Chuck and Ashley

02/19/2026

We get this call often.

One spouse finally reaches out, and the first thing they tell us is that they wish they had listened sooner. Their partner had been asking for counseling for months, sometimes longer, and they kept putting it off. Too busy. Not that bad. We'll figure it out. Whatever the story was.

And now they're on the phone with us in a very different kind of conversation.

Here's what we want you to hear if your spouse is asking you to go talk to someone: go. Just go.

We know the resistance. It feels like an accusation. Like admitting something is broken. Like you failed. Like if you agree to sit down with someone, you're confirming what you've been trying to convince yourself isn't true.

But think worst case. You go, and you find out things are better than your partner feared. Great. You've now got proof and some tools. Or you go, and you find out there's something more serious to work on. Also great, because now you caught it before it costs you more than you want to pay.

The ask itself is the signal. When someone you love says "I think we need help," that's not an attack. It's an honest moment, and those are rare. And it's often not easy for the partner asking either. It means something is off, whether that's in them, in you, in how you two communicate, or in the relationship itself. All of those things are easier to fix when you address them early.

They become much harder to fix when you wait until one of you is done waiting.

If your partner is asking, go.

PS: even if it feels too late, still go.

02/15/2026

When he first got in line to have a book signed I (Chuck) thought he was just kidding around.

He wasn’t. Our son Preston waited at a book signing to have his book signed.

There are people in your circle who believe in you and look up to you more than you realize. The ones closest to you are watching.

What you do with that matters more than any professional win you’re chasing.

02/14/2026

Praying together as a couple is powerful for your relationship but can also be a challenge.

We want to help you gain the skills and confidence to make it happen and that’s why we wrote this plan!

Over 8k people have already started it over the few short weeks it has been released.

Invite your spouse to start with you!

You want to pray together as a couple. It’s so important, yet many couples find it difficult or intimidating. This practical plan is filled with small, simple tools to help you train yourselves to pray together. Each day includes discussion questions and a prayer; we’re excited for you to grow c...

02/13/2026

02/05/2026

What do you do when you’re having a bad day and you want to feel better?

Do you run to a substance, get outside, pray, or complain to a friend?

Think about your tendencies and process ways to meet your needs in healthier ways. Bring God into your negative spaces.

What helps you feel better when you’re having a rough day?

02/03/2026

Want more time? More energy? Less guilt?

Stop saying yes to things you can’t actually do. Stop taking on commitments when you’re already at capacity. Be honest with yourself and others.

Start being very serious about doing what you say you will do.

Take some time and dream about how this might change your life.

Then… take a step in this direction.

01/26/2026

The best clients aren’t defined by their circumstances. They’re defined by their willingness to work.

We ask hard questions.
We push.
We challenge.
We expect hard work.

And if you’re ready to partner with someone who will explore what it looks like for you to experience real change and growth, let’s get to work.

01/22/2026

THIS is what leaders regret.

Working with leaders for 15+ years, we've heard their regrets.

It isn't the work trip they didn't take, it wasn't the promotion they didn't go for. It isn't the bigger investment portfolio. It isn't the big deal that was missed.

They regret not showing up for family and friends in the big and small moments of life. It's the graduation, recital and class party they missed. It's the small moments of being home at night to tuck kids into bed.

This is not to shame those of us who have work that takes time away from family. This is to push you to invest even if you feel like you missed out on some of those moments that have passed.

Make the phone call and apologize if needed. Show up to the places you've been missing.

Once you see it, change it. Invest.

01/14/2026

We've been hearing the same thing from more and more men lately: "Drinking is causing a problem in my marriage."

These guys are high-functioning professionals with good jobs and productive lives. But most nights of the week, the drinking is creating distance, avoidance, and conflict—especially when tension shows up with the kids or in their marriage.

Research shows high earning individuals and more educated professionals drink more frequently than others, but they maintain "functional" patterns longer.

Here's where we start with clients: Get curious about what need the drinking is meeting. Relaxation? Decompression? Coming down from caffeine? Once you identify the actual need, you can meet it in a healthier way.

The dysfunction often serves a function. Understanding that is the first step to changing it.

01/12/2026

Over 30,000 people. 163 countries.

Grateful.

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