27/03/2024                                                                            
                                    
                                                                            
                                            One of the first things I tell my families and clients - “I do not have a magic wand, if it were as easy as adding a magic strategy then we wouldn’t be here right now because you are already an expert” 
My role is to help YOU find what works for YOU. Sometimes it’s hard living in a country so heavily influenced by the medical model and the need to appease insurances. 
Guilt and shame robs us of joy. If you find something that makes your house run easier, that makes your home happier, that makes your night run smoother - you unashamedly DO IT!!                                        
                                    
                                                                        
                                        There is a lot of marketing these days focused on selling caregivers on feeling guilty and fearful, because then they can sell you the product or idea that will “fix” it. 
Maybe your family is eating the same few foods all the time, because right now you’re focused on prioritizing everybody feeling safe in their body. (Or maybe you just like those foods.)
Maybe your family is sleeping at unusual times, in unusual locations, or with all the lights on because you sleep more comfortably that way. Maybe you’re letting your kids do things they choose for themselves, because you’re prioritizing their desire for autonomy. Maybe you’re helping your kids with things that other parents would expect them to do by themselves, because you’re prioritizing their desire for connection. 
There are so many “right” ways to do things. AND, you don’t have to do absolutely everything “right”, either. Both of those statements are true in different ways, at different times. 
If you feel like you’re falling short of some standard, ask yourself where the standard in your mind came from. If it came from fear, maybe someone is selling that to you. Maybe there’s a way to let it go. 
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