The Counseling Spot, PLLC

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You have great power to affect the world. Even if you can't feel it, it's there. It's always there.

Power can be a scary thing, especially if you've not had practice with it. You may even fear your own power.

Don't be afraid of it.

Power is only dangerous when it's wielded irresponsibly. We can use our power in dangerous ways or we can use it in beautiful ways.

Your love is powerful. Share it with the world.







It's no wonder so many of us struggle to find happiness within ourselves.

We're surrounded by images of an unattainable perfection that can never be sustained.

We're told aging is a problem, that it makes us less beautiful leading us in a never-ending pursuit of youth.

We begin to equate our value with our looks rather than with what we offer the world around us.

Beauty is more than our appearance. Beauty is deeper than that.

What we leave behind, what we give the world, matters.

Growing older doesn't take away our beauty. Being different doesn't make us less beautiful. We are just as beautiful as the roses in the garden, even if we aren't as tall and striking.

Deeply rooted, grounded and secure in ourselves makes us able to withstand the extremes in life. Sharing our love and wisdom allows others to grow and keep growing even after we're gone.

Strength and resilience & the ability to grow old gracefully, that's true beauty.








It's not about the destination, it's about being able to enjoy the drive. Depression, anxiety, complicated grief, trauma and other mental health obstacles make the road bumpy at best, agonizing at worst.

Your








The definition of compassion is concern for others. You probably have quite a lot of it for friends, family, even strangers.

If you're like a lot of us, you don't have much compassion for yourself. It's very common in our society to save all our compassion for others.

Do we not deserve compassion for ourselves? How'd we come to believe the compassion within us was only for others? More importantly, how did YOU come to believe your compassion belong solely to others?

You need and deserve self-compassion. Sometimes it is what you need most. It's also what's most available (if you leave some for yourself).

Give compassion freely to others, but always save some for yourself.






We don't see it, but trauma leaves a scar on our psyches. Like a physical injury, the scar may hurt or it may be numb, but it's there. It's a reminder that something painful happened.

Some injuries are internal. We don't have a scar. We don't see where the injury occurred. Often we don't feel anything and aren't even aware we're injured. Just because we don't see it or feel it doesn't mean it isn't affecting us.

Trauma is like that, too. We don't always have the physical scars, we don't always feel pain, but it's still there. Not only is it there, but it also has power. Its power can be very destructive.

Trauma may be, and often is, at the root of disease, unexplained physical pain, anxiety, & depression.

You don't have to think about your trauma for it to influence your life. Once you begin working to resolve your trauma, it begins to lose ts power.



Who you keep company with matters. If you want a positive tribe, a tribe who supports and loves you, then it's important to have those same qualities. Love yourself and others. Be compassionate with yourself and supportive to others. Put yourself in the company of like-minded people and they will become your tribe. Choose wisely.









Grief hurts. It's dark and painful; it's sometime unrelenting. It makes sense that we'd want to hurry through it to get to the other side.

Grief demands our attention, and it deserves it. It's here because we've lost something we deeply loved. To hurry it away is to disrespect that love.

No one can tell you how long is long enough. You're grief will evolve at its own pace. As you honor it and give it the space it needs, it will slowly become more manageable. You'll grow around the loss.

Honor your grief and give it space. Let it ebb and flow. Notice the waves and ride them. They will eventually become smaller and they will come around less often. Soon they'll be ripples instead of waves.








So many of us lack some level of confidence. We don't always know why we lack confidence, be we feel it. It's that nervousness in our stomachs when we have to do something we've never done before. It's self-doubt, constantly questioning if we're doing the right thing, asking others to help us make decisions. It's a near constant state of wondering "What if...".

If you haven't experienced being deeply loved, or you weren't given an opportunity to struggle and overcome difficulties on your own, you may experience this lack of confidence. Maybe it's holding you back or getting in the way of your happiness and success.

The good news is you can always build confidence. Every day you are given an opportunity to do hard things on your own. That new job you want, the book you're trying to write, the new skill you're learning, you have what it takes to accomplish these things. You can look for answers not from others but from within yourself. Only you know what you really need. Just because it's hard doesn't mean you can't do it.

Sometimes asking for help IS helping yourself overcome difficulties. Sometimes we do need help from others. When we're struggling emotionally, mentally or physically we need love and help from others. This is where the deep love comes in. Knowing you have people in your life who deeply care about you helps build your confidence. You need people in your life who will encourage you while you struggle and will be there for you if you fall.

We don't always recognize when we need help. You need someone in your life who understands when you need more than they can give. These are the people who encourages you to seek help. These are the people who love you deeply and know that you are more courageous than you realize.

It takes a lot of courage to ask for help when we're struggling emotionally, mentally or physically. It takes courage to try new things, fail and try again. It takes courage to step into fear.

Courage builds confidence, and you are more courageous than your realize. Step into the fear, make the mistakes and notice you're still standing. This is where confidence is born.







On the good days and the bad days, be kind to your mind.

Pay attention to the things you say about your yourself.

Pay attention to the people you allow into your life.

Pay attention to the ways in which other people's beliefs become your own and be kind to your mind. Protect your mind from those people, those thoughts, those false beliefs. Protect it from blame and stop yourself from attacking it.

There is nothing wrong with your mind. It just needs your compassion.






Listening is an active & thoughtful process used to understand another person. Listening builds connection. We feel closer to those who really listen.

Hearing is passive. It doesn't require our attention. We hear all kinds of things, but we aren't always tuned in to everything we hear.

Anyone can hear you. Not everyone will listen. When someone really listens you can feel it. It feels warm and loving. You feel valuable and understood. It feels like empathy.

If you feel dismissed or your experience is being minimized, someone isn't really listening. They may be hearing you, but that's not listening.

Anyone can hear you. Find the ones who listen.







It can be tough to relax and wind down at the end of the day. We hold all the stress and tension from the day in our bodies even if we don't realize it.

Trouble sleeping is often the result of holding in all that stress and tension.

Sometimes it's a struggle to get to sleep. Sometimes the trouble is staying asleep or getting back to sleep. Either way trouble sleeping is a frustrating problem.

You may think trouble sleeping is just the way it is for you, that you're used to it. Remember though, you can be used to something and it can still be a problem.

Poor sleep can exacerbate stress. Not enough quality sleep can increase anxiety and depression and make it more difficult to manage emotions. Lack of quality sleep can also cause brain fog, trouble concentrating and completing tasks. In short, good sleep is pretty important to your mental health and overall wellbeing.

This relaxation exercise is something you can do any time of the day or night. If you use it during the day as a way to recenter yourself and relax, you'll want to stop once you become relaxed and before you become sleepy.

Practicing this during the day is a good way to get the pace down and learn the technique so that you can use it any time.

You don't have to do it perfectly. Consistency is more important than perfection. The more you practice it, the more natural it will become.

This technique isn't going to solve all your sleep problems. If trouble sleeping is a chronic problem for you it's probably worth talking to your doctor or even a counselor or therapist. In the mean time, give this a try tonight.

We wish you a peaceful nights sleep.









In response to COVID-19, we are offering tele-health counseling. If you are feeling the emotional Our therapists provide counseling for children, adolescents, teens, adults, couples and families.

We accept some insurance and also Private Pay. Contact us today for an appointment! For more information, please visit our website at www.thecounselingspot.com.

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04/14/2022

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This is fantastic news!

We are almost there! We're excited to announce that Florida and Kentucky have become the eighth and ninth state to sign the interstate Counseling Compact into law. This is an exciting development as we work toward increasing access to counseling services nationwide!

More info: https://bit.ly/3xmuxzf

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When you feel overwhelmed, heavy, irritable, frustrated, or just generally down, check in with yourself. Do you need some 'me' time? Do you need to take a small step in another direction? Do you need to remind yourself how great you are? Take a minute to give yourself what you need. You deserve good things.


03/24/2022

Good friends and best friends are so important. Whether you have one or many doesn't matter. What matters is that there is someone who listens and wants to know what's happening in your life, and someone with whom you can have adventures in life. Maybe they're the same person. However many you have, know that you are important to them. They love and care about you. They support you and want the best for you. That's what friends do. You need at least one good friend in your life, and if you also have a best friend that's even better. If you feel lonely and don't believe you have friends, it could be that you haven't noticed them. Cultivate the relationships you have to find them. If it's truly that those in your life don't measure up, and sometimes this is the case, it's time to get out of your comfort zone. You deserve friends; good friends and best friends. Find the people you want in your life and nurture those relationships. If they don't grow with your nourishment, maybe they weren't good seeds for your garden. There are many more to choose from. Find the ones who will grow with you.








The Counseling Spot, PLLC updated their address. 03/24/2022

The Counseling Spot, PLLC updated their address.

The Counseling Spot, PLLC updated their address.

03/23/2022
03/23/2022

Independence, dependence, co-dependence... these words are thrown around a lot with respect to relationships. They are also often misused, confused or conflated.

Being dependent isn't necessarily negative. Being independent isn't necessarily positive. Being co-dependent is not the same as being interdependent.

It's important to understand the differences especially in terms of your relationships with others.

Humans are meant to "couple." You were designed to be in a relationship with someone else, to be interdependent with someone. This is how you continue to grow. Going through life with someone who depends on you and who you can depend on is what makes life rich and rewarding.

Fierce independence is independence gone rogue. Just as you were designed to connect to others, you were also designed to be independent. It's a natural part of human development to grow from dependence to independence, to be able to take care of yourself and make your own decisions. Independence has never meant being alone. It's always meant being able to independently function which isn't the same as being alone.

You can be independent and be connected to others. You can maintain you independence in and interdependent relationship.

This is the gray area that's so often difficult to live in, where life gets messy.

Learn to value your independence and honor your need for connection at the same time. Neither is more important than the other and both are necessary for your overall happiness and contentment.









03/23/2022

How do you define your worthiness? By your successes? By your failures? What you have or have not done does not define you. Your worth does increase or decrease because of what you've done or haven't done. You will disappoint others in life. You may even disappoint yourself. This doesn't change the fact that you are worthy of love, compassion, kindness, respect and so much more.





03/23/2022

Your inner critic lives in your head. Like a squeaky wheel it gets your attention in the most annoying ways. Self-doubt, fear, and low self-esteem often come from the constant chatter of your critic. It beats you down. Sometimes its voice is so loud you can't hear anything else. If you can turn down down the volume you might be able to hear the voice of self compassion. This voice lives in you as well, you just can't always hear it. It lives in your heart and it's not as loud or as noisy as the critic. It's an important part of yourself, a voice that seeks to be heard. Quiet your critic and listen to your compassionate voice.




03/22/2022

Your life has purpose and value, even if you can't always feel it or see it. Remind yourself daily and as often as you need to hear it. Say it even if you don't yet believe it. Every day of your life matters because you matter.







03/21/2022

Anxiety doesn't have to be debilitating. Trying to avoid it won't free you from it. Accepting it, knowing that it's there and how it works, empowers you. You can rid yourself of its grip. Then you will be free to be and do what's really you.



03/17/2022

When someone really listens to us, really connects with us and our story, we feel it. It's an experience that's not easy to describe. We often describe it as being "seen."

The one who feels seen is not the only one who feels something profound in that moment. The listener has a similar experience.

The act of truly listening is an art. Listening to what isn't said but is clearly communicated, leaning in, and tuning out the noise around you is much more difficult than people realize. When you truly listen to someone, you learn things. Of course you learn things about them, but you also learn things about yourself. When you connect with another human being's experience you find places within yourself that have been quietly sitting in the dark just waiting for someone to shine a light on them. In truly listening to them, suddenly you are not alone. That part of you is no longer in the dark. The experience is transformative for you both.






03/15/2022

Every step you take moves you along in your journey. You don't have to have it all figured out. Just keep going one minute, one day, one step at a time.









03/15/2022

Good morning!

03/15/2022

We know it's true, so we'll spare you the quote and instead we wish you a very good morning! We hope you're coffee is made just the way you like it!





03/14/2022

The shame spiral is a powerful vortex. It's energy and power comes from the beliefs we have about ourselves. So often we come to believe that we're defined by the mistakes of our pasts.

You are more than your mistakes. Whatever it is you've done in the past that you're not proud of, it doesn't define you as a person. People will judge you, but the most damaging judgement is that you give to yourself.

You were born into this world clean and pure. That is who you are. You've been affected by things that have happened to you since your birth and you've responded or reacted to those things in many different ways. How you've acted doesn't define you. What defines you is how you move forward through your life.

You have strength, power, love, courage, beauty, kindness and capabilities. Nothing you've done in the past has taken those things away from you.







03/14/2022

It's amazing how much our furry family members can help us with our emotions. The physical, mental and emotional benefits include lower blood pressure, decreased anxiety and feelings of connection and love. If you have a pet, you know...





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We have sprung forward! It's an annoying occurrence every year. Some love it, some hate it. Either way, the time change does have an effect on your mental health. At best you may feel especially tired or fatigued today and for up to a couple of weeks. At worst, you may feel symptoms of depression. This is because the quality of your sleep can effect your mental health. If you have depression or other mental health issues, missing just a few hours of good sleep a few nights in a row can cause an increase in your symptoms. You might become more depressed, more irritable, more anxious or may just not feel like yourself.

The best remedy is to be intentional about your adjustment to the time change. Go to bed earlier than your usual time and work your way back up to your normal bedtime. This will allow you to get the sleep you need and will make the transition a bit easier.

If you take medication for depression or anxiety, be diligent with your medication schedule. Forgetfulness can become an issue when you're tired and fatigued and this is definitely not the time to fall off your schedule.

Get yourself through this week and soon you'll be springing around and back to your usual self!




03/10/2022

Let only those bring you peace have access to your heart. Your heart is precious and so is your love.





03/10/2022

Your relationships should be enhancing your life. In healthy relationships we grow. If you're not growing, or worse if you're being stifled, then it's time take inventory. Who in your life brings out the best in you? Who holds you up and pushes you forward? Who sings your praises? Who grows with you? They are the ones who serve your best interest. Keep them and nurture those relationships.

Who hold you back? Who pushes you down? Who criticizes you? Who stifles your growth? They are not serving your best and highest good. They are not enhancing your life. Let them go. Free up the room to include more positive relationships in your life. You deserve it.








03/10/2022

It's easy to fall into the trap of focusing on the ones who hurt you. Asking "why," trying to make sense of what makes others do what they do, questioning yourself...it drains your energy.

Focusing on them and what they've done gives them more power over you. Don't let anyone steal your power. Don't let anyone who's hurt you take up precious space in your head or your heart. Instead, focus on those who pull you up when you're down. Focus on the people in your life who replenish your energy and are there when you need them. That's what matters.





03/09/2022
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In honor of women everywhere on . Know your worth. There is space for you, not because of how you look (or don't look), but because you deserve it on your own merit. Stand tall and take your seat at the table.








03/08/2022

Have you heard this one before? You might have heard it from a loved one after sharing how you feel in the relationship and what you need from them. It's frustrating! And it's BS.

If they say they're sorry and then say essentially that they don't intend to change, are they really sorry?

We all have room to grow, and that includes growing up. Growing up means being able to reflect on ourselves and our relationships and take other people's perspectives into account. It also means doing something with that information, something that moves us deeper into our relationships.

If it feels like you're in a relationship with a teenager, you probably are. Not literally, of course. They may be of adult age, but that doesn't mean they're grown up.








03/03/2022

You have great power to affect the world. Even if you can't feel it, it's there. It's always there.

Power can be a scary thing, especially if you've not had practice with it. You may even fear your own power.

Don't be afraid of it.

Power is only dangerous when it's wielded irresponsibly. We can use our power in dangerous ways or we can use it in beautiful ways.

Your love is powerful. Share it with the world.







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It's no wonder so many of us struggle to find happiness within ourselves.

We're surrounded by images of an unattainable perfection that can never be sustained.

We're told aging is a problem, that it makes us less beautiful leading us in a never-ending pursuit of youth.

We begin to equate our value with our looks rather than with what we offer the world around us.

Beauty is more than our appearance. Beauty is deeper than that.

What we leave behind, what we give the world, matters.

Growing older doesn't take away our beauty. Being different doesn't make us less beautiful. We are just as beautiful as the roses in the garden, even if we aren't as tall and striking.

Deeply rooted, grounded and secure in ourselves makes us able to withstand the extremes in life. Sharing our love and wisdom allows others to grow and keep growing even after we're gone.

Strength and resilience & the ability to grow old gracefully, that's true beauty.








03/03/2022

It's not about the destination, it's about being able to enjoy the drive. Depression, anxiety, complicated grief, trauma and other mental health obstacles make the road bumpy at best, agonizing at worst.

Your








03/01/2022

The definition of compassion is concern for others. You probably have quite a lot of it for friends, family, even strangers.

If you're like a lot of us, you don't have much compassion for yourself. It's very common in our society to save all our compassion for others.

Do we not deserve compassion for ourselves? How'd we come to believe the compassion within us was only for others? More importantly, how did YOU come to believe your compassion belong solely to others?

You need and deserve self-compassion. Sometimes it is what you need most. It's also what's most available (if you leave some for yourself).

Give compassion freely to others, but always save some for yourself.






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We don't see it, but trauma leaves a scar on our psyches. Like a physical injury, the scar may hurt or it may be numb, but it's there. It's a reminder that something painful happened.

Some injuries are internal. We don't have a scar. We don't see where the injury occurred. Often we don't feel anything and aren't even aware we're injured. Just because we don't see it or feel it doesn't mean it isn't affecting us.

Trauma is like that, too. We don't always have the physical scars, we don't always feel pain, but it's still there. Not only is it there, but it also has power. Its power can be very destructive.

Trauma may be, and often is, at the root of disease, unexplained physical pain, anxiety, & depression.

You don't have to think about your trauma for it to influence your life. Once you begin working to resolve your trauma, it begins to lose ts power.



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