Power can be a scary thing, especially if you've not had practice with it. You may even fear your own power.
Don't be afraid of it.
Power is only dangerous when it's wielded irresponsibly. We can use our power in dangerous ways or we can use it in beautiful ways.
Your love is powerful. Share it with the world.
We're surrounded by images of an unattainable perfection that can never be sustained.
We're told aging is a problem, that it makes us less beautiful leading us in a never-ending pursuit of youth.
We begin to equate our value with our looks rather than with what we offer the world around us.
Beauty is more than our appearance. Beauty is deeper than that.
What we leave behind, what we give the world, matters.
Growing older doesn't take away our beauty. Being different doesn't make us less beautiful. We are just as beautiful as the roses in the garden, even if we aren't as tall and striking.
Deeply rooted, grounded and secure in ourselves makes us able to withstand the extremes in life. Sharing our love and wisdom allows others to grow and keep growing even after we're gone.
Strength and resilience & the ability to grow old gracefully, that's true beauty.
If you're like a lot of us, you don't have much compassion for yourself. It's very common in our society to save all our compassion for others.
Do we not deserve compassion for ourselves? How'd we come to believe the compassion within us was only for others? More importantly, how did YOU come to believe your compassion belong solely to others?
You need and deserve self-compassion. Sometimes it is what you need most. It's also what's most available (if you leave some for yourself).
Give compassion freely to others, but always save some for yourself.
Some injuries are internal. We don't have a scar. We don't see where the injury occurred. Often we don't feel anything and aren't even aware we're injured. Just because we don't see it or feel it doesn't mean it isn't affecting us.
Trauma is like that, too. We don't always have the physical scars, we don't always feel pain, but it's still there. Not only is it there, but it also has power. Its power can be very destructive.
Trauma may be, and often is, at the root of disease, unexplained physical pain, anxiety, & depression.
You don't have to think about your trauma for it to influence your life. Once you begin working to resolve your trauma, it begins to lose ts power.
Grief demands our attention, and it deserves it. It's here because we've lost something we deeply loved. To hurry it away is to disrespect that love.
No one can tell you how long is long enough. You're grief will evolve at its own pace. As you honor it and give it the space it needs, it will slowly become more manageable. You'll grow around the loss.
Honor your grief and give it space. Let it ebb and flow. Notice the waves and ride them. They will eventually become smaller and they will come around less often. Soon they'll be ripples instead of waves.
If you haven't experienced being deeply loved, or you weren't given an opportunity to struggle and overcome difficulties on your own, you may experience this lack of confidence. Maybe it's holding you back or getting in the way of your happiness and success.
The good news is you can always build confidence. Every day you are given an opportunity to do hard things on your own. That new job you want, the book you're trying to write, the new skill you're learning, you have what it takes to accomplish these things. You can look for answers not from others but from within yourself. Only you know what you really need. Just because it's hard doesn't mean you can't do it.
Sometimes asking for help IS helping yourself overcome difficulties. Sometimes we do need help from others. When we're struggling emotionally, mentally or physically we need love and help from others. This is where the deep love comes in. Knowing you have people in your life who deeply care about you helps build your confidence. You need people in your life who will encourage you while you struggle and will be there for you if you fall.
We don't always recognize when we need help. You need someone in your life who understands when you need more than they can give. These are the people who encourages you to seek help. These are the people who love you deeply and know that you are more courageous than you realize.
It takes a lot of courage to ask for help when we're struggling emotionally, mentally or physically. It takes courage to try new things, fail and try again. It takes courage to step into fear.
Courage builds confidence, and you are more courageous than your realize. Step into the fear, make the mistakes and notice you're still standing. This is where confidence is born.
Pay attention to the things you say about your yourself.
Pay attention to the people you allow into your life.
Pay attention to the ways in which other people's beliefs become your own and be kind to your mind. Protect your mind from those people, those thoughts, those false beliefs. Protect it from blame and stop yourself from attacking it.
There is nothing wrong with your mind. It just needs your compassion.
Hearing is passive. It doesn't require our attention. We hear all kinds of things, but we aren't always tuned in to everything we hear.
Anyone can hear you. Not everyone will listen. When someone really listens you can feel it. It feels warm and loving. You feel valuable and understood. It feels like empathy.
If you feel dismissed or your experience is being minimized, someone isn't really listening. They may be hearing you, but that's not listening.
Anyone can hear you. Find the ones who listen.
Trouble sleeping is often the result of holding in all that stress and tension.
Sometimes it's a struggle to get to sleep. Sometimes the trouble is staying asleep or getting back to sleep. Either way trouble sleeping is a frustrating problem.
You may think trouble sleeping is just the way it is for you, that you're used to it. Remember though, you can be used to something and it can still be a problem.
Poor sleep can exacerbate stress. Not enough quality sleep can increase anxiety and depression and make it more difficult to manage emotions. Lack of quality sleep can also cause brain fog, trouble concentrating and completing tasks. In short, good sleep is pretty important to your mental health and overall wellbeing.
This relaxation exercise is something you can do any time of the day or night. If you use it during the day as a way to recenter yourself and relax, you'll want to stop once you become relaxed and before you become sleepy.
Practicing this during the day is a good way to get the pace down and learn the technique so that you can use it any time.
You don't have to do it perfectly. Consistency is more important than perfection. The more you practice it, the more natural it will become.
This technique isn't going to solve all your sleep problems. If trouble sleeping is a chronic problem for you it's probably worth talking to your doctor or even a counselor or therapist. In the mean time, give this a try tonight.
We wish you a peaceful nights sleep.