Dr. Tamar Kahane

12/09/2025

We’re so good at seeing what we didn’t do…
and rarely notice what we did.

Triple P is one small nightly ritual that helps you register the good, grow resilience, and model the skills your kids need most.

Pause • Praise • Progress.
Let it land. 💛

12/04/2025

In hard moments, validate the feeling, and stay grounded.

That’s how emotional regulation develops from the inside out.

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11/14/2025

Kids often fall apart for the caregiver they feel safest with. Their executive functioning is depleted by the end of the day. Co-regulate first, offer a simple choice, and teach once calm returns.

Save this for the next after-school crash.
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09/03/2025

04/17/2025

Acknowledging children's emotions is key to helping them feel supported and secure during difficult and scary times. The phrase, "under stress, regress," really highlights how common it is for kids to act out when they're overwhelmed. This is the time to approach them with understanding, patience, and empathy to help them navigate their feelings.

For more insights and practical tips, check out the ABC News article written by featuring advice from experts, including Dr. Kahane. It's a great resource for parents looking to guide their children through tough times. Follow the link below to read the full article.

https://thekahanecenter.com/in-the-media/

04/09/2025

In POWERS we say "Transitions are Triggers." Having a baby is a huge transition for both parents and can be very stressful as well as incredibly meaningful. Just like flamingos that lose their pink coloring because so much of their food and energy go to their chicks, so too humans can feel zapped, exhausted and depleted because so much of their energy goes to their baby. It is critical to keep in mind as a new parent that this state of being is temporary and that, yes, although it is very hard initially, it will get better and easier. Remind yourself that the way you feel now will not be the way you feel in a month or two. Things will get easier.

Go to our website to read the full article https://thekahanecenter.com/in-the-media/

04/08/2025

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04/07/2025

https://www.njfamily.com/sextortion-the-online-threat-you-havent-talked-to-your-kids-about-but-cant-ignore/

12/13/2024

It’s totally understandable that as parents we want to protect our children from feeling left out,  disappointed, jealous or rejected. Ultimately, however, one of the biggest gifts we can give our children is helping them learn to develop the skills necessary to cope with these experiences and feelings. These moments for twins can also be utilized as learning opportunities to nurture their own unique friendships and separate identities. 
Explaining to our children that they can each have their own friends and also have other friends that are more shared friends can be very helpful. 
Start by listening to understand your child’s feelings and validate and acknowledge them. Then let them know that there will be times when they get invited to something that their sibling does not get invited to and there will be other times when their sibling gets invited to something that they do not get invited to. This is an obvious and yet so  important life skill to learn. This will nurture their separate identities regarding their social life. 

12/04/2024

You can’t change what you don’t acknowledge. Whether it’s breaking habits, healing relationships, or growing into the best version of yourself, it all brings with awareness.

Take a moment today to pause and reflect— what’s one area of your life where awareness could spark growth? Share in the comments below.

12/03/2024

I am thrilled to share my insights on Parents.com about how “face card” comparisons effect self-esteem in teenagers. This article talks about how teens are using the phrase “face card” and what parents can do to help their teens offset harmful social media messages.

Read the full article on how you can help.

Comment below on how you model self-confidence in your kids.

11/22/2024

Anger is a totally normal and important emotion. There is no such thing as a child's anger being outside of the realm of normal as different kids experience their feelings differently, and there is no right or wrong way to feel.

In POWERS, a social emotional and executive functioning curriculum that I developed, we have a skill called Feelings vs. Actions. We teach children and parents to differentiate between their feelings that are all okay and their actions that are sometimes not okay.