Chuck and Ashley

02/05/2026

What do you do when you’re having a bad day and you want to feel better?

Do you run to a substance, get outside, pray, or complain to a friend?

Think about your tendencies and process ways to meet your needs in healthier ways. Bring God into your negative spaces.

What helps you feel better when you’re having a rough day?

02/03/2026

Want more time? More energy? Less guilt?

Stop saying yes to things you can’t actually do. Stop taking on commitments when you’re already at capacity. Be honest with yourself and others.

Start being very serious about doing what you say you will do.

Take some time and dream about how this might change your life.

Then… take a step in this direction.

01/26/2026

The best clients aren’t defined by their circumstances. They’re defined by their willingness to work.

We ask hard questions.
We push.
We challenge.
We expect hard work.

And if you’re ready to partner with someone who will explore what it looks like for you to experience real change and growth, let’s get to work.

01/22/2026

THIS is what leaders regret.

Working with leaders for 15+ years, we've heard their regrets.

It isn't the work trip they didn't take, it wasn't the promotion they didn't go for. It isn't the bigger investment portfolio. It isn't the big deal that was missed.

They regret not showing up for family and friends in the big and small moments of life. It's the graduation, recital and class party they missed. It's the small moments of being home at night to tuck kids into bed.

This is not to shame those of us who have work that takes time away from family. This is to push you to invest even if you feel like you missed out on some of those moments that have passed.

Make the phone call and apologize if needed. Show up to the places you've been missing.

Once you see it, change it. Invest.

01/14/2026

We've been hearing the same thing from more and more men lately: "Drinking is causing a problem in my marriage."

These guys are high-functioning professionals with good jobs and productive lives. But most nights of the week, the drinking is creating distance, avoidance, and conflict—especially when tension shows up with the kids or in their marriage.

Research shows high earning individuals and more educated professionals drink more frequently than others, but they maintain "functional" patterns longer.

Here's where we start with clients: Get curious about what need the drinking is meeting. Relaxation? Decompression? Coming down from caffeine? Once you identify the actual need, you can meet it in a healthier way.

The dysfunction often serves a function. Understanding that is the first step to changing it.

01/12/2026

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Grateful.

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01/06/2026

The weeks after the holidays can feel empty. All that energy to create good moments, to hold it together, to show up—and now what?

Grief doesn't take a vacation just because its a holiday. It just waits…

We wrote in I Used to Be ______. that grief isn't a problem to solve but a change to acknowledge.

The pain doesn't disappear because we're kind to someone who's hurting. But our kindness tells them they're not invisible. And sometimes, being seen is enough to take the next step.

If you're carrying loss into this new year, you're not alone. And if you're watching someone else carry it, your presence matters more than your words.

12/18/2025

This book can help you name what you can't articulate. You’ll be granted permission to grieve the person you used to be while building who you're becoming.

When we wrote "I Used to Be _____” we were processing real grief—the identities we shed, the versions of ourselves we lost, and how to move forward when life forced us to become someone new.

For the next few days, Audiobooks.com is running 50% off. If you've been thinking about it, we hope this discount will encourage you to take a step toward healing.

The audiobook hits differently. There's something about hearing the author’s voices that makes reading feel more engaging!

Navigate Through Grief with Biblical Mental Health Tools When you suffer a loss, you enter the realm of 'used to be.' You used to be married. You used to be employed. You used to be pregnant, secure, healthy, sober, thin. You used to be a son or daughter, a brother or sister, a mother or f...

12/17/2025

You want people in your life to open up. Your spouse. Your kids. Your team. You want them to tell you what they really think and feel.

But here's the harder question: What's it like to share with you?

The moment someone starts talking, do you listen—or do you start hunting for proof of what you already believe? Do you dig deeper into what confirms your assumptions, and watch them shut down?

The environment you create can either invite vulnerability or kill it.

What kind of space are you building?

12/10/2025

You want to pray together. But when it comes time to actually do it, something shifts. Suddenly it feels vulnerable. Exposed. Us too.

Here's what we learned: you don't need perfect words or eloquent prayers. You just need a starting point that doesn't feel like jumping into the deep end.

So try this: write one thing you'd pray for. Just one. Then read it to each other.

From there, you can pray it together. You can sit in silence. You can ask what you're carrying.

The goal isn't to become prayer warriors overnight. It's to become people who can be honest about what matters most.

You can start today. Just one prayer. See what happens.

12/03/2025

Couples, do you do this?

Say something you're thinking out loud—and your spouse takes it as a request you never actually made?

It's not passive-aggressive. It's not manipulation. You just miss each other.

And when someone takes a statement as a directive they didn't actually receive, resentment can sneak in—even when no one meant any harm.

The fix sounds simple: say what you actually mean. "Could you do this?" instead of "I wish this would get done."

Simple doesn't mean easy. But it's worth practicing.