Raina Garner IFS Coach & Counselor

04/30/2025

You’re not “too sensitive”—you just haven’t been living by your values.

When your life is filled with obligations, expectations, and keeping the peace, it’s easy to lose sight of what actually matters to you.

But here’s the truth:
💥 Your boundaries start with your values.
And when your actions align with what you truly care about, everything changes—your confidence, your peace, and your self-worth.

✨ Want help getting clear on your Core Values and setting boundaries that actually stick?

Comment the word “VALUES” and I’ll DM you a personal link to my course.
Or tap the link in bio to get instant access now 💻

03/10/2025

Feeling exhausted, overwhelmed, and like you're running on empty? 😩 You might be stuck in the Depletion Cycle—where overgiving leads to burnout, and burnout leads to more overgiving just to keep up.

It’s time to break the cycle and reclaim your energy. ✨

Want to learn how to protect your time and peace? DM me the word “Boundaries” for my Guiltless Boundaries mini-course. Then comment “done” below so I know to send you the link! 💬

⚡Let's get you running on anabolic energy!! ⚡

02/11/2025

🌱 What You Want vs. What Others Expect 🌱
How often do you find yourself saying "yes" to things that don’t truly serve you, just to meet someone else’s expectations? 🤔

It’s so easy to get caught up in the demands of others, but the real question is: What do YOU truly want? 🌟

When we align our actions with our own desires and values, we feel more energized, authentic, and at peace. ✨

✅ Here’s a quick check-in:
What are you doing right now because it’s what you want?
What are you doing just to meet others' expectations? 🤷‍♀️

🔑 Remember, it’s okay to say no to things that don’t serve your needs. Setting boundaries is how you honor yourself, not just the needs of others.

💬 Let me know in the comments — what’s one area of your life where you want to realign your focus this year?

📅 Want to dive deeper into how you can start setting boundaries that honor YOU? Join me in my 90 Days to Confident Boundaries program! Together, we’ll work on getting clear about what you truly want, and how to make it happen. 💪

👉 https://www.rainagarner.com/confident-boundaries (link also in bio)

02/09/2025

Here’s the hard truth: Others can’t ignore your boundaries—they can only ignore your requests.

When someone disregards your request, it’s up to YOU to hold your boundary. Let’s break down 5 common pushback scenarios and how you can respond with strength and self-respect.

Swipe to learn how to handle it like a pro!

02/07/2025

Setting a boundary feels terrifying, doesn’t it?
What if they get mad?
What if they think you’re mean?

Here’s the truth: holding a boundary can feel uncomfortable, but it’s a powerful step toward reclaiming your peace and confidence. 💪

Here are 5 things that might happen when you actually hold a boundary (spoiler: it’s not all bad 😉).

Swipe to see how to handle each one!

02/06/2025

Do you ever feel like you’ve set a boundary, only to watch it crumble the moment it’s challenged? It’s frustrating, right? You think, Why isn’t this working? Why do I keep letting this slide?

Here’s the truth: it might not actually be a boundary at all.

Sometimes what we think is a boundary is really just an expectation we’ve set for others—but without clarity on why it matters to us, it’s nearly impossible to enforce it.

This is where Core Values come in.

💡 Why Core Values Matter:
Your boundaries need to be rooted in what’s most important to you—your Core Values. Without that foundation, boundaries can feel arbitrary, making them easier to dismiss when things get tough.

For example:
Expectation: “They should stop calling me late at night.”
Real Boundary: “Because I value rest and self-care, I won’t answer calls after 9 PM.”

See the difference? When you connect your boundary to your Core Values, it becomes about protecting what matters most to you, not about trying to control someone else’s behavior.

If this resonates with you, join me for “Confident Boundaries, Confident You”—a live workshop where we’ll dive into Core Values and how to use them to create clear, unshakeable boundaries that truly work for you.

✨ You’ll leave with the tools, clarity, and confidence to set boundaries that stick—and the chance to ask your questions live.

📅 Don’t wait—reserve your spot today! Link in bio.

02/05/2025

Always saying yes might feel kind, but it comes with a cost.

Let’s explore the hidden dangers of people-pleasing.

11/12/2024

"Raina, no joke, changed my life. She provided a safe space for me (even in the interactions before the session) that helped me feel okay to 100% be myself. Her questions and insights were items I hadn’t heard before and I’ve received a LOT of coaching. I definitely recommend her."

11/11/2024

11/09/2024

Heading to see my brother and his wife for a long weekend after flights were cancelled yesterday due to a record snow storm.

11/05/2024

Want similar results? Link in Bio for more details on how you can go from simply surviving to thriving!