05/11/2024
If youâre like me, youâve got some feelings today. Here are some research backed strategies to help you feel more settled.
Do something. Our brains LOVE (to think we have) control. This is why it can be so unsettling when weâre reminded of how little control we have over much of our environment. So, concentrate on the things you can control. Vote, volunteer, donate, build something, make an appointment youâve been putting off, slow down your breathing (if you need help, I have a quick tutorial on my blog). Make plans with or a hug a loved one. Having something to look forward to helps with feelings of optimism. Hugs and other physical touch can reduce cortisol levels, helping you feel less stressed.
Notice your feelings. When we feel scared or unsettled, our brains can gravitate to anger. Anger can help move us toward action and protect ourselves from danger. However, it can also trick us into feeling like weâve more effective than we are and far less open to change or compromise. Left unchecked, anger can cause long term health issues. Notice how and where youâre feeling your anger and if itâs helpful for you right now. Acknowledging your feelings as valid and make a choice if you want to continue with anger or feel something else.
Practice gratitude. Concentrate on gratitude. Make a mental, pen and paper or virtual list of all of the big and small things you are grateful for. Spread the love by asking your friends and family what they feel grateful for or reaching out to the people you feel grateful for and telling them.
Love your body. All that anxiety needs somewhere to go. Get some exercise, stretch, take a walk, move in any way that feels good for your body. If itâs hard to be motivated, set a timer for an amount of time that feels doable for you (1 minute is better than no minutes) or ask a friend to join you. Finally, if comfort food, alcohol or other substances are on your self care list for today, mindfully partake as you see fit. If you feel positive about the impact on your responsibilities, body, heart and mind tomorrow, thatâs your call.
As for me:
I walked my dogs because I knew this would feel good for me and great for my pups.
Iâm drinking lots of water and will have a glass of wine or two after work.
Iâve been reaching out to friends I donât see often and saying hello and I love you.
Iâm making plans to exercise and connect with friends.
Iâll say absolutely when my little boy asks for one more book and one more hug at bedtime.
What are you doing today?