12/01/2025
“Shade never made anybody less gay.”
It’s just a song lyric… but it really got me thinking.
Throwing shade at someone who’s different from you doesn’t change them. If anything, it just makes them double down — definitely not cross over to your side.
And the more I thought about it, the more it connected to something bigger.
We see so much hate toward non-traditional relationships… at the same time we’re watching reduced access to birth control and even abortion bans.
Put all that together, and it starts to feel like some people believe the only valid purpose of a relationship is biological procreation — like love, connection, and partnership don’t count unless they can produce a baby.
But honestly? I think most people could be bisexual.
I think a lot of us are capable of loving a person for their soul, not just the body they happen to be in.
We’ve just been taught to fear or shame anything that looks different from our own experience.
And then we wonder why loneliness is everywhere.
Maybe it’s because we keep building barriers around the very thing we crave most: connection.