10/14/2025
💜 It’s that time again! Who’s in? Who’s out? The group Halloween costume can cause irreparable damage. Every October, hours are spent strategizing, excluding, and crying over group Halloween costumes. For whatever reason, middle school girls particularly use this as an extreme power-play of social status. Other demographics fall victim to this as well, but none more than middle school girls.
If you have a daughter, please ask questions about their group Halloween costume. (Boys too!) Ask these questions and really listen to the answers:
🖤 Who came up with the idea?
💜 How many people are in it?
🧡 Was anyone from your friend group left out?
🖤 How did this come about?
💜 Can other people be added to this theme?
🧡 Is there a limit?
🖤 Is 1 mom ordering everything for the group?
There are 1 million ways to have a limitless group costume idea. Here are a few: skeletons, zombies, crayons, soda pops, m&ms, deck of cards, Barbie world, Harry Potter houses, fruits/veggies, cops & robbers, cowgirls, Minions, Disney characters, breakfast club foods, tourists, weather forecasts, sports fans, referees, occupations, haunted carnival characters, babies, cheerleaders, airline attendants, Greek goddesses, mad scientists, etc.
Here are a few that do NOT work and tend to be exclusive:
Many 2 person ideas such as Thing 1 & 2, salt and pepper, Mario and Luigi, peanut butter and jelly. Some 3 person costumes can also be problematic. Sanderson sisters, Alvin, and the Chipmunks, snap, crackle and pop, Powerpuff girls, rock, paper scissors, kiss, marry, kill.
The list goes on and on for things that don’t work. The Wizard of Oz, inside out emotions, mean girls.
This might sound trivial, but I cannot express the hurt that this night causes for so many girls.
Do you have other ideas?
Something that has worked well?
Please share them below.
Let’s do a better job on this fun holiday for our young people.
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