Code4Couples

06/19/2025

I am honored to be speaking at the Warriors Rest Conference and look forward to connecting with clinicians that are also first responders in August!

Are you looking for a conference specifically for first responders while earning CEU’s?

Check out the comments for the link to register!

06/19/2025

Registration is now open for the third annual Clinicians for Warriors Conference! Registration fees will cover CEUs, meals and lodging. Spots are limited - don't miss out! Scan to register or click the link below!

https://warriorsrestfoundation.org/event/clinicians-for-warriors-conference-2025/

06/02/2025

Reactions are automatic. Responses are intentional.

When a back injury ended Richard Crimi’s law enforcement career, he didn’t just recover physically, he rebuilt his mindset from the ground up. Now he trains first responders, military personnel, and federal agencies to harness the power of thought to improve performance,
emotional regulation, and relationships.

Here’s the truth:

In law enforcement, cynicism can keep you alive, but unchecked, it can also poison your communication, your marriage, and your sense of self.

Richard shares how your inner narrative, those what-if scenarios and negative rehearsals, can quietly erode your wellbeing and connection. With intentional mindset work, that script can be rewritten.

In our podcast episode, we talk about:

✔ The spillover of job stress into family life

✔ How to assess and redirect negative thought loops

✔ Building confidence through mindset preparation

✔ Gratitude, affirmations, and perspective-taking in daily life

✔ How reactions turn into responses and why that matters at home

Whether you’re in the field, married to someone who is, or supporting first responder wellness, this is a conversation that matters.

05/15/2025

A little preview of the podcast release tomorrow! code4couples.com/top10

Let me know what you think and share if you like it!

Feeling the strain of solo parenting, emotional distance, or constant schedule shifts? This handout offers clear and practical insights to help you:

04/19/2025

Only a few days left to register for the Proud Police Wife conference!! puts together an amazing line up of speakers every year. It may be free but it’s amazing content. Happy to be sponsoring this year AND a speaker! https://proudpolicewife.com/police-wife-conference-registration/

04/16/2025

National Association of Women Law Enforcement Executives Conference today in Orlando!! Honored to be presenting for the SAFLEO Program and talking about Combating Law Enforcement Su***de.

Had great interaction and discussion. It was raw for some including personal connection for themselves or the recent loss (2 weeks ago) of a now retired colleague.

I was honored to have Sonia Quinnoes, Director of IIR and former NAWLEE President in my session along with Will Balling and Chris Gandia with VALOR Program!

The SAFLEO mission is to heighten the awareness of the problem of su***de in law enforcement and prevent officer deaths by su***de. Effective su***de prevention training must have a comprehensive approach, focusing on occupational risks and support from law enforcement agencies, colleagues, families, and friends. This goes beyond being just an agency responsibility. We all must prioritize this issue; it is critical and could mean the difference between life and death. Reach out to for more information for the grant funded research, resources, and online and on-site training!

03/28/2025

Emotional armor helps officers survive the job, but it can quietly wear down your relationships.

Zachary Saenz has spent eight years in law enforcement, doing what so many officers do: pushing through, compartmentalizing, and staying “fine.”

But it caught up with him, at home in his relationship and in his mental health.

With support (and some real honesty from his fiancée), he found a trauma therapist, started setting boundaries, and learned how to reconnect.

Now, he shares his journey through powerful, emotional artwork that reflects the real mental toll of the job.

On the latest episode of the Code4Couples podcast, Zachary talks about:

✔️ How emotional shutdown became his norm

✔️ What therapy helped him understand about himself

✔️ The role of art in processing trauma

✔️ His message to other officers: You’re more than the badge.

How has your emotional armor impacted your relationship?

Emotional Armor protects officers on the job and allows spouses to watch their officer walk out the door without immense fear. We must take off the armor for our mental health and relational health.

Check out Zachary’s artwork and you may connect with what is under your armor.

03/07/2025

If you or someone you know could benefit from PCIS, please share. Thank you to Warrior’s Rest Foundation for the quality services they provide to our community.

02/07/2025

We know that law enforcement takes a toll, not just on officers but on their loved ones too. That’s why we’re talking about
, the only 24/7 peer support line for law enforcement officers, retirees, and their families.

In our latest Code4Couples episode, I sit down with retired NYPD officer and volunteer Deborah Schwartz to break down how this incredible resource provides confidential, judgment-free support for officers and their families.

✔️ is staffed entirely by retired law enforcement officers who GET IT.

✔️ Officers, spouses, parents, and adult children can all call in for support.

✔️ It’s 100% confidential—no names, no records, just a listening ear from someone who understands.

✔️ You DON’T have to be in crisis to call. Even if you just need to talk, is there for you.

Why does this matter? Because no officer should feel alone in their struggles. Whether it’s job stress, loneliness on shift, family struggles, or transitioning to retirement, is a safe place to talk it out.

Listen now and learn how you or a loved one can use this resource when you need it most!

Help us spread the word!

✅ Save this number: 1-800-COPLINE (267-5463)

✅ Share this episode with your fellow officers and families.

✅ Donate to keep this life-saving service available.

Heroes don’t do it alone. Call , and let’s support those who serve and protect!

02/03/2025

Let’s face it—some days feel like a full-blown dumpster fire. Stress at work, chaos at home, and no end in sight. For law enforcement couples, these days can feel impossible to navigate. But what if those moments of chaos could actually bring you closer?

In this week’s episode of Code4Couples, we’re diving into:
🔥 Why stress hits differently for officers and their spouses (and how to avoid the blame game).
🔥 The 6-step process to tackle dumpster fire days together without losing emotional safety.
🔥 Realistic optimism and how small gestures—like “tugging the wire”—can rebuild connection when life feels overwhelming.

Whether you’re the officer or the spouse, this episode is packed with relatable stories, practical advice, and simple strategies to help you reset, reconnect, and stay code 4 as a couple.

How do you and your partner handle stressful days? Let’s share ideas and build stronger connections together.

Listen now wherever you get your podcasts and grab the link in my stories!

01/20/2025

Kicking off the year with the first training with 🙌

I absolutely love teaching how the very training that keeps first responders safe can unintentionally impact their relationships—and, more importantly, how to counteract those effects.

This week’s lineup:

✨ Speaking to clinicians on Tuesday about interventions for first responder relationships.

✨ Keynote to 250+ first responders on Wednesday morning.

✨ Breakout session after the keynote with practical tools for first responders and their spouses to strengthen connection and build resilience.

Let me know if I can support your organization or department! Now scheduling for Summer and Fall.

01/17/2025

Ever felt like you’re living with a stranger after a long shift? Or maybe, as an officer, you feel flat and disconnected at home, even though you want to engage with your family? You’re not alone—and there’s a reason behind it.

In this week’s Code4Couples Podcast, we’re diving into:

👉 What hypervigilance really is and how it affects officers and their families.

👉 Why coming home doesn’t feel as easy as it should.

👉 The common cycle of miscommunication and tension—and how to break it.

👉 Practical, doable solutions to reconnect and keep your relationship strong.

This episode is packed with relatable stories, proven tips, and strategies you can start using TODAY to build a healthier, happier home life.

Spouses: Learn why your officer isn’t ignoring you—it’s a biological response—and how you can support without over-accommodating.

Officers: Discover how to recover from hypervigilance while still showing up for the people who matter most.

🎧 Tune in NOW wherever you listen to podcasts.

Let’s make your home life as safe and supportive as your team on the job.

Drop a 💙 if you’ve experienced the hypervigilance rollercoaster, and let us know your favorite takeaway after listening!