How To Move On And Be Happy

14/06/2022

I got divorced today 6 years ago. Never in a milllllion gazillion years did I see this guy coming my way. If you are in the throes of being despondent or fearful that your road is closed to the love you always hoped and prayed for, just wait. A little longer. It will be worth the wait. I promise. 🤍

18/11/2021

is at it again. This is a great reminder for every relationship you have.

24/08/2021

Reposting from because it’s a good to check in every now and then.

09/08/2021

This was my mantra in the aftermath of my divorce. I spent a lot more time believing the top part than I’d like to admit…but eventually, with time spent feeding my soul with good things and hard truths, I whole-heartedly embraced the bottom half.

If this sticker resonates with you, let me know and I’ll send you one! DM me. 💕

21/07/2021

Right? But it’s sooooo hard. 🤯

01/07/2021

has such great posts and reminders…this is one of them.

There are sooo many things in my life that I ache for a redo on. Just one more chance to do the complete opposite…not get into that relationship, not go to that place, not be silent, not say that, not worry about that, not not not not.

I’ve convinced myself that everything would be perfect if I had that chance. But the truth is something else would have happened and 1. Maybe it would be be any better in my eyes or 2. Maybe it wouldn’t have led here. Maybe I would have missed all the lessons I needed to get to where I am right now, with the people I am with right now, with the perspective and knowledge and awareness I only have because of alllll that back there.

Humans are not robots, thank goodness. So let’s (talking to myself mostly) stop trying to be one?!

What makes our lives colorful and useful is the mess itself.

23/06/2021

This goes for those working through something too! You can’t muscle your way out of pain or hurry up the process (unfortunately).

Raise your hand if you needed to hear this!! (Confession: we did, too.) 💕 ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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11/06/2021

This was NOT a panic attack moment for me… was probably saying something embarrassing about me in front of a lot of people as is his favorite custom. However, this face and body language sums up what it feels like for me to have a panic attack. Mine aren’t overwhelming in the sense that I feel like I can’t breathe—that I’m used to!—and I don’t sweat profusely, etc. Mine come in this strange package. I can fake it to a certain extent, continue with whatever I’m doing. But inside, my stomach is flipping over like and waves of nausea haunt me. I immediately want to change locations and leave wherever I am. I want to go home or hotel if we’re traveling. And I can’t shake it on my own no matter how much pacing or deep breaths I try.

If you have anxiety, you might not share this exact scenario, but you get me. I share this because a. It’s way more common than I thought and it should be shared more often so that we can learn from each other and b. If you do not have anxiety or panic attacks of any kind, it’s helpful to know that it comes in a lot of flavors. You might be dating, married, best friends with, mother or father to someone who does and hopefully, you can start recognizing his/her specific signs and tells so that you can help get that person what and where he/she needs to go.

11/05/2021

I designed some new stickers. Let me know if one resonates with you, and I’ll mail it to you🤎

(Each is 3 inches)

27/10/2020

Two years ago today, I was en route to Vancouver with for his periodontics conference. That night, the sequence of events (including ripping my middle finger open on a razor while trying to grab another piece of jewelry before dinner, no bandaids in the hotel besides athletic tape, the balcony he planned to propose on being closed all of a sudden, and the slowest women doing the turn-down service poor Marcus could have imagined was in our room when he pivoted and took me back down there to propose next to the view of the harbor) was no deterrent for Dr. Blue. It was the most perfect proposal I could have ever asked for from the most perfect man God could have made for me.

I say this a lot but I mean it: if you are in a valley (understatement) and you can’t see your story’s next chapter being written on the other side of the mountain...it is being written. Never in a million years did I think I would have this kind of story to call my own.

Happy engagement anniversary, Marcus Blue! I 💙 you!!

19/06/2020

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09/05/2020

Sorry for the delay! Technical difficulties are never fun, but it’s been a valuable lesson: this is a podcast...if this is the worst of what have to worry about, it’s gonna be fine. So I can let some technical difficulties GO...oh, and all is well now! Go listen to step 3 on episode 4!