09/22/2025
Many years ago I started my blog, Inspired Adonis. It came before everything else, which led me to create my business as it is today, and .
Though, one day I decided after speaking with many people, including a therapist, I decided to make my blog public, very public. I sent out my blog post (which is No Longer Up) to ALL of my contacts. And later I received a call from Mike (The Situationship), very angry, yelling at me.
The blog post was about my assault and how being with him at the time, and sharing intimacy in the manner we did, was liberating and safe. I felt safe again to do things with him.
But in THAT moment, I went small, felt unheard, unseen, misunderstood, and very unsafe. I changed the blog post, which I later took down and never really shared in depth with many nor him again. From that day forward, I did what he wanted. I became a people pleaser in a whole new way, which wasn't me.
It took me 2 years to start writing again and it took me about 4 years to start my podcast.
Why am I telling you this?
Because when we don't understand the why and the how we do things in life, relationships, and beyond, when we don't try to heal, it can cause damage, emotional wounds, and more. It can cause harm to yourself and the relationships you are in.
So, NOW, I say "NO MORE"! I will no longer stay quiet. I will no longer bend to appease someone else's narrative to help them save face.
I ACCEPT ALL OF ME! And I hope and wish the same for him, you, and everyone. 🫶🏽
📖 New blog → Acceptance in Attachment Styles through the lens of IFS
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