New Perspective Therapy LLC

New Perspective Therapy LLC Tiffany Nichols, Psychotherapist

Our words are so important. 💙
01/05/2025

Our words are so important. 💙

Lean into accepting and welcoming all emotions, including the most difficult of “visitors”. When we acknowledge and acce...
10/31/2024

Lean into accepting and welcoming all emotions, including the most difficult of “visitors”. When we acknowledge and accept our emotions without judgement, these “guests” will have an easier time leaving. Practice greeting the thoughts and feelings that arrive at the front door of your guest house. There’s information to explore and much to learn from all of your visitors.

Triggers are the best teachers - they tell us where we need attunement, compassion, tenderness and care 💙
04/25/2024

Triggers are the best teachers - they tell us where we need attunement, compassion, tenderness and care 💙

• Some people lack the emotional ability to see outside themselves.
04/22/2024

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Some people lack the emotional ability to see outside themselves.

Shout out to the cycle breakers!! 💙
04/18/2024

Shout out to the cycle breakers!! 💙

Sending validation if you can relate to this 💙
04/18/2024

Sending validation if you can relate to this 💙

• Picture a vibrant flame, igniting instantly as two substances meet. It’s captivating, exciting, and alluring. But wi...
04/16/2024

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Picture a vibrant flame, igniting instantly as two substances meet. It’s captivating, exciting, and alluring. But without proper fuel and tending, it can fizzle out just as quickly as it began. This is the nature of chemistry—intense, but not always sustainable.⁣
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It’s easy to get swept up in the intoxicating rush of a new connection. Your heart races, your palms sweat, and your mind is consumed with thoughts of the other person. These feelings are a biological response to attraction, but they don’t necessarily indicate long-term compatibility or the potential for healthy love.⁣
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Pursuing relationships solely based on chemistry, we risk building connections that lack depth and substance. As a result, many find themselves feeling unfulfilled, misunderstood, or disconnected from their partner.⁣
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Finding someone who not only ignites that spark but also brings out the best in you is like returning home to your heart. They compassionately challenge you to grow, support your dreams, and walk beside you through life’s ups and downs. This type of connection goes beyond surface-level attraction; it nourishes your soul and helps you become the person you aspire to be.⁣
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Connection is a co-created experience. Chemistry is a byproduct of attraction but hardly skims the surface of what relationships are meant to be in your life. The person you enter a romantic relationship with is more than a lover. They are a teacher, a healer, a friend, a mirror, a lesson, an adventure, a reckoning, an awakening, a muse, a beacon, and more. ⁣
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But above all, your partner is meant to be a conscious and mindful decision – an extension of your heart. They will impact your life in unimaginable ways, and if you seek beyond chemistry, they are the best of ways.⁣

Attachment styles are always fascinating to learn about! If you’re interested in learning more, there is a great book ou...
04/01/2024

Attachment styles are always fascinating to learn about! If you’re interested in learning more, there is a great book out by therapist Julie Menanno called Secure Love. It is an excellent resource - practical and easy to understand. Highly recommend! 💙

• .trauma.educator An aloof parent is the one we find existing against the backdrop of our childhood who didn’t really ...
03/29/2024

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An aloof parent is the one we find existing against the backdrop of our childhood who didn’t really stand out.⁣
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For years we might perceive them as the ‘good’ parent compared to the more intrusive, controlling, or abusive parent. ⁣
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Aloof parents tend to under-function, especially when it comes to raising their children, don’t show real interest in the child’s life, or play with them, might miss school performances or graduations, and aren’t engaged in meaningful ways. ⁣
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They might have a hard time saying ‘no’ and offering necessary structure to the child’s life. Because of that, they might seem ‘very nice’ to those around them, but in reality, their niceness is neglect (with or without intent).  ⁣

A parent can be passive and aloof for several reasons such as:⁣
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Living in a chronic state of depression (often undiagnosed) ⁣
Substance dependencies as coping strategies⁣
Narcissistic tendencies where the parent isn’t interested in the child because they don’t feel they’re benefitting from them ⁣
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Passive and aloof parents are often ‘stuck’ in the freeze or fawn response, which is why they are disconnected and/or try to appease their partner or their children.⁣
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Being raised by an aloof and passive parent can be especially disorienting because the harm is there but it can be hard to find and name it. ⁣

It also points to the presence of intergenerational trauma.
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Healing this wound is possible and it starts with no longer minimising it. ⁣
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Naming what didn’t happen for us that should have happened and grieving for what we didn’t receive but needed are important steps. ⁣
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It’s about finally honouring our experience.

Have you had this experience? I’d love your thoughts on this post.

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Yes, you did! You are resilient 💙
03/22/2024

Yes, you did! You are resilient 💙

As a child, your job was to be a child. 🥺
03/06/2024

As a child, your job was to be a child. 🥺

• It’s actually the lack of clinginess thats the problem. ⁣⁣People are being labeled clingy by someone who is avoidant...
02/26/2024

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It’s actually the lack of clinginess thats the problem. ⁣
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People are being labeled clingy by someone who is avoidant and/ordistant….⁣
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Culturally we have become increasingly avoidant, paranoid, and anxious. We’ve discouraged people from getting into relationships for the “wrong” reasons. We encourage independence over dependance. We shame codependence. It’s an actual mess. ⁣
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The reality is - any relationship - in order to flourish and involve a deeper type of intimacy - requires that both people cling. ⁣
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It requires that both people communicate - often. Schedule time to spend together - often. If it’s a s*xual or romantic relationship - it may require physical connection (affection and s*x) - often. ⁣
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All relationships require consistence, constancy, and mutuality. THIS IS CLINGINESS! ⁣
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So cling to people. If you like them. See them often. Tell them often. This is how relationships start. NOT from a chase. NOT from a wildly uncomfortable imbalance. ⁣
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So put in effort. ⁣
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Cling. It’s a part of intimacy. ⁣
To cling. To hold on to. ⁣
It’s a part of love. ⁣
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Pause and reflect about what I’m really saying before going to the extreme.⁣
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If someone is anxious and dysregulated and it leads them to violate your boundaries that means they’re struggling with anxiety. Don’t focus on the behavior and label anyone clingy because they’re anxious. Maybe we could be more curious about why people do things as opposed to coming up with bs words to express contempt and shame people for how they can easily become triggered.⁣

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