08/31/2025
Too Much, Not Enough — and the Healing in Asking
A tender spiral resurfaced for me this week — the old wound of feeling both too much and not enough. Beneath it, the whisper of shame.
It came as I was integrating change. Old questions visited:
“Am I asking for too much?”
“Shouldn’t I just accept things as they are?”
But here’s what I remembered:
The healing is not in whether my request is met.
The healing is in asking — clearly, lovingly, without shame.
When I ask for what I need, I honor my truth.
When I accept that someone may not choose to meet my request, I honor theirs.
Both are sacred. Both are coherence.
A Simple Example
I asked someone close to me for more balance in feedback — not only corrections when things weren’t right, but also affirmations when they were. Vulnerable, yes. But whether they met me in it or not, the real healing was in releasing shame for even asking — and not collapsing if the answer was no.
What This Means for All of Us
It is okay to ask for what you need.
It is okay if others say no.
It is okay for you to say no, even if it disappoints someone you love.
Each of these moments is an opportunity to deepen our connection with others and with Source. In these tender edges, we remember: we are already enough, already held, already loved.
Reflection for You
Where are you holding back from asking for what you need, fearing you are “too much”?
Where are you saying yes when your truth is no, fearing you are “not enough”?
Both are invitations to deeper coherence — with yourself, with Love, and with those you walk beside.
“Coherence is not in the outcome, it is in the courage of showing up in truth.”
🔥 On September 1st we begin the 21-Day Coherence Stillness Practice inside The Hearth of Divine Coherence. For 21 days, we’ll gather in the simplest of ways — pausing, breathing, remembering, and resting in stillness.
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