Emotional Wellness By Design

05/27/2026

Sometimes people rush to the top without taking the time to be a good follower…….
Young people pursuing a dream to own their own business, a young person rushing into ministry to be the lead Pastor, a college graduate thinking their degree they worked for entitles them to be a CEO…..

Not bad dreams or goals, but check the motivation of your heart to why you must have it immediately? What possible pride is driving it?

If you want to be your own boss that’s okay, but is it because working under accountability makes you feel controlled? Not validated?

If you feel called to ministry, that’s legit, but wisdom of God is waiting on Gods timing… look at King David… anointed as a teen, but the appointment wasn’t till his 30’s …. He was a man after God’s own heart and he battled and was mistreated by authority but reverenced to not touch God’s anointed because he followed and honored God’s Word in not taking matters in his own hands and trusted that God would deal with King Saul’s unruly ways .

Joseph sees his future leadership in a dream as a teen but it was 13 years of slaving and serving, and being mistreated, but he did it with a good & humble followers heart that did it honorably and with out complaints, respectfully to any and all authority above him…. His response as a follower was his test …..
Many good lessons are to be learned as a follower, and a good leader never forgets those lessons…. A good leader never stops being a good follower because he (or she ) is a representative and follower of God first and foremost

05/26/2026

Needs repeating…..

Don’t let someone else’s sin against you produce sin within you. We are not responsible for how others treat us, but we are responsible for how we respond. If the enemy can’t get you to partner with a spirit, he will try to provoke you through someone else’s sin to bring division. Don’t fall for his trap! We must make every effort to guard our hearts, pray for those who have wronged us, and choose to partner with the Holy Spirit in our response. Ask the Lord to give you His heart and His perspective so you can see rightly, not be hindered by a spirit of offense, and love others as Christ has loved you.

-Anonymous-

05/24/2026

The enemy rarely wastes energy attacking things that don’t matter.
So when you see marriage mocked, family divided, faith silenced, parenthood devalued, and commitment treated as disposable—it should wake you up, not discourage you.

These things are under attack because they carry weight. They shape generations, build stability, reflect God’s design, and protect what matters most.

Guard them. Fight for them. Honor them.
What the world tries hardest to destroy is often what heaven values most.

05/23/2026

No matter who the main fault holder may be in a conflict , you both are accountable and responsible to God first and foremost for your reaction/response.

05/18/2026

The core message of Titus 3:2 remains consistent across major Bible translations, though the phrasing varies to provide meaning:

(ESV): "To speak evil of no one, to avoid quarreling, to be gentle, and to show perfect courtesy toward all people."
(NIV): "To slander no one, to be peaceable and considerate, and always to be gentle toward everyone."
(KJV): "To speak evil of no man, to be no brawlers, but gentle, shewing all meekness unto all men."
(NLT): "They must not slander anyone and must avoid quarreling. Instead, they should be gentle and show true humility to everyone."

In this chapter, the Apostle Paul is giving instructions to Titus on how to guide the church in Crete. Historically, the Cretan culture was known for being deceptive and rebellious. Paul reminds believers not to adopt the hostility of their surroundings, but to represent Christ through their calm, respectable, and gentle behavior

Please keep this in mind when you are speaking on media platforms as a believer, and as a servant of Jesus Christ.

05/17/2026

Lately, with world events, it’s hard not to feel discouraged as a believer when we hear destructive voice vulturing from people you would think, or believe, were more optimistic and hopeful in their faith.
But instead, they end up being the most destructive voices, not realizing how that affects the “ unbelieving” watching on media platforms.

Ephesians 4:31 is a New Testament verse where the Apostle Paul instructs believers to “rid” themselves of toxic attitudes and destructive speech, including bitterness, wrath, anger, clamor (brawling/shouting), and slander, along with every form of malice.

Here is how the verse looks in the (ESV):
"Let all bitterness and wrath and anger and clamor and slander be put away from you, along with all malice."
Bitterness: Holding onto deep resentment or a hardened, unforgiving heart.

Defining these words:
Wrath and Anger: Explosive outbursts of temper and long-standing, simmering anger.
Clamor: Loud, disruptive quarreling, shouting, and brawling.
Slander: Speaking evil of others or gossiping to tear down their reputation.
Malice: The underlying desire to cause harm, ill-will, or spite toward someone else.

So , as a believer, if you’ve been in a bad habit of practicing these behaviors, only you can choose to break them.

Verse 32 goes on to share what appropriate, Christ like behavior is ….. again you choose!!
“Be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God in Christ forgave you." (NKJV)

05/17/2026

Jesus knew what it was to be lonely! But then He said, “Yet I am not alone, for my Father is with me” (John 16:32). Jesus knew what it was to be comforted even in the face of abandonment. When loneliness engulfs us, the first thing we must do is to turn our focus away from what we don't have to what we do have.

05/16/2026

05/13/2026

Anger is a completely understandable human response to oppositions.
But to let it fester and dwell, it can lead to irrational thoughts and more pain.
From there, our impulse control can go out the door & escalate and become reactive behavior.

Take a timeout for yourself when you feel this happening to collect your thoughts…..
Ask the Lord and Pray, “Lord why am I feeling this way and why does this trouble me?
He can help reveal the source if you let Him and if you are truly wanting to let it go….

Other people may have impact and trigger our painful feelings, but we are accountable to God in how we respond and resolve painful feelings