Brenda’s end of life care

01/31/2026

The underutilized benefit of Hospice.

Will this bad habit of not accessing this benefit ever change? Who’s responsibility is it to refer? The providers or the patient?

The amount of humans who pass away without hospice is heartbreaking. We are not talking about a sudden death or accidental deaths. We are referring to individuals that are no longer curable and aggressive measures are now just a “bandaid”. We hear of individuals who spend their last year or months in and out of the hospital, with no improvement and lacking comfort and quality. We hear of people who are hospitalized for weeks with decline and with no improvement, but hospice isn’t offered. We hear of patients in nursing homes and assisted livings, experiencing the “silent transition”, with no additional care like hospice. We have witness adult children and elderly spouses, as caregivers at home, with no additional support. We watch home health being ordered on repeat for an option, but many of the individuals do not have rehab potential. We watch hired homecare not providing clinial care, so individuals can’t be managed at home and just end up in the hospital.

We hear and witness all of the above daily because we work in hospice. For years, We have been shouting at the top of our lungs that hospice is a HUGE benefit that HELPS, and doesn’t cost a thing. Hospice comes to you, wherever “home” is and almost ALL insurances pays for it 100%. That’s it! No strings attached. If you don’t like it, you can always discontinue the services. There are zero penalties in discontinuing the care.

Want to know the providers that are in your area? Google Medicare.gov.
✳️Go to the menu and click on “providers and services”
✳️then click on “find care providers”
✳️next click “provider type” and “hospice care”.
✳️Put in your zip code and your choices will be listed.

01/17/2026

Unless they are you, no one should ever tell YOU how to grieve!!

There is no 'right' way to grieve. In fact, there are 7.8 billion ways to grieve. So the next time you're wondering if you're "doing it right," be assured that you're grieving in the way that makes the most sense for you.

11/15/2025

09/11/2025

The Gray Space of Grief

It’s not the moment they died.
It’s not the funeral.
It’s not the “I’m so sorry” texts or the casseroles dropped at your door.

It’s everything after that.

It’s the part no one warns you about—the gray space of grief.
Where the world keeps moving, but you’re suspended.
Not fully in the past. Not fully in the future.
Just… here. In between.

Where you forget what joy used to feel like.
Where smiles feel foreign and guilt creeps in if you catch yourself laughing.
Where people assume you’re “doing better” because you showed up to work or answered a text.

But inside?
You’re lost.
Not broken exactly. Just… altered.
Like a radio slightly out of tune.
Like a photo that won’t come into focus.

The gray space is quiet.
But not peaceful.
It’s the space where grief settles when the world stops watching.

And if you’re in it—
You’re not alone.
You’re not doing it wrong.
You’re surviving the part no one talks about.

And one day, color might return.
But for now, it’s okay to sit in the gray.