09/02/2025
Worth being patient and reading every word. Let it soak in and allow us all to SEE what’s actually happening, to HEAR the lie told as absolute truth, and SMELL a rat 🐀 when it’s coated in an orange face.
Dear Brave Souls: Almas valientes:
Here is one of the last 'birdie bites' of 'The Lost Manual': how souls can be taken prisoner by ideas, conditions, situations and others who do not have the soul's interest at heart, rather in 'a creeping' and barely perceptible cunning manner,
encroaching more and more as a blood sucker, by sidling up to a true soul's natural liking and longing for meaning, caring for others, and a sense of doing good, being needed and/or loved.
There is nothing wrong with any of those longings. But something truly wrong about the predator who wishes to thieve the resources of other souls for themselves only, and give nothing of lasting value in aware reciprocity.
This is here written to help decide refutations and summonings, to give the bones of how self-sovereignty is held and how it can be harmed. For you to decide. In service of your balance and good life now and in the future.
Remember butterflies have predators too: lizards, and insects like spiders, parasitic wasps, and bats, rodents, etc., can also eat butterflies... Yet butterflies fend off predators. Well similar to how humans fend off toxic ideas, people and groups.
Camouflage; close your wings and when predator is not looking or is onto their next whatever, fly away.
Looking poisonous on purpose [ok I cant write that without laughing. You know why. lol.]
Using their 'eye spots' on their wings to look much larger than they are, stunning and chasing off the predator.
Flying in a wavery indistinct pattern to elude predators who cant keep up.
Eating milkweed so as to signal that la mariposa will taste very bad and likely sicken the predator who is so unwise. [I’m still laughing, I hope you are also. Don’t we all know someone who...? lol].
--The Greatest Threat to the Soul's Freedom
The greatest threat to any ser humano, true soul's freedom to strive toward one's own calling, to be as one is born to be ...often doesn't arrive with a sudden harsh right-hand turn, but with a whisper.
Losing one's own self slightly or completely is often a slow, insidious process that will leave a person alternately chronically tired, confused, puzzled, disoriented--
for ultimately, the goal of those who drain, exploit or use others, whether consciously or unconsciously-- is to live off the heartful. and often innocent energy of another's soul.
-- for the overbearing one has often forsaken their own soul for whichever reasons... and instead seeks to feast on the energies and works and ideas and resources of others--
The idea of turning toward self-consciousness and the work it takes to listen to their own soul and to grant their own soul its own crown-- instead often filled with ego-ambition, they self-centeredly steal the crowns belonging to others.
Often oddly, while praising the victims of their thefts, in order to attempt to cover their tracks.
--THE POOR FROG analogy
Though I am not keen on this old story of speaking about a living creature going from being welcomed --in comfort often at first-- and then dealt gradual 'drain and pain'
.. it is a poignant story that shows how a human being, ultra sensitive, often naively cannot see capture coming toward them licking its lips and lolling its tongue.
The process of capture goes like this: if someone dropped a frog into a pot of boiling water, it would immediately try to leap out to save itself. But if one placed a frog in a cool, comfortable water and slowly increased the temperature, the frog will adjust to the rising heat until weakened over a long time, it is much harder to easily escape.
This letter to you is a gentle reminder to follow what I know you already know:
let you soul, not your ire or desire, lead your choices and endeavors and engagements in life.
Remember/ understand this process in the context of any new endeavor or long-term endeavor/engagement. It is good to recognize the subtle signs of a society, family, workplace, relationship, friendship that causes one to lose rather than 'r and g,'' rise and grow.'
Here are the ways to resist the often silent, sneaky takeover of a soul-- by ideas and/or persons and/or groups that promise often the moon --but give only gray smoke to occlude their truly alarming greed to strip and maim others in order to main their own very ill goals.
----The First Signs: A Promise of Comfort, relationship, safety, excitement, meaning.
When an idea or person or group pulls up beside you walking along in life, often unguarded and alone-- it/ they rarely present as a threat. Instead, often solutions to your anxieties or longings are offered. Very clever.
I call it 'sneaking up on the back-door dream' that most all of us carry. The user can often read this secret longing, whatever it may be, as though psychic --and often moves to give the appearance of being able to fulfill the dream.
But usually cannot, and will not, for their game is a whole other purposeful theft of another's soul, not fulfillment of the soulful longing of another.
The promises whether a group or person or idea are often along the lines of a return to a "better time," stability of a certain kind, or a restoration of meaning... all promised to calm the emptiness or longing of a soul who is in the midst of neglect or abuse or perceived chaos of any kind.
These promises act as the cool water in the boiling frog analogy. They make people feel comfortable and safe, leading them to willingly accept initial changes that, on the surface, seem harmless or even beneficial.
This is the phase where the new idea, person, group, offer of job etc., gains trust by appearing to act in your best interest. They/ it may focus on your griefs, sadnesses, directionlessness, longings, talents, creativity--
carried for a long time--often 'normalizing' that of course you feel these things, there are so many who have the same griefs and gifts who are also unrecognized.
--But now because of person x or idea y or group z, you are saved at last. By joining the true idea that you are special but also in need of tender helps only x, y, or z can provide...
Y ou join the false narrative that you are in whatever way, being raised up to a greater level than you ever had a chance to find before-- whether economically, spiritually, status-wise, being acknowledged, awarded, held, loved.
One may now be told they are a brave person, a precious gift fighting to live, often against the tide of some other 'out-of-touch persons' who just didn’t do right by you.
--How One's Freedoms are gradually stripped away:
Once whomever has a controlling foothold, the "water" begins to heat up. The changes become more significant but are implemented so gradually that they often go unnoticed by the average person. The following steps are not random; they are a calculated strategy to dismantle the guard rails that hold a person in True Self.
[for a long time did not want to believe that some calculate how to harm others by at first nice-then bad- and then worse assaults. I did not understand how a person or group or endeavor by some could be thought-out in advance with malice, or intuited with razor sharp precision about how to befriend then betray others.]
[ I would offer you again what my father József would say when I would ask Why dad, why is such and such so deeply evil? And he would say, and I stand on this now, and gently suggest to you... "Ve kanote oonderstnt efil. Fer ve air note." We cannot understand evil, for we are not.]
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--Limiting Freedom to have friends who have other ideas and greater consciousness.
--creating a kind of monopoly on information by taking direct control of who one talks to, when and where, and for how long. Truths and learnings are endangered then, wherein the predator becomes the only one who shapes and makes insistent inputs esp. re the innocent soul's failings --failing to essentially glorify the predator.
--Silencing your reasonings, pleas, truths:
Harassment is the main technique, shaming, ignoring reasoned conversations, humiliating, scorning especially... you are wrong, as weak, as jealous as whatever words cause the Child Spirit to wither.
--Punished for protesting assaultive cruel treatment.
Cold shoulder, purposely ignoring your suffering, withdrawal of financial support, shelter, mockery of the innocent soul... One is not allowed to challenge the 'official narrative' that is riddled with falsehoods and craftiness.
--Controlling the Narrative of your ways of seeing and hearing.
In our time, one of the most common ways to try to control others by a tyrant-- is to impose themselves on other's use of the internet. One can be forbidden access to other voices on the internet that are far more sane and teach how to especially, stand for one's own soul.
A predator may shut down other's accounts or control passwords. This creates a closed information ecosystem where the predator’s version of reality is the only one that is said to exist-- or else.
--Controlling your experiences and knowings:
Rewriting History: to an abuser, the abuse never happened. Any truthful charge against an ill person is met with anger that anyone dare confront any truth. Abuser-approved facts only.
--Imposing Ideology:
One is expected to parrot the abuser's ideology, and if one tries to have a mind and heart of one's own, the response is again often humiliation, harassment, intimidation or being told one is crazy. In relationship or groups, in families, this is supposed to also pressure that the next generation is taught to be obedient/ unquestioning. Or the opposite, to rebel and twist away without regard for self.
--Targeting the Heart and Soul and Child Spirit, Mind and Body: The Scapegoat:
After isolating at first with welcome that feels so good, then-- whatever goes wrong for the predator becomes your fault. This is their excuse for acting out, for doing bad deeds, for milking money away from family needs -- all because, they say, we didn’t give enough, just weren’t 'enough' in any number of ways...
we were not enough, soon enough, long enough, ad nauseum. This is a sick person's view that distorts the world in order to make innocent persons try harder-- so predator can continue siphoning off other's energies and helps and talents that ought belong only to each individual, to share if and as they wish.
Self-sovereignty is ever the target of the abuser.
--Scapegoating others as being insufficient,
deflects attention from the abuser's own failures and cruelties, and creates -- they think-- a perfectly reasonable justification for all kinds of false flag throwing, and demeaning, soul-betraying behaviors toward the poor striving innocent.
--Surveillance can become a key tool of control.
Includes digital monitoring as mentioned, and as ways and means increase in our time, facial recognition technology, and also a small network of 'buddies' or 'like-thinkers' who become the ill person's often thoughtless and clueless network of 'informants' about 'the scapegoat.'
--The purpose is not just to capture us but to create an atmosphere of fear and distrust, where many are reluctant or afraid to speak their true minds, tell their own stories, conduct life of the soul --as they are called.
--Loss of Friends/ Community:
As we might become more afraid of just being seen, or saying a word of truth, there may be a pulling away of participating in public gatherings, a stopping of trusting that others will listen and help us. The fabric of true friendships can fall away then, leaving the innocent with a tyrant, that no one dares approach.
--Others are often well aware of the illness inherent in the tyrant,
and choose not to engage out of their own desire for self-preservation.
--The Trap Closes... [but there can be better outcomes
regardless of one's scars --which will now, with our assent, become our able and flexible awarenesses-- and gentle or fierce armor---whichever is needed in whichever moment.]
By the time the water is boiling, the innocent, lulled by a false sense of security and distracted by the tyrant's many manufactured crises, is now captured.
The thoughts, values that once protected sense of self—freedom to speak, listen, learn, in one's own ways—
are now self-embargoed for fear of further cruelties toward Child Spirit. True Self has been neutralized, and others who are witnesses are too afraid to act.
--At this point, the tyrant can often do as he/ she/ they wish.
Confiscate clothing/ belongings; break or hide treasured things; exile seeming opponents; try to harm those who love you; harm or "do away with by attempting to silence" anything/anyone it deems a threat-- meaning those who inquire, or say their own piece.
The initial promises of belonging, safety, prospering, logical progressions toward good, are purposely and malignantly bypassed-- replaced by often soul-tearing, brutal day-to-day uninterrupted trials.
--Better outcomes: How to Seek Self-Sovereignty is through pinning down facts and truths: Precise Steps...
To avoid being "run over or slowly boiled," we strive to become active truth-seekers-- beforehand.
This is a skill that requires conscious effort and a commitment to Soul, Child Spirit, Heart, Body, Mindful honesty. It is also called "Learning to think clearly," and "Learning to be pro-active," and "Doing Deeper Research."
--Start with Self-Awareness: Ask and answer: What are our own biases and emotional triggers? What are our needinesses? Once, having been run over, or more than once, now:
Before one accepts or rejects a person, endeavor, idea or piece of information, ask, "Do I believe this because it confirms what I already think/ want/ long for, or is it based on factual evidence that is solid and unwavering long term?"
--Choose more than one information source:
whether about a person, group or idea: A wider range of sources, including those from different persons' viewpoints and different ethnicities and nations might bring much more to light that one can depend on. This also prevents you from being trapped in a single, closed-off ecosystem.
-- Be Skeptical of Emotional Appeals [I know, I know]: Be wary of information designed to make you angry, afraid, or outraged. Repeat: tyrants and abusers often want to get you to rise in righteous anger, to be outraged and/or reel you in with frightening perils ... Strong emotions can misjudge, and a user is often using emotion-- in you-- as their very common tactic to lure you,
as in bluebeard, taking you to the picnic with lovely little sandwiches, and horses decorated in rose petals and red ribbons -- while keeping 'a secret killing floor' aimed at young women in his black castle of broken promises.
--Resistance, Severing, Turning Away from...
The key to resisting this slow creep of tyranny is to recognize it early. Cannot be complacent. Instead, cherish and fiercely protect the very bones of living free as is meant.
• Have your own ideas and preferences.
Rely on facts [backbone instead of wishbone]. [t/y ER]
• Stand up for, against, to, self sovereignty for all souls. Teach other souls to do the same.
• Question whatever you wish, esp. if someone, something, some group promising easy answers to complex matters.
• Fight against inflated egos, deflated Child Spirit, isolation. remain friends with creatures and Nature and others.
----By understanding what can go so wrong, we learn to see clearly how to go better, far better.
We now know the lure, the trick of the calm cool water at first, and the heart-rending broken promises after. We don’t ever have to agree to be diminished ever by anyone, anything, any group, idea.
The boiling frog analogy is a serious caution, but/ and, with consciousness of the ways of energy drains, soul ripping by tyrants, abusers, predators etc., who slowly vampirize/ boil others--
it is never, ever, a lasting inevitability.
This comes with love for your heart of such decency.
I can see you.
Love for your caring and careful mind.
Love for your precious Child Spirit.
Love for your body consort, that she/ he/they be well and better.
Love for your sweet heart, my little biscochitos [my little sugar cookies]...
Next comes the great Awakening: the refutations and summonings.
Stay tuned dear hearts.
dr. e
