Brad Singletary, LCSW - People Can Change

05/16/2024

When you go with it, it goes better. Deal with your day accepting and not fighting every bad driver, every inconvenience and every unexpected disappointment or inconsiderate encounter. Even on the big things, you don't have to change your feelings, what if you just feel them? Roll with it. 🟧

05/12/2024

My Mama and my Baby Mama's. 🤩 Happy Mother's Day to three important women in my life.

June Bradshaw. She was so in love with my dad that they eloped to get married in Georgia where it was legal to be married when you're 17. They just celebrated 60 years together. She raised six kids, has a background in nursing, entrepreneurship, and became a licensed clinical social worker. She is very creative and fiercely competitive in cards and table games and is yet the sweetest soul you've ever met in your entire life.

Melody is my three older boys' mom. She's worked for Delta Air Lines for almost 25 years and is a spirited adventurer and has lived life in a remarkable way. She's taken my boys all over this world and shows up with passion, humor, and straight talk wherever she goes. My Jaydoggz have a wonderful mom. Its her best quality as a human being. I am thankful we have kindness between us.

Kara is a deep and caring soul. She is the best stepmom on the planet and has been a loving and involved mom to our two little dudes. Everywhere she goes she brings maternal energy, taking care of people and showing love wherever she shows up: Target, her job, neighbors, the homeless and takes advantage of opportunities to serve people ALL THE TIME. Although we divorced recently, we also have a cooperative and respectful connection.

I'm thankful for the sacrifices and influence these women have had on me and my studly sons. Happy Mother's Day.

05/01/2024

Trust yourself. You're a badass. 🟧

04/19/2024

In my professional work as a therapist, I do this 100% of the time, trying to understand people. They seek me out for that and I'm naturally drawn to try to understand people but the side effect of that gift or talent is my difficulty disconnecting from trying to gain some insight on people in my personal connections or even strangers.

I just don't need to know and that's one of the most liberating notions I've considered in a very long time. So like many of these things, this one is for me. Maybe this can also help you. 🟧

04/18/2024

04/17/2024

I encounter couples everyday who struggle because of these two elements. He isn't owning his world and she can't be vulnerable because it's scary.

So she closes off to him and he shuts down or over-exerts himself in domineering ways, just grasping for some respect. He needs *self-respect, and she needs *self-love. And they both blame the other for what they cannot give themselves.

All of the magic is in what you're not saying or doing, for you.

04/09/2024

I met with someone who was unable to save a life recently. Their guilt and second-guessing and feelings of insignificance and powerlessness were consuming. I realized that I've often felt the same on things far less severe but similarly impactful. This persons experience inspired me to look at myself more fairly, too. When the work I was trying to do didn't get me what I hoped would happen, it's easy to see it all like a loss. The victory is in the valor, not in the verdict. 🟧

04/09/2024

04/07/2024

You're talking to yourself anyway; might as well be nice. Be your own loving parent. Be your own best friend. Say the things to yourself that you wish other people noticed about you. Affirm your own worth and be the person who respects you the most.

04/06/2024

Just because your energy dips for a day or two or three doesn't mean you're in some depressive state. Sometimes you just need to eat and sleep and slow it down. Give it a minute.

When stormy weather comes, the metaphorical heatwave, the cold snap, the rain clouds, when funds are low, when major things are going on, don't get tripped out over feeling a little less than yourself.

It *might be perfectly normal for what you've experienced. If it lasts for weeks, that's a different story and we should talk.

03/28/2024

I had the coolest experience tonight. A member of my worldwide Facebook group for men told me that he was going to be in town for a work conference. I told him we could meet up after work for some tacos but at the last minute realized he might be a good speaker for my men's group. This is one of six groups that I run for men and this one was for the 18 to 25-year-olds.

I knew Chris from social media but it had never met before. I knew he had gone through some difficult times and we have talked on the phone before when things were particularly tough for him. So without really even knowing him I invited him to be a guest speaker and he gave a phenomenal message to these young men.

He shared his struggles with mental health, including a hospitalization for depression. He had a traumatic brain injury. Three of his four children have DiGeorges syndrome. He wears hearing aids in both ears. And he was recently diagnosed with cancer.

He came and shared how he is dealing with these things: with running, with gratitude, with believing in miracles, and with acknowledging the power that he still has over many things that he still controls. He lost 100 pounds. He is a leader and educator in his field. He is a living in pure alpha energy and is a light to those around him. Just yesterday he was on a podcast speaking on health for tradesmen.

I wish I would have recorded it. It was one of the most profound messages ever. His primary thesis was this: "You are the best person that someone knows." He taught these young men that they must value themselves and respect themselves. They must show up, and that whatever they are going through, they must talk about it. He cried and laughed. He was fearless and extremely insightful. What a natural leader and inspirational figure.

He talked about an inspiring change that happened when he had fallen during a half marathon with an injury. He saw a man carrying a sign that said "I believe in you." He was perplexed but inspired and began carrying the same sign himself.

This is now a friend. A brother. What an inspiration. What a warrior.

No Excuses. Alpha Up.

03/06/2024

That's it. That's the whole message.