
08/28/2025
When you are projecting your wounds onto a lover, you won't be fully self aware of it. You perceive them as the problem.. maybe even fall in love with their potential and get caught in the fixer trap... if you are in love with potential and not who someone is today, I hate to break it to you, you will always be disappointed and let down.
The key here is to stop projecting the fixer mentality on them and come home to yourself!
You can't force someone to fit into your version of who you think they need to become... you are stuck obsessing over them and the relationship because you are avoiding yourself.. your trauma, your shadow, your pain is the place to start.
It's the innerwork that "fixes" the relationship bc at the end of the day you are 50% of the problem you are perceiving ... do your inner work with someone who is willing to support you and do their own. That is when relationships can be healed.
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