03/21/2025
What to Do AFTER a Tantrum: 4 Steps to Support Your Child
Tantrums can be overwhelming for both kids and parents. But what happens after the storm has passed is just as important as how you handle it in the moment. Here’s what you can do to turn tantrums into learning opportunities:
🗣 Acknowledge & Talk About Feelings
Once your child is calm, help them process what happened. Say things like, “I saw you got really upset when it was time to leave the park. What can we do next time when you feel that way?” This helps them understand emotions and problem-solve for the future.
🛠 Teach Alternative Communication Skills
If your child struggled to express themselves, teach them a better way. Use simple words, visuals, or gestures to replace behaviors like screaming or hitting. For example, model phrases like, “Can I have 5 more minutes?” instead of crying.
⭐ Reinforce Appropriate Behaviors
After a tantrum, focus on what they did right. If they calmed down using a coping skill, praise them: “Great job taking deep breaths when you were upset.” Reinforcing positive behavior makes it more likely to happen again.
🔍 Reflect on Triggers & Modify the Environment
Ask yourself: What set this off? Was my child tired, hungry, or overstimulated? Adjust routines, give more transition warnings, or provide tools like fidgets or break cards to prevent future outbursts.
✨ Tantrums are a normal part of development, but with the right support, kids can learn to manage big emotions in healthier ways. What’s your go-to strategy for post-tantrum learning? Drop a comment below! ⬇️