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Onyinye obilor relationship and mental expert, intellectual entertainer and viral content. love, s*x, relationship. I believe everyone deserves to have love.
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experience the joy of love, and experience joy of having a great s*x with your partner you are legally married to, I will also guide you on the right way to start and maintain a healthy relationship that leads to a happy marriage. so if you have anything that is boarding you that you want to talk about just feel free to talk to onyinye the fixer , your identity will be hiding okay , your happiness gives joy.

5 WAYS TO AVOID WASTING A LADY'S TIME1) BE SURE BEFORE YOU ASK HER OUT It's very terrible to see a Brother in a Relation...
08/05/2024

5 WAYS TO AVOID WASTING A LADY'S TIME

1) BE SURE BEFORE YOU ASK HER OUT

It's very terrible to see a Brother in a Relationship, and when you ask him what he wants from the Lady and the Relationship, he can't give you a straight answer..

Which one is "I'm still thinking about it"

Thinking about it, on top 2 years old Relationship?

Be sure about her Ethnicity/Religion and how your family will welcome that first..

Be sure about your Genotype compatibility first.

Watch, Look at everything First, Physical, Social, Financial, Spiritual and otherwise.

Pray (Get your conviction)

Before you now ask a lady out, otherwise, you may end up wasting her time..

2) BE HONEST. (DON'T GIVE HER FALSE HOPE)

I counseled a lady some months back, uncle wasted her 2 years and was apologizing, will apology bring back her 2 years?

His Mother never liked the lady, but he kept assuring her that he could do something, that he would marry her, so she waited, in the end, he succumbed to his Mother and the lady was left to bite the dust.

Don't make Promises you can't keep.

3) LEAVE HER BODY OUT OF IT.

Yes Sir, don't go there at all.

S*x would complicate issues. Without s*x, your brain and heart will process what they want from her faster and do so unbiasely.

4) AVOID UNREALISTIC GOALS

I must buy a Car First

I must build a house first.

"I must do this, I must do that... " and she will enter Menopause, you will now be saying she's now too old for you, you want someone younger to marry. Fear God oh.

5) AVOID LONG COURTSHIP

Don't put a ring on a lady's finger when you are not ready to Marry her in a few months time, maximum a Year. Make God no vex for you.

Don't make any Lady Lord of the Rings. If you aren't ready, clear road for those that are ready.
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08/05/2024

If you find a woman, that her cookies can grip your pencil, don't let her go

9 HABITS A MAN SHOULD PRACTICE ON HIS WOMAN:1. Ki  *ss her when she least expects it. She'll feel wanted2. Tell her "I l...
08/05/2024

9 HABITS A MAN SHOULD PRACTICE ON HIS WOMAN:

1. Ki *ss her when she least expects it. She'll feel wanted

2. Tell her "I love you" in the middle of her talking to you. She'll end up smiling

3. Text her in the middle of the day just to tell her "I miss you". She'll feel thought of

4. Insist you will not start eating until she comes to sit down and you eat together. She'll feel special

5. Occasionally leave little notes of warm words under her pillow, on the fridge, in her hand bag or on her car seat. She'll feel cared for

6. Help her with house chores even without her asking. She'll feel part of a team

7. Touch/grab or rub her bum when she is cooking. She'll feel like a woman

8. Pretend you've forgotten her birthday then surprise her in the middle of the day with a gift. She'll feel excited

9. Occasionally give her mother a phonecall just to wish her a good day as her son-in-love. She'll feel surrounded by love

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08/03/2024

4 signs she's not into you My name is onyinye obilor
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08/02/2024

3 things to do when they start losing interest in you { or when they pull away }

07/29/2024

This video is an eye opener for all my single ladies {she really hit the nail on the head }a must watch for every single lady

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SAVE YOUR RELATIONSHIP FROM THESE SUBTLE BREAKERS Today, I want to talk about three subtle relationship breakers that of...
07/26/2024

SAVE YOUR RELATIONSHIP FROM THESE SUBTLE BREAKERS

Today, I want to talk about three subtle relationship breakers that often sneak into our relationships without us noticing. They're more than three but you know, because of space I had to select these ones.

The strongest of relationships can be grounded by any of these relationship breakers if allowed, but with awareness, we can overcome them.

Let's do this, shall we?

💥 PRIDE

Pride can be a silent destroyer. It's so subtle that most proud people don't even know they're proud.

It makes us believe we are always right and that keeps us from admitting our mistakes. It comes in different shades and it's very destructive.

Pride often leads to stubbornness, preventing us from truly listening to our partners and understanding their needs and feelings. It can also create a wall between us, making it difficult to connect on a deeper level.

Don’t let pride stand in the way of saying, “I’m sorry” when you're wrong or “I need help” when you're in need of a helping hand.

The next time you feel the urge to defend yourself or prove a point, pause and consider your partner’s perspective. It's pride that makes some people to think they're doing their partner a favour.

💥 ASSUMPTION

Assumptions can create misunderstandings and unnecessary conflict. When we assume what our partner is thinking or feeling, we often get it wrong.

This can lead to hurt feelings and arguments that could have been avoided with a simple conversation. Instead of guessing, communicate openly.

Ask questions and listen carefully to the answers. Clear communication builds trust and prevents the confusion that assumptions bring.

Assumption is the mother of frustration in relationships.

When you choose open communication over assumption, it shows that you value your partner’s thoughts and feelings, and it helps both of you to stay connected and aligned.

Make it a habit to check in with your partner regularly. There's no point trying to figure out things in your mind when you can simply ask your partner and listen for clarity.

💥 COMPARISON

Comparison is a thief of joy and contentment. Only fools compare their partners with other people.

It’s easy to look at other couples and think they have it all together, but every relationship has its own unique journey. Comparing your relationship to others can create dissatisfaction and unrealistic expectations.

Comparison is a sure recipe for unrest and tension in a relationship.

Focus on what you and your partner have built together. Celebrate your own milestones and growth, don’t let comparison diminish your appreciation for your relationship.

Remember, social media often shows the highlight reel, not the behind-the-scenes reality.

Keep a gratitude journal for your relationship. This is simple but you'll be amazed at the number of things you have to be grateful for in your relationship.

Write down things you appreciate about your partner and your shared experiences. Reflecting on these positive aspects can help you stay grounded and thankful for what you have.

As I wrap up, let's strive to replace pride with humility, assumptions with clear communication, and comparison with gratitude.

Relationships require effort, patience, and a willingness to grow together. By doing so, we can strengthen our relationships and foster deeper connections.

With God’s grace, we can overcome these subtle breakers and build a love that lasts and stand the test of time. Marriage is truly beautiful when you marry correctly, it's not cliche. 😊

This is just a counsel, you can do with it as you please, but remember, if you know these things, you'll be blessed and happy in your relationship if you do them.
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24 PHONE USE RULES FOR COUPLES:1. Don't make a habit of putting your phone on silent mode or turning it off each time yo...
07/26/2024

24 PHONE USE RULES FOR COUPLES:

1. Don't make a habit of putting your phone on silent mode or turning it off each time you're with your partner. It makes you look like you are hiding something

2. Save your partner's phone number using a special title like "Hubby", "Love", "Wife", "Sweerie". Or save using a title plus the official name. Using the official name only makes your partner look like just the other contacts on your phone

3. Answer your partner's phone call with loving affectionate words like "Hi love", "Hey honey". How a conversation starts detetmines how it flows. If you start warm, you two will enjoy talking with each other on phone

4. End the talk on a high. Say "I love you", say a joke, a compliment, a warm phrase before you hang up. Hang up with a smile

5. It is OK to chat with friends online. But never chat with another person more than you chat with your partner

6. If you will be busy, notify your partner you will not be able to pick up calls or reply texts promptly. Inform your partner what you will be doing and approximately for how long. This prepares your partner and brings peace because your partner will not feel ignored

7. Flirting on phone is good but only flirt with your partner

8. Tell off people who try to flirt with you, entice you and charm you on phone. Let them know that you are taken

9. Take lots of photos and videos together to capture moments. You will need those pics and videos in future as you look back

10. When you go out on dates, keep the phone away, minimize phone use so that you focus on each other

11. Don't make a habit of walking away from your partner to answer phone calls. Your partner will perceive you are hiding something or having an affair. Love is about perception

12. After the date and you don't live together; man, call her up and check on her, tell her you got home safe; lady, send him a text, thanking him for a wonderful time

13. Unless it's an emergency, when you can't reach your partner and you probably know he/she is at work or doing something; don't keep calling and texting desperately. You will only look like a nag to your partner and that will make your partner detest phone contact with you. Relax, your partner will see your missed call and text

14. When you see a missed call or text from your partner, please call back or reply as soon as you can. Put your partner at ease

15. Save your partner's phone number as an emergency number to be contacted incase something happens to you and your phone is locked

16. Avoid fights and arguments over the phone, they are difficult to manage and leave a bad feeling when you hang up, thus negatively affecting how you two relate. Talk about serious issues that are volatile face to face

17. When your partner offends you or you two aggrevate each other, never refuse to pick up your partner's phone call. That only makes matters worse. Keep the line of communication open so that you work things out. If you can't talk at the moment you are hurting, just pick up the call and say "I can't talk right now" and your partner will understand

18. Inform your partner when and why you need to turn off your phone when you two are apart. Keep your partner from worrying

19. When you two are having fun together, it is good to celebrate your love online but don't post too much about your lovelife. Some things are best kept private. The world doesn't have to know every detail of how you love each other

20. When you two are having problems, don't vent about your partner directly or indirectly on your social media posts

21. Don't let your partner get news about you from social media like your online friends. Tell the news to your partner first, and then post online

22. If your partner tries calling you but your line is engaged, explain who you were talking to. If someones calls you when you're with your partner, say who it was. Transparency and clarity enhances trust

23. Remember it is both your role to communicate. None of you should feel he/she is forcing a conversation or is doing much of the talking. Communication takes two

24. Put away the phone when your partner needs your undivided attention, especially in the bedroom. Don't be intimate, holding your phone, more than you hold your partner

Phone use can affect your relationship/marriage negatively or positively. Be smart as you use your smart phone.

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07/22/2024

THIS video is for those men that are crying on social media, that women of this days don't have respect for men
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2 WAYS TO TEST THE AUTHENTICITY OF LOVE When things are going well for you, anyone can claim to love you.Success attract...
07/21/2024

2 WAYS TO TEST THE AUTHENTICITY OF LOVE

When things are going well for you, anyone can claim to love you.

Success attracts many friends but failure is an orphan.

Therefore, you have to subject every love to test to determine their authenticity.

📌How do you test love?

👉Subject it to the test of sacrifice

Sacrifice is the ultimate test of love.

Sacrifice means to deny yourself of something, to let go of something valuable, to go out of your way for someone, to spend yourself at the expense of another person.

Consider these questions...

✅ How much is the person willing to sacrifice for you?

✅Can he or she deny himself or herself of something valuable for your sake?

✅Have she or he gone out of his or her way for you before?

✅ When you are not able to provide for her financially as a result of being broke, will the love still be there?

✅ When you lose your job, will she still be there for you?

✅ When you are down health wise, will the love still be there?

✅ When he asks you for s e **x and you decline because you believe in no s e **x till marriage, will he still continue with you?

✅ When you find yourself in a very difficult situation, can he or she be there for you especially when the person has the ability and capacity to help?

If the person is not making any sacrifice for you, forget it, the person is there for what he or she can benefit from you before leaving.

👉Subject it to the test of time

Another way to test the authenticity of love is to subject it to the test of time.

Nobody can cover pregnancy forever.

✅ He says he loves you with all his heart, you are his morning star, sunshine, sugar in the tea, butter in the bread and his one and only woman, there's no problem.

Give it time.

Time will prove it.

✅ She says she loves you, you are her world and you mean everything to her. Without you she cannot live nor survive. You are her oxygen and life-force.

There is no problem.

Give it time.

Subject it to the test of time.

Time is a revealer.

With time things will come to light.

Someone once said, "No mask can be worn forever. Give people time. Their mask will fall. Until then, don't marry or do business with them. Stay loving, but be alert."

Don't rush things.

Give it time.

Time is a revealer.

Time will reveal if the love is real or not.

With time you will come to know if the person is saying the truth or lying.

Love perseveres and love is long-suffering.

Stay loving, but be alert

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Final writing for today, and it’s only for women. If you’re not a woman, please scroll past this.Ladies, you need to und...
07/21/2024

Final writing for today, and it’s only for women. If you’re not a woman, please scroll past this.

Ladies, you need to understand that many young men today aren’t looking for commitment. They know how to play you into thinking you are in a relationship with them so that you start doing relationship things with them.

I’m sick and tired of women coming to me to express their disappointment and heartbreak each time a man they’ve been doing relationship things with tells them they are just friends after many rounds of s*x and wifely duties. I can’t wait to start my only-female community where myself and other sound women will spill some real truths and facts for you. Many still don’t understand that everything in life is played by rules, and rule players are the ones who get away with many things.

Listen to me, men aren’t dumb, men aren’t stupid, and when they want something, they don’t waste time speaking up and giving you clarity. They know the women they just want to keep around as placeholders until they find the woman of their dreams.

Hear me, if a man never once opened his mouth to tell you that he wants you to be his girlfriend or that he wants you to be his woman officially, know it for a fact that you both are nothing but friends, no matter what he does or says to you.

He will give you really nice gestures; he’ll call you the most beautiful woman in the world. He may even call you his wife and use all the endearment and lines used by the Bridgerton lovebirds. He will send you good morning messages and even send you goodnight messages. He will tell you he loves you, he will tell you no woman comes close to you, he will even take you out for lunch or dinner dates, but he will never give a title to what you both have going on. Then you start to think of him like the prince in a novel because he’s telling you what you want to hear. You’ll even start to feel guilty for not sleeping with him due to all the adoration he’s been pouring on you. All he’s saying holds no ground until he pops the question for you to be his official girlfriend. Keep that at the back of your mind.

Then you’ll start to spend time at his house, spend the night with him, sleep with him, and even start to wear his polo shirts. You’ll be posting his fingers or the back of his head, assuming a relationship with a man who never requested one. The day of tears is coming, my darling. Men are that manipulative when it comes to getting a woman they can sleep with, and surely, there are women who are that dumb and will start to imagine a relationship with every man who shows them little kindness.

Then one day, you ask him, “What are we?” He’ll either get angry, tell you you are his babe, ask you to go with the flow, tell you that he’s getting to know you, or say you guys are in the talking stage. You’ll thrntfeel heartbroken.

How to save yourself from this unnecessary drama is to ask a man who’s behaving like this what he wants from you as soon as you notice. Don’t ever play dumb with a man, as he’ll also play dumb with you. They want friends with benefits, and unless you’re up for that, never go with the flow with any man who never comes straight with what he wants but does relationship things with you.

“I want you to be my girlfriend” is not the same as “I thought you already knew what we are doing” or “You are my girlfriend” from a man who never once asked you to be his girlfriend. That is nothing but talk. You must hear it from the mouth of a man that you both are officially an item and in a serious relationship.

Don’t get yourself hooked with a man who has a way out already. That is what I’m dealing with now. She saw his wedding invitation, and when she confronted him, he said they were only having fun, fun for a whole year! I asked if he ever asked her to be in a relationship with him, and she described the above behavior without any moment of clarity and then I pointed out where she faulted.

Don’t be blinded by your emotions and benefits no matter how good they may seem, ask for clarity so you don’t waste your time with a time-waster.m big if you’re down for such play moments, go ahead.

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A MAN SETTLE where he finds PEACE. Not BEAUTY, not STATUS, not MONEY, but PEACE ✌️✌️..I don't agree with this.. A MAN SE...
07/20/2024

A MAN SETTLE where he finds PEACE. Not BEAUTY, not STATUS, not MONEY, but PEACE ✌️✌️..

I don't agree with this.. A MAN SETTLES where he wants to SETTLE not necessarily because you give him PEACE OF MIND. Nothing keeps a man who doesn't want to be kept. To the WRONG MAN even your PEACE will look like TROUBLE to him. Is so funny Men always say they WANT a woman who gives them PEACE yet they are the ones giving TROUBLES..

Most MEN don't care about your SACRIFICES, they are just LOYAL to their FEELINGS.. What most men interpret as PEACE is that you should be able to tolerate nonesense, abuse and allow them to CHEAT IN PEACE. They don't want ACCOUNTABILITY, COMMITMENT and RESPONSIBILITY.

Being a good woman with character doesn't keep a MAN..

Being a good cook doesn't keep a MAN..

Being a pornstar in bed rotating 360%, giving him wheelbarrow style, lizard style and snake in the monkey shadow style will only break your spinal cord and waist, that still doesn't keep a MAN.

Being a woman of peace BAPTIZING him with PEACE OF MIND doesn't keep a MAN.

WHAT SETTLES a man is himself when he FEARS GOD, is disciplined and respect his woman enough to settle with her. To the WRONG MAN even at your best you still won't be good enough, but to the RIGHT man at your worst you will be worth it because he values you, respect you and appreciate you.

My brothers, you cannot keep being an HURRICANE to your WIFE, CHEATING, DISRESPECTING and ABUSING her then expect her to give you PEACE. When you love and treat your woman right, she become legally blind to the world, she sees only you and will worship you, giving you PEACE will flow effortlessly and naturally from her. PEACE is EARNED NOT DEMANDED. The way a woman treats her man will always be a reflection of how the man treats her.

THERE WILL BE NO PEACE FOR THE WICKED..

In conclusion, a God fearing man settles where he finds peace, a lot of bad women destroys good men too. It takes a good woman to know a good man
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5 THINGS MORE VALUABLE THAN A WOMAN'S BODYDear Bachelor, If the major Reason you are marrying a lady is because she has ...
07/20/2024

5 THINGS MORE VALUABLE THAN A WOMAN'S BODY

Dear Bachelor,
If the major Reason you are marrying a lady is because she has a big frontal package aka Manchester united and a big behind aka Arsenal, then You are not in LOVE

No matter what you think, if all you see is her physical assets then You are LOST in LUST.
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Here are 5 things that will matter more to any Man after Marriage than those things that naturally pull Men to Women.

1) PEACE OF MIND

Before you marry any lady, first and foremost, does she give you peace of mind?

Does she have the capacity to give you peace of mind?
Some Men don't stay at home because of the woman they married.
They rather sleep in the office or at a friend's place because they married a warrior at home.

Their homes now a war zone, the woman comes and puts enmity between the man and his family members. Everywhere War.

That she has a BIG CHEST doesn't guarantee she'll give you BIG REST.

If you marry a woman for those things, and she turns out to be a troublesome woman, you won't even feel attracted to her.
You will hate her and those things that attracted you to her. So find out first.

2) SUPPORT

Few years from now and you'll be faced with trials and battles as a Man and you'll need the support of your wife,

The kind of support not offered by her body.

The kind of support offered by her brain, by her hands, by her spirit, by her account balance, by her knowledge and exposure.

ASS is not ASSET

The Best ASSETS of a woman are not Physical.

Can she support you in prayers?
Can she support you financially?
Can she support you physically?
Can she support you with ideas, counsel?
Can she build with you?

3) HOME KEEPER

A Woman who can't keep her home.

Who can't be the boss at home and marshal the resources of her husband and her own and that of the kids to turn a house to a home,

A Woman who is out on Fridays to party and comes home drunk.

A Woman whose home is as dirty as a refuse dump.

You will take a look at all her big big assets that made you to marry her and suddenly, what you will see are big big liabilities..

4) COOPERATION

If there's anything any Man should not joke with, it's how cooperative a lady is to him,

That will determine a lot of he will succeed or not.
How she embraces his vision,
How she shows capacity to be SUBMISSIVE, OBEDIENT and LOYAL.

There are ladies (even in the church) who hate Authority, the word "submission" repulses them.
They are naturally disobedient, stubborn, rebellious, and self governed.

Marry such a woman, even if her chest is bigger than River Niger, her waist curvier than a Coke bottle, and her back as large as the Congo basin, I give you one year (if you can bear for that long) you will regret marrying her. You go run.

5) CARE/LOVE

A Man will always one day need his wife to play the role of a LOVER and on other days a MOTHER

To care for him.
To watch over him like a baby.

And when you finally realize that the Woman you married doesn't have a motherly nature,

When she's heartless and as cold as steel.

You will understand why our people say that "kakhi no be leather."

So check now,
How does she treat children, how does she treat elders.
How does she look after you
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This is not me trying to condemn any Woman because she is bigger in some areas than other Women.
I'd never do that.

This post is to my kings

This is me simply saying to my kings
"Look at but also Look BEYOND a Womans Body and Beauty"

Pls share to educate others

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