Rewire Therapy

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Rewire Therapy updated their address.

Most people don’t know that when we grow up or live in toxic or abusive environments that aren’t always safe or predictable, we learn to anticipate and fulfill everyone’s need’s around us as an attempt to keep ourselves safe.

Together with fulfilling the needs of others comes a perceived sense of connection, which can keep us in a cycle of prioritizing the needs of others while abandoning our own needs - disconnecting us from what we feel and need.

This can make prioritizing ourselves, and our needs feel selfish.

Thankfully, you have the power to reconstruct your sense of connection with your body for you to restore your inner sense of knowing so that you can feel empowered to prioritize yourself as much as you prioritize others.

Many movement and body-centered therapies can support you in tuning into your bodily sensations so that you can be sure of what you feel and need again – because the richest relationship you’ll ever have is with yourself.

We invite you to visit our website to explore a range of movement and body-based therapies to see if any of them feel right for you.

Sending love and warmth,
Rewire Therapy.

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As children, if we were met with a lack of acceptance and validation, we may have learned to gauge our self-worth based on the perception of others.

As a result, you may value others’ approval of your thoughts, feelings, and behaviors above your own.

Healing the part of you that has been left yearning for the validation and approval of others begins by becoming aware of and acknowledging these unconscious thoughts that drive this need for approval to begin shifting your internalized judgment by pausing and reorienting any judgemental thoughts into loving and compassionate thoughts.

Say to yourself: I have confidence in myself. I feel love and acceptance for myself. I am worthy just the way I am. I am worthy of love, acceptance, compassion, and support.

At first, it may feel uncomfortable, but the more you are able to pause, acknowledge, and greet the judgemental thoughts, the more they are able to pass through, allowing you to create more room for loving thoughts to enter.

Sending love and warmth,
Rewire Therapy.

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You may have grown up hearing or being told, “big girls and real men don’t cry” or “don’t be sad,” which could have led you to believe and feel that it is not safe to be vulnerable to express your thoughts and feelings.

This is likely to have affected how you perceive others and their ability to hold and support you while you move through your emotions. In turn, you may have learned that others aren’t willing or able to hold and support you, leading you to bottle up your emotions in an attempt to cope with them on your own rather than feeling as though you’re burdening others with your authentic expression.

Instead, you may withdraw and isolate, which can feel lonely and heavy.

Thankfully, there are ways to unburden yourself of these unconscious beliefs so that you can experience vulnerability and connection again.

Mindful body-based therapies such as trauma-informed yoga, Qigong, drama therapy, dance and movement therapy, and many others allow you to tune into your thoughts and feelings while giving you the freedom to safely and gently express them as you wish.

If any of the above therapies speak to you, we invite you to visit our website to find out if any of our programs feel right for you – you deserve to find safety in feeling and expressing your emotions again.

Sending love and warmth,
Rewire Therapy.

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Behind procrastination is our nervous system working overtime to protect us.

This is because when our body is met with a threat, a common stress response is to freeze and shut down as a means to escape danger.

Meaning that when tasks and deadlines are looming, and the feeling of anxiety comes creeping in, our body can often perceive this as a threat, in turn freezing and shutting down for a prolonged period of time.

This state can leave us feeling as though we’re in a game of tug and war with our body, where our intention and desire to complete tasks pull us in one direction while our body’s intention to keep us safe pulls us in another.

This can feel debilitating and can also be accompanied by feelings of shame and guilt as our body’s freeze response often overrides our intention to be proactive.

Thankfully, despite our body’s best attempts at protecting us, we hold the power to find relief through moments of regulation.

These moments require curiosity and attention to our body’s response, where we allow ourselves to become curious about the feeling of anxiety. This can involve you inviting an intentional pause when you’ve sensed anxiety creep in, where you can speak to it as a person and compassionately ask it: What is it that you fear? What do you fear feeling? How can I support you?

As we begin to acknowledge and accept the anxiety or fear, we can begin to relieve our body so that we feel liberated and motivated to slowly address each of our tasks again.

Sending love and warmth,
Rewire Therapy.

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Our bodies don’t speak words as a way of remembering our trauma; instead, they communicate through painful emotions, vivid memories, and lingering anxiety.

While each message can be our body and the nervous system trying their best to protect us, oftentimes, they can leave us feeling as though we’re drowning in our anxious thoughts and emotions - overwhelming our capacity to cope.

According to Dr. Trudy Kim, meaningful art-making activities - such as painting, drawing, scribbling, and many more - can all be incredibly useful in creating a safe space for you to be able to explore and release any thoughts, memories, and emotions that you and your body may be struggling with.

Rewire Therapy has recently launched an Expressive Arts For Trauma Healing program that offers you gentle artistic techniques that you can incorporate into your daily life – allowing you to rediscover your creative self while healing from trauma.

We invite you to visit our website, which is linked in our bio, to see if this program is right for you.

Sending love and warmth,
Rewire Therapy.

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It’s as Dr. Bessel van der Kolk says in his book, ‘The Body Keeps the Score’:

“Helping victims of trauma find the words to describe what has happened to them is profoundly meaningful, but usually it is not enough.”

“The act of telling the story doesn’t necessarily alter the automatic physical and hormonal responses of bodies that remain hypervigilant…”

“For real change to take place, the body needs to learn that the danger has passed and to live in the reality of the present.”

The body can learn to feel safe again through body-based, movement, and expressive therapies- such as somatic therapies, art therapy, trauma-informed yoga, and Qigong.

These therapies involve conscious movement, creativity, mindful breathwork, gentle touch, and more, helping to support you in tuning into your inner sensations, emotions, and needs- allowing you to build a deeper, stronger, and safer relationship with your body and the world around you.

Rewire Therapy has assembled a range of programs that aim to support you on your healing journey and empower you to live safely in the present moment and in the safety of your body.

We invite you to visit our website to see if any of our programs are right for you.

Sending love and warmth
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Many of us feel uncomfortable experiencing and expressing our emotions and needs.

This is because, as children, if we were not met with curiosity and acceptance around our feelings and needs, we are likely to have learnt that it is unsafe to experience and express them.

In turn, as we’ve grown older, this may have caused us to move through life carrying unexpressed emotions that weigh us down and exhaust us.

However, there are ways for us to begin to lessen the weight of these emotions.

One of these ways includes - art making – which creates a safe space for you to be able to explore and connect with your younger self where you are free to experience and express your desires and needs.

Rewire Therapy has just launched an Expressive Arts For Trauma Healing program to support you in safely and lovingly connecting to your younger self to be able to express your needs through artistic techniques that spark joy, creativity, and inspiration.

We invite you to visit our website to see if this program is right for you.

Sending love and warmth,
Rewire Therapy.

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As children, we learn to mirror the thoughts and behaviors of those around us.

So, if we grew up with caregivers who were highly critical, invalidating, and rejecting towards us, we may have learned to mirror those thoughts and behaviors in how we treat and speak to ourselves.

This could have left us feeling at war with ourselves, where we criticize and reject many of our thoughts and feelings.

Becoming curious in understanding your learned thoughts and behaviors is a way to find peace and comfort within yourself again.

Through this, you can then begin to take on the role of your own curious, accepting, and compassionate caregiver by treating yourself the way that you deserve to be treated.

Slowly and gently begin to think about and speak to yourself the way that you would a young child.

Meet yourself with the compassion and love you deserve to allow your healing to begin.

Remind yourself that healing is a process and takes time.

Disclaimer:
We all require support from someone in our own world to step in and help us from time to time. If this is your first time acknowledging these experiences and emotions or if they feel too hard and heavy for you to be able to hold space for them on your own, we highly recommend having a loved one or a therapist nearby who is able to help you meet your body’s needs and regulation needs with acceptance, compassion, and support.

Sending love and warmth,
Rewire Therapy.

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Feeling the need to constantly explain ourselves and justify our choices is a common response that many of us learn when we are living in toxic or abusive environments.

When people in our lives blame us for our experiences or make us doubt and question our own reality - we can be left feeling deeply alone and misunderstood.

This can then cause us to overcompensate by over-explaining ourselves out of fear that we will be invalidated, misunderstood, or judged. We may move through life with the need to make ourselves feel understood - where we learn to explain ourselves and our choices to others continuously.

But, the beginning of feeling connected and understood starts with your own internal state.

Begin by noticing your thoughts and feelings. Meet them with curiosity and compassion. Acknowledge and accept them as they move through your body. Gently and slowly, begin to show yourself the curiosity, compassion, and understanding that you’ve been left yearning for.

Remind yourself that your experiences and reality are real – and that the one person that needs to understand you… is you.

Sending love and warmth,
Rewire Therapy.

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A common reality of experiencing trauma is that so many of us don’t even realize when it’s happening.

This is because when we are in dangerous and painful situations that are threatening to our body and nervous system, our responses become automatic and defensive rather than slow and mindful - leaving us unable to pause and fully acknowledge the pain and trauma that we are experiencing.

When our body and nervous system start to feel safe, we are able to acknowledge the deeply painful experiences for what they truly are – trauma.

So, when our bodies are filled to the brim with painful emotions and memories that we don’t yet have the safety and capacity to acknowledge and move through - remind yourself to pause, move slowly, move gently, and move lovingly so that you can begin to feel safe again.

As you do this, continue to notice and acknowledge what you’ve survived, how incredibly strong you’ve been, and how much more resilient you’re going to become.

Sending love and warmth,
Rewire Therapy.

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Did you know that we learn to self-regulate from a young age?

Usually, we learn this from our primary caretaker. However, if our role model is narcissistic and alienating, our skills of self-regulation can be compromised.

Sometimes it can feel like we don’t have control over our reactions to events, or we can become unbearably overwhelmed when we have to make a decision or act in a stressful situation.

Difficulties with self-regulation can make us feel shame, guilt, or confusion.

However, research shows that it is possible to improve self-regulation through methods of re-parenting, self-applied touch (SAT), movement, and drama therapy.

We all have an inner child. Sometimes it is easier to forget, especially when our inner child is a wounded one. However, when we connect with that child and give them the attention and validation they always deserved, we can foster new compassion for our adult selves.

Rewire therapy has created a comprehensive program with practical techniques on how to begin healing from the complexities of narcissistic abuse. We invite you to have a look at the program’s offerings using the link in our bio.

Sending love and warmth,
Rewire Therapy.

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