Nikquan Lewis, MS, LMFT, LPC

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Nikquan Lewis, MS, LMFT, LPC

Relationship expert and licensed clinical therapist

08/08/2025

🖤 August is also Black Business Month 🖤

As a Black woman and intimacy therapist, I know firsthand how powerful it is when we invest in each other’s growth and wellness.

This month, let’s not just celebrate Black businesses, let’s support Black women entrepreneurs in every field, especially those in mental health who are holding space for our healing.

💬 Tag your favorite Black mental health professionals below so we can spread the word and build our circle of care.

Because when we pour into Black women, we pour into the whole community.

08/05/2025

August is National Breastfeeding Month, and as an intimacy therapist, I want to name something we don’t talk about enough.

Yes, breastfeeding can be a beautiful form of intimacy. It’s closeness. It’s nourishment. It’s bonding.
But for many women, it can also bring on exhaustion, overstimulation, and a big shift in libido due to hormonal changes.

You’re giving your body to someone around the clock and sometimes, that leaves little left for yourself or your partner.

Partners, here’s how you can show up in real ways:

🟣 Say what you see: “I notice how much you’re giving,” hits different than “You got this.”
🟣 Offer closeness without asking for anything back.
🟣 Respect how her body’s changed—don’t dismiss it, honor it.
🟣 Take over what you can without being asked.
🟣 Don’t rush her back to who she was—get to know who she’s becoming.

This season is special. And it’s real. Support her. See her. Hold her as well as the baby.

07/23/2025

Clinicians, let’s talk about the conversations we’re not having.

We’re trained to assess trauma, depression, anxiety, but what about s&xual health?

What about shame?
What about the Black women in your office surviving in silence?

This Saturday, I'll be in Plano, TX leading a powerful session at the Melanin Queens "You're Going To Want To Write This Down Behavioral Health Conference :

"Intimate Explorations: A Clinician's Guide to S&xual & Relationship Wellness For Black Women", designed for clinicians who are ready to do this work differently, with cultural care, clinical clarity, and tools that actually reflect our lived experiences.

We’re unpacking:
✨ How shame disconnects Black women from their bodies

✨ Why a lot of clinicians avoid discussing intimacy/s$xual health (and how to change that)

✨ How to assess s*xual wellness without reinforcing silence

✨ Real tools you can use right now, not just theory

Don’t miss this session if you’re ready to show up more fully for the black women you serve and yourself.

💬 Tag a therapist friend who needs to be in the room and hit me up if your therapists haven't gotten this training.

07/22/2025

Let’s talk facts...

More s*x won’t fix a lack of connection.

You can’t use the bedroom to avoid the boardroom of your relationship.
If y’all don’t feel emotionally safe, seen, or supported, then more s*x is just a distraction, not a solution.

So try this instead:

💎 Talk for real. Not only about your day, but about what’s working, what’s heavy, what’s been missing, and what you both want to feel.
💎 Touch without always expecting s*x. Intimacy isn’t always physical—it’s emotional first.
💎 Be present. Like actually present. Eye contact. Phone down. No distractions.
💎 Ask what makes them feel loved, not what you think it should be, but what they need. No assumptions

Connection is built in the moments that don’t always look s*xy- consistency, kindness, checking in without being asked.
That’s what keeps the fire from burning out.

More s*x isn’t always the answer. More intentionality is.

07/18/2025

Safety is the foreplay.

Before your body can say yes to pleasure, it has to feel safe; grounded, held, and in control.

Here’s how to create that kind of safety from the inside out:

⭐️ Learn your nervous system- fight, flight, freeze, or fawn. Awareness is the first seduction.

⭐️ Ground yourself- deep breaths, skin to earth, hand to heart.

⭐️ Set boundaries AND maintain them. Peace is protection.

⭐️ Touch with intention- self-massage, soft blankets, or slow hugs that feel like medicine.

🧘🏾‍♀️ Let pleasure lead the way. Your favorite glass of wine,, a slow stretch, a deep moan, start wherever your body says yes.

When your body feels safe, desire can grow.

And that’s where the magic happens.

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Houston, TX

Telephone

+13463062868

Website

http://intimateconnectionspllc.com/

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