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02/21/2026

𝐃𝐢𝐟𝐟𝐢𝐜𝐮𝐥𝐭 𝐞𝐦𝐨𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧𝐬 𝐚𝐫𝐞𝐧'𝐭 𝐣𝐮𝐬𝐭 𝐫𝐚𝐧𝐝𝐨𝐦 𝐟𝐞𝐞𝐥𝐢𝐧𝐠𝐬 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐧𝐞𝐞𝐝 𝐭𝐨 𝐩𝐮𝐬𝐡 𝐭𝐡𝐫𝐨𝐮𝐠𝐡 𝐨𝐫 𝐢𝐠𝐧𝐨𝐫𝐞. They're messengers giving you information about what's happening beneath the surface. Learning to decode them helps you understand yourself better.

Angry means something feels unfair or a boundary was crossed. Guilty means you may have acted against your own values. Insecure means you're comparing yourself to an unrealistic standard.

Discouraged means your effort isn't feeling worth it right now. Overwhelmed means too much is demanding your attention at once. Lonely means you're craving deeper connection.

Sad means you've lost something that truly mattered to you.

These emotions aren't the problem, they're the signal. Instead of trying to make them go away, ask what they're trying to tell you. Your feelings are data, not defects. Listen to what they're communicating about your needs, your boundaries, and what matters to you.

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02/20/2026

If you grew up being taught things like "Your partner loving someone else means they don't love you and you are deficient as a person", of course you would find polyamory an incredibly activating experience at first. These narratives don't disappear overnight, and live in your nervous system - so when you feel jealous or insecure, that's your body responding to protect you from something it was taught was threatening your survival.

To give an example: I often find that people with trauma around cheating (whether they were cheated on themselves, or witnessed the betrayal that can come from infidelity to someone close to them growing up) tend to struggle with polyamory more because both situations involve someone having multiple partners - the difference is that one is occuring in secrecy and betrayal, and the other is happening with full awareness and explicit agreement. You can logically understand your partner is not cheating on you but still *feel* like they are because of what the situation reminds you of. That's not a reason to project and lash out at your partner that they're a bad person (because they're not - they're doing what you agreed!) but it does explain the big feelings that can come up. That's okay!

This is where self-care and emotional regulation skills comes in. Find techniques that soothe your nervous system and put you in a state of calm. Find a healthy, productive outlet for your feelings instead of bottling them up and exploding. Then, talk to someone supportive and see what you can learn from the experience. Over time, it does get better.

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