By Design Birth Services

01/09/2026

📣 Calling any oversuppliers 📣

Our triplet babies could use some extra love and support through milk donations. If you are interested/able in potentially donating please message me. There are some conditions, but we would really appreciate any help.

01/06/2026

If you think a c-section is an easy way out…you’ve never had a
c-section

01/06/2026

Cool dads babywear! If you don't know how, your doula can teach you :)

01/05/2026

Hey, if no one has mentioned this yet, this may be something you want to think about.

So, many first time moms plan to go back to work and while that can be great, most WANT to stay home. Once you have that baby, you can't imagine leaving them! And then you find out that childcare can easily be $1,000 a month and staying home becomes an easier choice.

Is this every mom? No, some love boss babe life and that's great! But you SHOULD think over the possibility that your heart could change. We see so many first time moms planning to go back to work, only for everything to change once their baby is in their arms.

Having a plan can really help alleviate last minute scrambling. Likewise, if you do have to or want to return back to work, find a daycare BEFORE you go on maternity leave. The spaces are limited and cost is substantial.

Anyways, that's all, just something to think over 🥰

01/03/2026

Breastfeeding check, where you mamas breastfeeding from today?

01/03/2026

Birth may not be what you expect, and that's okay. It may be raw, messy, shaky, or loud.

It may come with moments of pain, tears, bursts of laughter, or feelings you didn’t anticipate. It may be quiet, gentle, or completely different from the story you imagined. You might feel powerful, vulnerable, overwhelmed, or amazed—all at once.

Every birth is its own story, and every experience is real and valid. There’s no single “right” way to give birth, and there’s no perfect script to follow. What you feel, how you react, and the way your body moves through it all is unique to you. Honor your experience, embrace the unexpected, and remember that even the moments that feel messy or chaotic are part of something deeply human and profoundly transformative.

01/01/2026

Have you ever heard of a Mermaid birth? It is one of the RAREST births to occur.

An mermaid birth or en caul birth (sometimes called being “born in the caul”) is a rare type of birth where the baby is born still completely inside the amniotic sac—the thin, fluid-filled membrane that usually breaks during labor (“water breaking”).

It can happen in vaginal births or C-sections, but it’s more common with C-sections. It’s very rare (estimated at fewer than 1 in 80,000 births).

Is it dangerous?
Usually no and in some cases (especially very premature births), it can actually be protective during delivery.

In some cultures and folklore, en caul births are considered lucky or special, but medically they’re just a rare variation of normal birth.

12/31/2025

Another shout out to Marisa Mead!

Last month her milk donations fed:
-3 NICU Babies
-1 Baby born at 4lbs who just needed a bit extra
-1 baby while mom was recovering by from mastitis
-1 baby while mom was navigating breastfeeding issues

And this is going to a mom who is heading into surgery.

THIS IS THE VILLAGE ❤️

12/31/2025

We need to talk about this DANGEROUS trend happening.. Knock out Bottles.

I hate that they’re talked about like some kind of parenting life hack instead of what they really are: a dangerous, outdated practice that survives by preying on exhausted parents.

The idea that a baby should be made so uncomfortably full they pass out is dangerous. Babies wake because their brains are immature, their stomachs are small, and their bodies are doing exactly what they’re supposed to do to stay alive. Waking is protective. Feeding frequently is normal. None of that is a problem—until adults decide it is.

Knock-out bottles are sold as a solution, but they don’t support development. They flood a tiny digestive system with something it’s not ready to handle. And when a baby goes quiet afterward, people call it success.

For breastfeeding parents, knock-out bottles can quietly destroy everything. They stretch feeds, reduce milk removal, and convince parents their baby is “sleeping better” while supply drops and confidence crumbles. Then when breastfeeding falls apart, the blame lands on the parent instead of the advice that set them up to fail.

This practice doesn’t respect babies. It doesn’t respect parents. It doesn’t respect science.

Babies are not problems to be shut down at night. They are not meant to be sedated with calories and frequent waking PROTECTS AGAIST SIDS. They are meant to be fed appropriately, held when they need comfort, and allowed to wake as often as their developing bodies require.

If an approach requires ignoring biology, dismissing hunger cues, and risking safety just so adults can get longer stretches of sleep, it’s not wisdom. It’s harm.

12/31/2025

‼DON'T READ THIS BOOK‼

Babywise is often recommended to exhausted new parents as a “solution” for sleep and feeding, but the truth is uncomfortable: it is not evidence-based, and it can seriously damage a breastfeeding relationship.

1. It prioritizes schedules over biology
Newborns are not wired for rigid schedules. Their stomachs are tiny and their feeding needs change constantly. Breastfeeding works best on-demand—feeding when the baby shows cues, not when a clock says it’s time. Babywise pushes scheduled feeds that ignore normal infant behavior and physiology.

2. It contradicts breastfeeding science
Milk supply is built through frequent, effective milk removal—especially in the early weeks. Encouraging parents to delay feeds, stretch time between feeds, or ignore hunger cues can lead to:

Decreased milk supply
Poor infant weight gain
Increased supplementation or early weaning

These outcomes aren’t “parent failure”—they’re predictable consequences of advice that clashes with how lactation actually works.

3. It promotes harmful interpretations of newborn behavior
Crying, cluster feeding, and frequent waking are not “bad habits.” They are normal survival behaviors. Babywise frames these behaviors as problems to be corrected instead of communication to be responded to.

4. It increases stress for parents
Babywise teaches parents to distrust their instincts and ignore their baby, which raises cortisol.

5. It lacks support
Modern pediatric and lactation guidance consistently supports responsive feeding, especially for breastfed infants. Babywise stands outside this consensus, relying on anecdote and ideology rather than high-quality research.

The bottom line is that breastfeeding thrives on flexibility, responsiveness, and trust—trust in your body and your baby. Babywise replaces that trust with rigid rules that often sabotage milk supply, infant growth, and parental confidence.

If a feeding philosophy makes breastfeeding harder, more stressful, or feel “wrong,” that’s not a failure of you or your baby—it’s a failure of the advice.

You and your baby deserve support that’s grounded in science, compassion, and how babies actually work.

12/30/2025

What Christie Donn said, Facts are not attacks ❤️ if you were ever needing additional lactation support, feel free to reach out😊

Breast milk is the safest and healthiest choice for babies during the first 6 months 🤱🏿👶🏿. It provides all the essential nutrients and boosts immunity.