02/05/2025
How to Touch a Woman
S*x isnât a conquest.
Itâs an act of devotion.
And most men are still stuck at page one.
Women talk about s*x differently than men.
Itâs not a myth. Itâs not some Cosmo fantasy.
Itâs real and itâs humbling if you ever actually listen.
They talk about or***ms the way men talk about football injuries,
⌠what worked, what didnât, how long it took,
⌠how sometimes they just faked it to get it over with because the fu***it thought he was auditioning instead of actually paying attention to her body.
The problem is that most men were taught how to f**k, not how to feel.
Thatâs why most women leave emotionally long before they leave physically.
Meanwhile, most guys are out here still trying to navigate s*x with a roadmap written by drunk cavemen.
Jackhammering like itâs an Olympic event, wondering why she looks like sheâs mentally reorganising the pantry instead of moaning.
P**n taught him that jackhammering equals passion.
Locker room wisdom taught him that asking questions equals weakness.
And ego taught him that if a woman doesnât come, itâs her fault for being âcomplicated.â.
Look, hereâs the uncomfortable truth:
You donât deserve her body if you canât hold her heart.
Full stop.
Most men have no idea what theyâre doing when it comes to womenâs bodies.
And worse they donât know how much they donât know, because no one ever told them that itâs okay to ask.
You think good s*x is about being harder, faster, stronger?
Itâs not.
Itâs about being present
P**n taught you how to finish.
But it didnât teach you how to connect
You were taught to perform.
To conquer.
Not to feel.
Female s*xuality isnât a Rubikâs Cube you have to solve.
Itâs a universe youâre supposed to show up for.
Actual, real, soul-level presence. Thatâs rare.
Meanwhile, woman are over there swapping notes like secret agents.
âDid he touch you like this?â
âDid he even bother asking what you liked?â
âDid you have to fake it, or was it actually good?â
âDid you make a connection?â
Itâs a conference over coffee.
Meanwhile, most men are somewhere between âDid she come?â
and âI think so? ⌠Maybe?
⌠close enough.â
But hereâs the thing about female s*xuality that every man should tattoo into his brain:
If all you bring is your game,
donât be surprised when all she feels is emptiness.
Sheâs not a vending machine.
You donât push the right button and get the or**sm you ordered.
Itâs a conversation.
A surrender.
A trust
Itâs her nervous system, her body, her heart , all deciding if they feel safe enough to let go.
And if youâre too busy trying to win at s*x, sheâs too busy trying to survive it.
Your c**k Isnât the Gift. Your Presence Is.
Female pleasure isnât about technique.
Itâs about presence.
Itâs about actually being there.
Not just your c**k.
Not just your ego.
You.
Without presence, s*x isnât intimacy.
Itâs just two strangers using each other to forget how lonely they are.
So maybe you could ask her what she likes.
Ask her how she feels.
Ask her what sheâs scared to tell you.
And then, simply listen.
Not with your c**k.
With your whole entire soul.
Touch her like you genuinely care about the answer.
Feel her , not just physically, but emotionally, energetically, deeply.
Because, If you donât know how to ask a woman what she likes,
youâre not ready to touch her at all
Because a womanâs pleasure is not some scavenger hunt you complete by luck.
Itâs the reward for being awake.
Itâs what happens when she feels safe enough to stop surviving you, and actually surrender to herself.
Women donât want a performance.
They want presence.
And most men are still too scared to give it.
But trust me, If she trusts you enough to open,
youâll find that she isnât complicated at all.
Sheâs an entire universe waiting to be explored.
But only if you have the courage to slow way down, get curious, and stop making her pleasure about your performance review.
You want better s*x?
Then just stop trying to perform and start trying to connect.
Stop trying to win.
Start trying to feel.
Real s*x starts when your ego shuts up and your soul finally shows up.
And maybe , just maybe , youâll finally understand the part they donât teach you from P**n
S*x isnât about trying to âmake her come.â
Youâre trying to create a space where she feels safe enough to BEcome.
Itâs about making her trust you enough to let go,
not just come and go
If you donât get that, youâre still playing at love, not living it.
Youâre just rehearsing your loneliness inside her.
The best s*x of your life isnât about getting harder, lasting longer, or âdominatingâ stuff you donât even understand.
Itâs about waking the up.
About dropping the script.
About touching a woman like sheâs a living, breathing miracle ,
not a trophy, not a test, not a p**n highlight reel.
A true miracle.
And if you do that , if you really show up,
youâll realise something that every woman already knows:
S*x is easy.
Connection is RARE, and precious.
Presence is everything.
If you canât be present with her,
it doesnât matter how good you are at in bed,
youâre still leaving her alone in the dark.
So go re-learn everything you thought you knew.
And PLEASE
ask her what she likes.
You might just find sheâs been waiting to tell you all along.
Noah David (Zen Prem)
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Empower Wholeness Intimacy
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