Lupus Freedom

09/06/2025

Self-toxicity is the worst kind of toxicity!

09/01/2025

08/30/2025

The hardest part of shutting down guilt trips? Step 3—saying, “I care about you, but I’m making the choice that’s best for me.”

Why? Because it risks disappointing someone. But remember—disappointing others is not the same as betraying yourself.

Every time you choose peace over pressure, you remind yourself: your voice matters.

Healthy love doesn’t guilt—it respects.

08/24/2025

YOU ARE THE GLOW! Don't forget!

08/24/2025

Some people wear their kindness like a costume.
They’ll shower you with praise in public, post you like you’re royalty, brag about you to anyone who will listen—
and then tear you apart in private.
That’s not love. That’s manipulation.
And when you think about leaving, the fear whispers: “No one will believe me. They’ll think I’m the problem.”
Here’s the truth:
✔️ Your pain doesn’t need an audience to be real.
✔️ Their mask doesn’t cancel out your story.
✔️ You don’t owe silence to protect someone else’s image.
Your peace matters more than their performance.
Walk away anyway.
Save this if it hits home. Share it if you know someone who needs to hear it.

08/23/2025

When someone is caught up in toxicity, they can’t always name what they need. Gaslighting, guilt, and exhaustion make it almost impossible to say, “Can you help me with this?”

That’s why I stopped saying “let me know if you need anything.” Instead, I pay attention and step in: call them, bring food, remind them of who they are, or just sit with them so they don’t feel alone.

Toxicity already convinces people they’re a burden. The last thing they need is another reason to believe it.

Sometimes love is showing up uninvited, but right on time.

09/03/2024

Good morning!

Here is an excerpt from my latest Brainz Magazine article!

“But let me tell you something: This cape is heavy. And it's not just heavy it's suffocating. The expectation to always be strong and have it together slowly but surely wears us down. It's leading to burnout, depression, anxiety, and a host of other mental health issues that we've been taught to ignore or dismiss.”

I've been told I am strong for as long as I can remember. It's a compliment with a knowing nod, a sense of pride, and a deep history...

08/21/2024

Good morning!

Here is an excerpt from my latest Brainz article! Read the full article at the link below!

"When we talk about trauma, we often think of severe cases like physical abuse or neglect—situations I saw frequently in my early career. However, trauma can take many forms, and all of them can leave lasting scars that show up in adult relationships."

Early in my career, I worked as a Child Protective Services (CPS) investigator, fresh out of college and eager to make a difference.

07/23/2024

In mental health, the therapeutic relationship is pivotal for effective treatment outcomes. However, the cultural and historical contexts that shape the experiences of Black women can present unique challenges for White psychotherapists. To foster an environment where Black women feel understood, validated, and supported, it is essential for therapists to develop cultural competence, acknowledge systemic inequalities, and employ tailored therapeutic approaches. My latest article delves into strategies and insights for White psychotherapists aiming to meet the unique needs of Black women in therapy, ensuring a more inclusive and practical therapeutic experience.

Are you a White therapist struggling to connect with your Black women clients? Do you find it challenging to build the crucial rapport...

06/12/2024

Hello all! Here is the link to the exclusive interview I did with Brainz Magazine. The idea is for the readers to get to know the contributors.

Dr. Nichelle Chandler has over twenty years of experience in counseling, coaching, and psychotherapy. She specializes in substance use...

06/05/2024

I'm thrilled to announce that I've accepted an offer to be an Executive Contributor to Brainz Magazine! Over the next few months, I'll write regular articles about mental health, and I can't wait to share them with you all. Keep an eye out for my posts!

Brainz Magazine is a rapidly growing global digital publication that covers everything from Business and Lifestyle to Mindset, Sustainability, and Leadership. It reaches over 300,000 people each week across more than 65 countries!

Brainz Magazine is renowned for featuring insights from top entrepreneurs, small and medium-sized business owners, scientists, and influential leaders, all hand-picked for their expertise. It's a tremendous privilege to share my knowledge with a diverse and engaged audience. I'm grateful for this opportunity and look forward to contributing to the magazine!

If you're curious, check out Brainz Magazine for some inspiring, educational, and motivational articles: brainzmagazine.com.

I appreciate your support!

Dr. Nichelle