Shameela Keshavjee, MS, LMFT

Shameela Keshavjee, MS, LMFT Virtual Relationship Therapist in Texas and Kansas. I am an online licensed marriage and family therapist.

I am committed to offering you a supportive space to explore the concerns that are preventing you from living the life you deserve. I work with individuals, couples, teens, and young adults to develop healthier relationships, improve communication, and increase self-awareness. You will experience greater self-confidence as you learn the skills you need to cope with life's challenges and develop a

sense of fulfillment and satisfaction. I also provide supervision for clinicians seeking licensure as an LMFT in Texas.

Mental (or emotional) labor takes a toll on us and our relationships. 1. AnalyzingYou’re doing someone else’s therapeuti...
10/01/2024

Mental (or emotional) labor takes a toll on us and our relationships.

1. Analyzing
You’re doing someone else’s therapeutic work or you’re trying to be the therapist for them!
You think about their history and trauma to make sense of their behavior, when they should be processing that for themselves. In the meantime, you are missing out on your own experience and avoiding any work you need to be doing.

2. Monitoring
Your antennae are always up, as you’re watching and waiting for the atmosphere to change. Maybe your goal is to avoid conflict and to maintain peace. Maybe you feel responsible for managing others’ emotions and reactions. On one hand, this can feel intrusive to others, and on the other, it’s exhausting for you!

3. Planning
You’re ruminating about how you can influence someone else’s future reactions. You’re trying to control an outcome, when in reality, the only thing you can control is yourself.

What makes you feel responsible for maintaining your relationships by yourself?
How safe do you feel?
What do you fear will happen if you focus on your experience and let them be responsible for theirs?

Rest is important. For some of us, rest feels inaccessible, like a betrayal, or even shameful.Check in with yourself:Wha...
09/06/2024

Rest is important.

For some of us, rest feels inaccessible, like a betrayal, or even shameful.

Check in with yourself:

What messaging have you received about rest?
What structures and systems exist that create obstacles for you to access rest?
Where can you seek support?
What is the smallest version of rest you can allow yourself?
What would you like rest to mean to you?

Bigger Houses started playing while I was sitting in my own therapist’s waiting room, and this line offered me a lovely ...
07/05/2024

Bigger Houses started playing while I was sitting in my own therapist’s waiting room, and this line offered me a lovely reminder that no lasting change can be rooted in a sense of worthlessness or deficit.

Nothing will ever feel like enough until you know that you are good enough exactly as you are and that you are exactly where you’re meant to be. There is room to grow and opportunity to explore, AND you already have value.

Simple and sweet, this is the message I come back to, time and time again.


It’s often easier to harden yourself, to cut off from your emotions, or to put up walls with other people. But that only...
04/24/2024

It’s often easier to harden yourself, to cut off from your emotions, or to put up walls with other people. But that only creates isolation and separateness. It creates more suffering.

When you choose softness, you begin with compassion and connection. You remember that your pain is real and that you are not alone in it.
You also remember what you deserve, and when it’s necessary, you stand your ground and set limits, for yourself and others.

Leaning into softness means tapping into humanity. You have to face what hurts and then make choices that contribute to your wellbeing. You also have to face the harm that you’ve caused and be accountable.

Softness is powerful because it requires you to be grounded, thoughtful, and intentional, without losing sight of your vulnerability and heart.

Over the past several years, there’s been an overemphasis on finding your purpose. For some of us, it’s a helpful concep...
04/12/2024

Over the past several years, there’s been an overemphasis on finding your purpose. For some of us, it’s a helpful concept that gives our lives direction and maybe even meaning. But for the rest of us, it creates unnecessary pressure and expectation.

The idea of finding your purpose assumes there’s one right livelihood that will lead to fulfillment. So what happens if you haven’t figured out what that is? What does it mean if you don’t know how to find your bliss?

Probably nothing.

I’m all for living a purpose-driven life, but give yourself a break! It’s unlikely that every person on earth has one path they are supposed to follow that will make their life meaningful.

It’s more likely that each one of you has many pathways to meaning and fulfillment. It’s also likely that your passions will ebb and flow over time. You don’t have to pick one. You don’t have to pick any. You can pick as many as you want!

You can also explore the many options in front of you to see which ones light you up.
Don’t worry about finding that one blazing fire.
Ignite as many small flames as you like.

What a beautiful sentiment! What would it be like for you to dedicate conscious effort to seeking joy? What if you made ...
04/01/2024

What a beautiful sentiment! What would it be like for you to dedicate conscious effort to seeking joy?
What if you made it a part of your daily practice to create and engage with joy in a way that feels meaningful to you? I encourage you to explore and to play in whatever way your heart desires.

Thank you, for your call to joy as a way to heal and to live.

You’ve figured out that if you want to make change, you don’t want to start from a place of deficit. You’ve learned that...
03/27/2024

You’ve figured out that if you want to make change, you don’t want to start from a place of deficit.
You’ve learned that starting from the idea that you’re not good enough just makes your efforts feel like they are falling short.

So when you decide to change from a place of self-acceptance, what does that mean?

It means you know that you are good enough as you are AND have room to grow.

You get to change because you want to, not because you’re chasing some unrealistic standard or to make up for what you think you lack today.

You choose to change on your own terms, in ways that align with the life you want to create.

Changing from self-acceptance is about knowing your worth and knowing you deserve better things.

The hope is that our relationships are the places we get to be fully ourselves. points to her marriage in this quote, b...
03/25/2024

The hope is that our relationships are the places we get to be fully ourselves. points to her marriage in this quote, but even she recognizes the value of friends and family in holding ourselves up.

Sometimes it’s a combination of different relationships that allow us to feel free to express ourselves openly. Sometimes it’s an environment that offers us freedom. Sometimes it’s the relationship we have with ourselves that unlocks the door to intimacy with others.

Take a moment to reflect. Where do you feel you can be fully yourself?

There’s an inordinate amount of pain in the world right now. It’s tempting to turn away and to numb yourself. But the fa...
03/22/2024

There’s an inordinate amount of pain in the world right now. It’s tempting to turn away and to numb yourself. But the fact that you feel anger, grief, sadness, disgust, etc., at the atrocities that are taking place in Palestine, the Congo, Sudan — it means that you’re alive. It means you’re human and have a heart.

While it’s important to be mindful of how much you take in at any given time, don’t close yourself off to the suffering of others. Allow yourself to connect, empathize, and maybe even act. Recognize the love that exists beneath the pain.

I thank for the reminder to cherish our humanity as a healing practice.

We’re complex. Whether we’re reacting to something that’s happened or just thinking about our lives, we can have a varie...
03/20/2024

We’re complex. Whether we’re reacting to something that’s happened or just thinking about our lives, we can have a variety of thoughts and feelings pop up at the same time.

When those thoughts and feelings contradict each other, it can be confusing and uncomfortable. But it’s totally normal, and if we let ourselves, we can hold all of it.

We’re human. We’re not all one thing or another. So let’s take the time to explore all the parts of us that coexist.

Where did you learn that being honest with yourself meant focusing only on your flaws? You have strengths and abilities ...
03/18/2024

Where did you learn that being honest with yourself meant focusing only on your flaws?
You have strengths and abilities that have brought you to where you are now.
Those aspects of yourself deserve your attention and appreciation.
Your positive attributes are the very things that will help you overcome your challenges and grow into your potential.
So when you reflect on yourself, reflect on ALL of yourself.
See yourself clearly: you have room to grow AND you already have a lot to offer.

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I am a licensed marriage and family therapist. I am committed to offering you a supportive environment to explore the concerns that are preventing you from living the life you deserve. I work with individuals, couples, teens, and young adults to develop healthier relationships, improve communication, and increase self-awareness. You will experience greater self-confidence as you learn the skills you need to cope with life's challenges and develop a sense of fulfillment and satisfaction. I also provide supervision for clinicians seeking licensure as an LMFT in Texas. ***Please be aware that there are limits to your confidentiality on this page. This page is not intended to provide therapeutic services. If you are interested in therapy, please contact me via phone or email. My contact information is listed above. If you post personal information on my page, you are choosing to waive your own rights to confidentiality. If you send me personal information in a private message, I will encourage you to contact me via phone or professional email. Thank you.***