01/07/2025
Am I the only one who feels uplifted and empowered when someone looks me in the eye, fully present while we talk? Like they truly care about the conversation?
When we are present with one another, it elevates our confidence, ease and willingness to share of ourselves more fully.
It makes us want to do our best work because we feel more valued, seen, understood.
It creates an immediate sense of connection.
All because of being fully present. So simple. So powerful.
And yet, why is it so hard for us to do for and with others?
The deck is stacked against us unfortunately with the dopamine rewiring of our brains (i.e. think getting accustomed to 30 second dopamine hits via social media shorts). We are getting trained to seek new input every 30-120 seconds and thus have to work harder to stay in THIS moment.
Like everything else, it is a practice and it has layers.
Start with small steps.
Try any or all of the following:
1. The first step for many of us is pausing electronics-- step away from the computer, put the phone out of reach/in a different room.
2. Next, stop doing anything else and BE with the person you're with. Whether a client, co-worker, spouse or child, be fully there, no devices, PRESENT.
3. Look them in the eye and breathe, relaxing your mind and body for a few minutes, resisting that pull to go somewhere else, or be "productive." (This IS productive as an investment in building connection, motivation, etc.) Listen
Honestly, try those three steps over and over and you'll start to increase your endurance, working through feeling restless or agitated.
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With 8K+ coaching hours, Robin ignites peak performance of Rising and Established Leaders (private or corporate), 1:1, in groups or coaching gyms.