10/18/2023
Part 3
💡 How Does Your Subconscious Work?
And Why Are You Stuck on Shame
Here is a sometimes difficult yet life-changing truth:
Everything in your life, including the things you don’t like, is a result of what you are subconsciously choosing, attracting, and attracted to.
Your subconscious is responsible for about 95% of your patterns, who you are, what you do, what you think, and what you feel.
Your subconscious is primarily invested in your survival. It wants to keep you alive. It does so by investing in what is known to be safe and avoiding what isn’t known to be safe.
How does your subconscious know what is safe?
Familiarity.
Have you survived this before? Have you survived this over and over? If yes — even if it’s something like anxiety, rejection, or shame — it is familiar and, therefore, safe. You will only ever be, do, and have what your subconscious believes is safe.
It’s not easy for most people to immediately feel the empowerment of this sentiment. It’s the opposite. Most people, when they learn this, feel:
1️⃣ Immense shame and embarrassment when beginning to own the truth that every pattern in their life, including things like being stuck in emotionally unavailable relationships, is something they’ve subconsciously chosen.
And
2️⃣, most people feel super overwhelmed by the idea that their life is determined by something they don’t have immediate access to. Like, “How do I change any of this if none of it is in my conscious awareness???”
⭐️I want you to know three things:
The shame and embarrassment you feel about your patterns serve a functional purpose. They come from a part of you who is invested in keeping things the same (keeping you alive) and avoiding the unknown. No matter how bad things might be, this part doesn’t want you to change because it wants to keep you alive. It’s actually a beautiful survival mechanism at play. However, it’s frustrating when you don’t know how to change it.
Your subconscious can transform. You can upgrade your version of safety and familiarity to align with what you want from life. It is so possible. I saw it in myself and see it happen for others daily.
Unconditional love + big, bold goals = subconscious transformation.
Jumping timelines, accessing the Next Level (see previous post) and getting closer to your Aspirational Self asks you to fall in love with all parts of you. Not because love is sacred but because love is by far the most creative energy. Spending your life harnessing and amplifying your creative power is THE path to fulfillment.
I can teach you how to do this.