01/15/2026
Why do you lose focus after a mistake during a game or competition?
Because your mind doesn’t panic because of the mistake.
It panics because the character you’ve built starts to shake.
The one who is: • always strong
• always consistent
• never gives up
• always capable
• always “mentally tough”
The moment you fail, that image is threatened.
And your mind leaves the present moment to protect the ego.
👉 That’s why focus is lost.
The solution?
Integrate your shadow.
Here’s a simple but powerful exercise (warning ⚠️ this will trigger your ego):
1️⃣ Take a piece of paper and create two columns.
2️⃣ In the first column, write 5 qualities that describe you as an athlete
(e.g. consistent, disciplined, resilient, confident, strong).
3️⃣ In the second column, write the opposite of each quality
(inconsistent, gives up, doubtful, insecure, weak).
Now comes the real work 👇
4️⃣ Look at the second column and ask yourself:
In which area of my life am I being this version of myself?
Not in sport.
In life.
5️⃣ Go to that part of you.
Don’t try to change it.
Integrate it.
Say (out loud or internally):
🖤 “I love the part of me that is inconsistent in this area of my life.”
Do this honestly.
Do this humbly.
The more you integrate your shadow,
the less your ego needs to defend an image.
And the calmer your nervous system is,
the less you lose focus under pressure.
✨ High performance doesn’t come from a perfect character.
It comes from wholeness.
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