11/28/2022
Communicating Social Norms to Children | Blog | Child & Family
Relevant information, especially as families gather over the holidays.
Communicating Social Norms to Children | Blog | Child & Family
Subtle linguistic shifts can communicate social norms to children. Learn how social norms can be communicated & learned.
11/22/2022
The Story Behind Miss USA Cheslie Kryst's Su***de: Her Mother Speaks Out for the First Time
11/17/2022
This makes a ton of sense.
10/22/2022
Timeline photos
"I'm glad I understand that while language is a gift, listening is a responsibility." -Nikki Giovanni
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WORD FOR THE DAY - https://bit.ly/wordfortheday
09/15/2022
âI needed to hear everything you just wrote. The guilt is so heavy.â
One of my dear friends, who is navigating one of the toughest challenges life can deliver, said those words to me recently.
Guilt wanted her to think about everything her child was missing because of the major health challenges my friend is going through.
As fast as a pointer-finger texter can type, I fired this back:
âLet that sh*! go. Guilt has no part of this story - this is YOUR strong family narrative. Research proves time and time again that when kids watch their parents persevere through traumatic events, they develop the ability to trust themselves and be resilient in times of strife. I wrote a whole chapter on it in my fourth book, so believe me, I know what I am talking about!!!â
That message made her laugh⌠and exhale. She said she was going to revisit that chapter ASAP.
Iâd paraphrased one of my favorite sections in Chapter 4 of when I texted her this:
âRight now, your child is being given the gift of independence - kids cannot take that gift for themselves; it must be given to them. Although this isnât the way you wanted her to tap into her capableness and discover her inherent strength, that is what sheâs getting to do. And this is preparing her to overcome future obstacles with confidence.â
I am so grateful my friend reached out when Guilt was getting the best of her. By confiding our painful emotions in someone we trust, we are able to replace GUILT with GIFT and watch it become a life changer.
By Rachel Macy Stafford
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A photo from the book is underlined in orange pen & has blue rain drops around it. It reads:
âNow more than ever, we must accept the fact that independence is not something we can expect our children to know how to take for themselves; we must grant it. Providing an umbrella for teens to hide under might feel like the right move, but we have to know when to provide shelter and when to let them experience a little rain in hopes that it will better prepare them for larger storms.â -Rachel Macy Stafford
08/31/2022
The truth is â genuine connection is ease. It is peace. When you find it, you will know. You will feel seen, you will feel like you are being mirrored back to yourself, like you are discovering the shadow of your own heart in another human being.
Slowly, through loving the right people, you will come to realize that the human beings who are meant for you in this world will not exhaust you, or hollow you out, or leave you feeling like you are hard to love.
Slowly, you will learn how to lay down your arms. How to walk away from those who will only ever love you in halves. Slowly, you will learn that you cannot love someone into loving you, or being ready, if they are not. You cannot love someone into their potential. You cannot close their hands around your heart if they are not willing to hold it themselves.
You have to let them go.
You have to focus on the people in your life who bring you back home to yourself. You have to focus on standing up for that kind of connection, on honoring that calm, because it exists. It exists.
And I hope you learn to trust that, because when you come across it, when you ultimately experience it, it feels as if you are standing at a door you finally have the keys for. You enter it with ease. There is no fumbling through your jacket pocket trying to find the right way in.
There is no desperately reaching into your bag trying to uncover the point of access. You are no longer banging your fists against the door, asking to be invited in.
You walk through. Soundlessly. Softly. Relief washes over you. You take off your shoes. You hang your coat in the closet. You put on a pot of coffee.
Youâre home.
Youâre home.
~Bianca Sparacino
art | Claudia Tremblay
Midwives of the Soul
08/29/2022
Absolutely positively true.
A mom will text her twenty-year-old child, letting him know it's going to rain and not to forget an umbrella.
She calls to see how the first day of school separation went for her grandkids and if her daughter made it to the car before tears streamed down her face.
She watches her daughter's baby, so she can shower and take care of her postpartum body.
She texts her forty-year-old son, making sure heâs home safe from a wedding because knowing that is still the only way she can sleep well.
She buys her thirty-four-year-old daughter Wetzelâs Pretzels when she goes to the mall because she knows how much her daughter loves them.
And no, she no longer needs to do these things,
but she does them anyway.
Because a mother always wants to make life easier for her kids when she can
even when theyâre capable, responsible humans and can do all the things for themselves.
And she always wants to know theyâre safe.
Because mothering doesnât stop when her kids turn eighteen, move far away, or have their own kids.
It just changes.
Shared with permission from Living FULL
đ¸: Joolsannie Art
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08/04/2022
Timeline photos
Now, I follow you.
At first, I carried you. Then I walked beside you. Then I followed close behind. But now, I follow you from some distance. Iâve dropped back to where I belong at this particular mile marker of your journey.
Now, itâs time for you to take the lead and for me to trust I protected you well enough when I carried you and when we walked side-by-side for you to feel secure out in front.
But Iâm still here, and that helps us both. Iâm a few miles back, watching you do your thing. Watching you choose, navigate, figure out. You are capable, careful, and considerate. It is a privilege to see.
As an observer of your life, I am not displaced; I am in the right place. Iâm a text or a phone call or a FaceTime chat or, sometimes, an overnight drive away. Letting you go gradually is what helps you do it well and me to do it at all.
This is love that has loosened its grip. This is love that will always hold on, just more loosely. This is love that has an open palm outstretched, in case you need to grab onto it again.
This is love still at the ready, so that if you say, âAre you coming, mama?â as often as possible, for as long as possible, my answer will be, âYes, Iâm coming. Iâll be there soon.â
Love this Guilty Chocoholic Mama - Elizabeth Spencer
06/25/2022
On the day I die a lot will happen.
A lot will change.
The world will be busy.
On the day I die, all the important appointments I made will be left unattended.
The many plans I had yet to complete will remain forever undone.
The calendar that ruled so many of my days will now be irrelevant to me.
All the material things I so chased and guarded and treasured will be left in the hands of others to care for or to discard.
The words of my critics which so burdened me will cease to sting or capture anymore. They will be unable to touch me.
The arguments I believed Iâd won here will not serve me or bring me any satisfaction or solace.
All my noisy incoming notifications and texts and calls will go unanswered. Their great urgency will be quieted.
My many nagging regrets will all be resigned to the past, where they should have always been anyway.
Every superficial worry about my body that I ever labored over; about my waistline or hairline or frown lines, will fade away.
My carefully crafted image, the one I worked so hard to shape for others here, will be left to them to complete anyway.
The sterling reputation I once struggled so greatly to maintain will be of little concern for me anymore.
All the small and large anxieties that stole sleep from me each night will be rendered powerless.
The deep and towering mysteries about life and death that so consumed my mind will finally be clarified in a way that they could never be before while I lived.
These things will certainly all be true on the day that I die.
Yet for as much as will happen on that day, one more thing that will happen.
On the day I die, the few people who really know and truly love me will grieve deeply.
They will feel a void.
They will feel cheated.
They will not feel ready.
They will feel as though a part of them has died as well.
And on that day, more than anything in the world they will want more time with me.
I know this from those I love and grieve over.
And so knowing this, while I am still alive Iâll try to remember that my time with them is finite and fleeting and so very preciousâand Iâll do my best not to waste a second of it.
Iâll try not to squander a priceless moment worrying about all the other things that will happen on the day I die, because many of those things are either not my concern or beyond my control.
Friends, those other things have an insidious way of keeping you from living even as you live; vying for your attention, competing for your affections.
They rob you of the joy of this unrepeatable, uncontainable, ever-evaporating Now with those who love you and want only to share it with you.
Donât miss the chance to dance with them while you can.
Itâs easy to waste so much daylight in the days before you die.
Donât let your life be stolen every day by all that youâve been led to believe matters, because on the day you die, the fact is that much of it simply wonât.
Yes, you and I will die one day.
But before that day comes: let us live.
John Pavlovitz
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06/23/2022
I Was Unexpectedly Widowed at 29. Then I Found Out About My Husbandâs Affairs.
Powerful message about societal expectations and our expectations for ourselves.
I Was Unexpectedly Widowed at 29. Then I Found Out About My Husbandâs Affairs.
Society still holds tight to the worn adage of "never speak ill of the dead," which made it nearly impossible for me to share my story.
06/17/2022
Words were never truer.
If you want balance in your life, you want a Not-to-Do list.
04/26/2022
The Mountain Is You: Transforming Self-Sabotage into Self-Mastery
It's always exciting to see major spurts of growth in people that I've worked with for a long time. Today I caught up with someone I worked with when she was a teenager. She told me she read this book that was life changing.
It shows. She has learned how to manage jealousy and resentment in her relationships and she is so proud of herself.
For anyone who might need the same, here is the book she highly recommends.
https://www.amazon.com/Mountain-You-Transforming-Self-Sabotage-Self-Mastery/dp/B09WXLQM7J/ref=sr_1_1?crid=1JQ65X8R3P4Q6&keywords=the+mountain+is+you&qid=1650992352&sprefix=the+mount%2Caps%2C105&sr=8-1
The Mountain Is You: Transforming Self-Sabotage into Self-Mastery
The Mountain Is You: Transforming Self-Sabotage into Self-Mastery
04/15/2022
Our scenery tonight. Feeling kind of lucky.
04/07/2022
Another reminder to check on your strong friends - Christine Cashen reminds us to take action, trust your gut and to cut people slack. You just never know. Letâs be kind out there and stay connected.
âYOU TRULY DONâT KNOW WHAT OTHER PEOPLE ARE GOING THROUGH
Always assume positive intent. If someone hasnât been in touch with you, hasnât responded to your texts or is a bit âshortâ with you â give them the benefit of the doubt. Check in and let them know you are thinking of them without demanding a reason or questioning their absence.â
It was a year ago that I was undergoing chemotherapy and radiation.
What? Right?
Nuts.
They say you never know what people are going through. Here are the lessons I learned along the way:
https://christinecashen.com/2022/04/06/lessons-i-learned-from-cancer/
03/24/2022
The definitive look of pride - from a daughter to a mother.
03/15/2022
Mum makes news reports on son
01/07/2022
Photographer Captures People And Their Bedrooms To Show Their Different Ways Of Living
Fascinating portrayal of differences but maybe it is more about similarities.
Photographer Captures People And Their Bedrooms To Show Their Different Ways Of Living
Useful Information for Hobby and Professional Photographers.