Abbey H Ives Counseling and Supervision PLLC

04/07/2026

Overthinking often shows up to keep us safe.
When we look deeper, it’s more noticeable that it’s often not logical and certainly not efficient. However, it is understandable.

03/31/2026

When we stop judging overthinking and start understanding it, the relationship shifts.

Compassion quiets the nervous system more effectively than criticism.🌻

03/24/2026

When your inner world and outer life match, things feel steadier.

03/17/2026

Harmony doesn’t come from doing everything “right.” It comes from noticing when things feel off and making small, intentional adjustments. Realignment is a skill, not a failure.

03/10/2026

It’s easy to know what matters to us in theory. It’s harder to notice how often our daily choices actually reflect it. This isn’t about judgment, just gentle awareness.

Values are revealed in patterns, not intentions. Noticing is where change begins.

03/03/2026

Not all forward movement is aligned movement.

Goals are outcomes.
Values are direction.

When we mix them up, anxiety and indecision grow.
When we separate them, things get clearer.

03/02/2026

I missed one blog post and let it turn into a five month break.

It was a good reminder of how quickly all or nothing thinking can derail us, and how powerful it is to simply begin again.

It’s been five months since my last blog post. Five . Let me tell you what happened and why it probably sounds familiar. I have a recurring task in my calendar that says “Blog” and it is set for monthly on the third Monday. It pops up, I write something, and I move on. For whatever reason, I m...

02/25/2026

Achievement can check all the boxes and still leave you feeling disconnected or unsure.

Fulfillment comes from alignment — not just accomplishment.

02/17/2026

Many driven people don’t realize how often achievement becomes a shield.
It protects against rejection, uncertainty, or the fear of slowing down.

02/10/2026

Go getters often struggle in relationships. It’s not because they don’t care, but because they’ve learned to prioritize performance over presence.

Success doesn’t automatically translate to connection. Clarity and emotional awareness do.

02/03/2026

Success isn’t just about what you build.
It’s about who you remain while building it.🧚

01/27/2026

If staying busy feels safer than slowing down,
this question might be worth sitting with.