07/08/2025
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Before you make a conclusion on my last post, check your location. Because not all of us have access to your kind of healthcare.
I’ve seen a few people disagree with my stand on choosing CS over vaginal delivery as a woman living with sickle cell. And that’s okay, not everyone will understand.
But let’s put things in context.
It’s easier to talk about vaginal delivery when you’re in a country where:
– Doctors hold your hand through every stage of pregnancy
– Nurses are kind, well trained, responsive, sweet and call you “darling” every five minutes
– Epidurals are available and even encouraged
– You’re treated as a high risk case and given extra attention
– Pain relief is offered, not argued about
– And labour is monitored with patience, technology, and compassion
But let’s talk about the reality here in Nigeria (and many other developing countries):
-Some nurses still see you as “just another pregnant woman”
-Some doctors don’t even understand sickle cell, or how different our needs are
- Your gynecologist is treating you like every other patient, no special plan
-You beg for pain relief and they give you paracetamol
- Epidural? Lmao. What’s that?
-Women are left to labour for 3–4 days with zero dignity or proper monitoring
-And if anything goes wrong? Maternal mortality is painfully high.
Pregnancy alone is high risk for warriors. Add labour and delivery to it, that’s a whole new stress our bodies don’t always bounce back from.
The stress of prolonged labour can trigger a serious crisis. And for many, that crisis targets the hips, leading to Avascular Necrosis (AVN), a complication that can leave you struggling to walk, squat, or even sit.
Let me say this from the bottom of my heart:
If you live in a country where your healthcare system works, I’m happy for you.
But don’t shame those of us who choose CS because we’ve weighed our risks in this system we live in.
We are not trying to “escape pain.”
We are trying to stay alive.
No medals for suffering.
No badge of honour for four day labour.
Let’s normalize choosing safety over suffering, especially for women living with sickle cell.