother’s Day is bittersweet. On the one hand, I feel immense joy because I was blessed with my child and I feel gratitude for every moment I was given with them. On the other hand, the pain of missing my child – my greatest happiness, my life’s purpose, and my best friend – is intense.

This is just how it goes.

All that said, if you ask me what it’s like to grieve a child on Mother’s Day, here’s what I have to say:

This day will forever be hard for me. I live with an emptiness that no one can fill; so I may be sad, I may be unsociable, and I may need to take a break to be by myself in a quiet place. Whatever shape my grief takes on this day, please allow me to feel the way I feel and please follow my lead.

This is just how it goes.

Whatever you do, believe you will make it through the day. With time, the grief storms will grow smaller and less frequent and you will find a little more balance and room to breathe. Believe you will be okay and have hope that in the future you will find yourself in a place where you can grieve and celebrate on Mother’s Day all at the same time.

Let’s take care of each other,

-M

Gary Sturgis - "Surviving Grief"

05/07/2022

💕 Be kind to yourself this weekend. 💕

11/20/2021

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11/18/2021

Praying for all mamas who have lost their children…….may God give us strength today🙏🏼

05/04/2021

04/12/2021

Thinking about all of you. Prayers and hope for everyone

03/04/2021

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12/09/2020

This year I chose a super peaceful tree and tree decor because it’s been such a trying year for all. For those of us who
have lost a child and other family members and then to add deaths and seclusion from this pandemic has made it even more trying. Praying hard for peace, love, comfort, hope and faith for all. I believe we have help from our angels to get us all through this to reunite with all the loved ones we have left and peace knowing our loved ones that have passed are in peace. Much love and PEACE to all.........
Please share your view of the holidays this year.