Nikquan Lewis, MS, LMFT, LPC

Nikquan Lewis, MS, LMFT, LPC Relationship expert and licensed clinical therapist

2026 will be about deeper conversations and real transformation.And rooms where people feel safe enough to tell the trut...
12/30/2025

2026 will be about deeper conversations and real transformation.
And rooms where people feel safe enough to tell the truth.
Audiences who don’t need another motivational speech, they need tools that actually change how they relate, lead, live and love.
Teams that are burned out, disconnected, and tired of being talked at instead of supported.

That’s the work I do.

I help retreat hosts, conference leaders, and organizations create spaces where real conversations happen, the kind that build emotional safety, strengthen relationships, and shift culture long after the event is over.

If you’re planning a 2026 event and want more than applause, you want impact, integration, and transformation, my speaking calendar has some openings.
Let’s build something that transforms legacies.

The seasons change and so does your energy, your mood, and sometimes your relationship.Late fall hits. Winter settles in...
12/16/2025

The seasons change and so does your energy, your mood, and sometimes your relationship.
Late fall hits. Winter settles in.
Less sunlight. Colder days. Slower mornings.
And suddenly you’re loving your partner and needing space at the same time.
Less talking.
Less affection.
Less patience.
Not necessarily because the love is gone but because something deeper might be happening.
This is where Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD) shows up for a lot of people.

It’s real, it’s common, and it’s louder in the fall and winter when sunlight drops and our bodies feel it.
From a relationship lens, let’s name some truths:
• Depression can look like distance
• Silence can be exhaustion, not indifference
• Pulling back doesn’t always mean pulling away

How to protect the relationship during this season:
– Say what season you’re in mentally and emotionally
– Don’t assume, ask with care
– Create low-effort connection (walks, check-ins, quiet time together)
– Lead with grace, not pressure
– Normalize support, individually or together

This doesn’t mean your relationship is failing.
Sometimes it just needs more softness, more honesty, and more understanding.

December is Seasonal Affective Disorder Awareness Month; let’s name it and support each other through it.

The holidays hit different when your relationships with certain family members are complicated.And while your triggers a...
12/12/2025

The holidays hit different when your relationships with certain family members are complicated.

And while your triggers are yours to manage, you also get to decide who you stay in relationship with and how much access people have to you.
Choosing distance from people who’ve consistently shown you they can’t honor you isn’t avoidance, it’s awareness and wisdom.

Here’s the real truth:

🎁 Your boundaries still matter during the holidays. You don’t have to perform “togetherness” with people who don’t treat you well.
🎁 Emotional safety is not optional. If being around someone repeatedly leaves you drained, anxious, or disrespected, it’s okay to take space.
🎁 You’re not obligated to reenact old patterns. Growth may mean that you don’t sit in rooms where the younger version of you was harmed.
🎁 Self-love can look like staying home, resting, or choosing peace over tradition.
🎁 You’re allowed to create a holiday that supports the version of you you’re becoming, not the version people still expect you to be.

This holiday season, choose what aligns with your spirit.

Choose the relationships that feel healthy.
Choose the boundaries that feel nourishing.
Choose the peace that lets you breathe.
Your well-being is not up for negotiation friend, honor it like you want others too.

December is HIV/AIDS Awareness Month and it deserves more than a quiet post and a red ribbon.It’s a reminder to slow dow...
12/11/2025

December is HIV/AIDS Awareness Month and it deserves more than a quiet post and a red ribbon.

It’s a reminder to slow down, get informed, and take care of yourself and the people you love.
Here’s what everyone needs to know (yes, everyone; singles, partnered, dating, situationships, all of it):

• HIV is preventable. Using protection, getting tested, and having real, honest conversations about s*xual health matters.
• PrEP is available and powerful. You can take it as a daily pill or get it as a long-acting injection (frequency varies). Both options dramatically lower your risk, ask your provider what fits your life.
• Testing is quick, confidential, and part of grown-folks self-care. Knowing your status isn’t fear, it’s responsibility.
• Treatment works. People living with HIV can live long, healthy, beautiful lives with the right care.
• U = U. Undetectable = Untransmittable. When viral load is undetectable, HIV cannot be passed to s*xual partners. Facts > fear.
• Stigma is the real danger. Shame keeps people silent. Silence keeps people unsafe. Compassion keeps communities healthy.

Whether you're loving on yourself, loving on somebody else, or somewhere in between, your s*xual health is part of your whole-body wellness.
Let’s spread truth, not stigma. Knowledge saves lives. Conversations save lives.
You deserve pleasure and protection.

Sometimes the spark doesn’t disappear, it just gets quiet.Life, stress, resentment, kids, routines; they can drown out t...
12/05/2025

Sometimes the spark doesn’t disappear, it just gets quiet.
Life, stress, resentment, kids, routines; they can drown out the connection that used to feel loud and effortless.

But here’s what you should know:
Most couples don’t need a grand gesture. They need intentional, honest moments that say, “I still choose you.”
A simple, “I miss us,”or “I want us to feel close again,” can shift the entire energy in the room.
Then come the real rebuilders:
the phone-free dinners,
the honest check-ins,
the mornings where you actually look at each other instead of rushing past,
the moments where you both show up on purpose instead of autopilot.

The spark isn’t gone. It’s waiting on attention. It’s waiting on honesty.
It’s waiting on two people willing to prioritize their relationship again.
You can bring it back, softly, intentionally, and with heart.

Sexual Health Tip of the Week:Girl, can we talk? The holidays are here, and they’re supposed to be all joy, lights, and ...
12/04/2025

Sexual Health Tip of the Week:

Girl, can we talk? The holidays are here, and they’re supposed to be all joy, lights, and cozy vibes but sometimes they bring grief, old wounds, or just… heaviness. And you know what? That stuff shows up in our intimacy too. Feeling disconnected, not in the mood, or just plain tired during what’s supposed to be a romantic or sensual moment? That’s totally natural.

Here’s the tea: grief and stress are emotional energy drains, and they can sneak into our s*x lives. So let’s be gentle with ourselves. A few tips:

✨ Check in with yourself first – Are you craving s*xual closeness or just comfort? It’s okay if it’s one but not the other.
✨ Talk it out with your partner – Share how you’re feeling, without pressure or expectation.
✨ Redefine intimacy – It doesn’t have to be s*xual; a hug, holding hands, or even sharing a memory can reconnect you.
✨ Give yourself grace – Some days, pleasure looks like a warm bath or a cozy blanket instead of a bedroom scene.

Remember, your s*xual health is emotional too. Treat yourself like the queen you are grief, joy, and all. ❤️

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